Men Are Scared Of Women In 2026 | One54

The dating scene hasn't changed for me from before I was on television. Like, it's been the same. Men are a lot more passive in my experience. They're a lot more passive. They're looking for, why? Why and how? Make sure you know the better question. Oh, how? Jail. One, like I said, they don't take initiative. Like, gone are the days where a man will be like, hey, you know, I like, I think you're beautiful. I wanna, I wanna get to know you. Courting. Yeah, courting. They don't court anymore, right? That's number one. They don't wanna go. Yeah. Number two, um, this is so goofy. What am I even trying to say, bro? I'm just saying, there's that court. I don't like that word. I mean, I'll take a point. And people wanna hunt it. It's you as an NFL guy, with all the professional athletes getting taken to the ******* bank by a lot of some of these women, scallywags, you know, divorcing to get money, getting babies to get money. That leaves a big impression. Like, God, if I see a pretty girl, is she pretty and is she trying to take me? Or does she have her own? Like, does she have her own? She isn't about that. It's like, what we see on TV is, it leaves a stain in society. Like, I'm afraid of these women now. Cause I wonder how, like, how does that culture change? And do you feel like culture has changed so much, like the pendulum has swung so far to one side that it's produced a lot of the passive men? Because I think a lot of men, like, if you come on strong, like, oh man, he was aggressive or he's toxic or he's like, so there's this like, where's the get? No, it's not black and white. It's not like either you come off strong, you're a man or you're toxic. Like, there's gray areas in all of this, right? There's a right way and a wrong way to do some things. Like, you can still come off, like, I don't wanna say strong. Yeah, you can still come off strong in a way that's not gonna scare off the woman. Like, for example, that first dude who was in my DMs, some can consider that coming off strong, but to me, at least it wasn't scary. It was like, all right, he gave me an option. Like, do I wanna go on a date with him on this day at this place? You know what? I don't got nothing to say. But some women would be like, can you believe he asked me? Yeah, but that's, everybody is different. So you have to figure out who you're talking to, what language she understands, and how to speak her language in order to communicate with her. Like, that's part of, honestly, not even just man to woman, that's part of just being a human. Like, there's different ways to communicate with someone. So, like, you, I can tell that you're a direct, straightforward person. I could go to you and be like, Godfrey, honestly, this haircut is not for you. Try something else. Try something new. And I feel like you wouldn't take that as offense. You'd be like, what you mean? Oh, you know what? I could try a different haircut. And then you try a different haircut. Where I can come to you, and maybe you're not as like, like, I don't care, I just want it directly. Let's say you're a little softer. You're like, mm, I'm not liking the bald. And then you could take it as like, oh my gosh, she thinks I'm a bald-headed demon. Like, you know, you could take it some other kind of way. It just, if I know you and I've rapported with you, I understand like, okay, this is how Godfrey communicates. This is how you communicate. And if I know how you communicate, then I know how I'm able to effectively speak your language. Because at the end of the day, a message is only as good as the, wait, a message is only as good as the recipient is able to understand it, right? So if, exactly, if I'm not speaking your language in a language you understand it, then we're not communicating. So let's try to break down some of these ideas and stereotypes. Like when it comes to 50-50 relationships, like what are your thoughts on like a 50-50 relationship? As far as usually money. Like what are my thoughts? Like if you're going out and you're going on a date, like. This is a marriage? No, this is a relationship. Just going on a date. What kind of relationship? Dating. This is a date? Yeah. Okay, we're going on a date? Yes. Yeah. He's paying. 100%. Okay. My father told me that. He's paying 100%. You pay. Even if it's not, a date didn't go well. Got a story. Real quick. Tell us. I was on a date with this girl, fine, I'm gonna do. I was like, well, plus she was a performer, so it's, you know, it's a little weird. Performers are fucked up. So I was like, so I, you know, DM'd her. Hey, what's up? We back and forth talking to her. Let's go on a date. Now, I went on a date about two, three times with her. That was like something ain't right, you know? So then I went on another date with her. She had gone out of town and she was like, Kate, can you come in Manhattan? I'm in Manhattan. She's in Brooklyn. Deep in Brooklyn. And usually if you're in Manhattan, you ain't going to Brooklyn. And vice versa. Yeah, yeah, or vice versa. You don't leave your borough. So I was like, okay, I'll come down there. She was like, I want to see the, I go over there. Sitting there, we had a vegetarian restaurant. She tricked me. Vegetarian is crazy. I was like, and I'm a foodie, so I'll try whatever, you know? So, and then the waiter, me and him are having a good rapport. So we're having a little fun. And I was like, making fun of her. I said, oh man, you didn't tell me there was no meat here, man. What the hell am I going to eat? You know, I'm joking with her. Like, we've always joked about that. I always make fun of her vegetarianism. She had an attitude that day. She just flipped on me. I wasn't sure. Because if I know you, there's a rapport we have. And then you flip on me. I'm like, whoa, wait a minute. No, it's not funny today. And you don't want to call me out here. I was already tired. I had just come into town. And I went all the way over there. And she was being, and then I, this is what I did. You know? I was like, yo, you're like a today. You're, I can't do this anymore. I said, you're acting up. You switched on me. I traveled all this way. I got it. I'll pay for it. I'm out of this, ma. I never saw her again. I was out. I was like, this is bull. Well, you flipped on me. You could at least say, hey man, today, I'm not going to be great. But you asked me to come. I never go where I'm not wanted. I don't do that to myself. I'd rather be my motherfucking self than be with someone that don't want me around. And I'm not, I'm not, first of all, I'm not a bothersome dude. I'm not that dude. I never was like that. But when you make me feel like that, we're going to have a problem. And I'm going to shut it all down. I'm going, yo, what is, what the **** is this? Like, and the waiter was like, hey, I remember he was like, I was like, I'm out. Yeah, it was like this. It's like, this is ridiculous. Like, I'm like, I'm out, man. I paid for it. Like my boss always said, no matter what, you be the man. I said, I'm going to leave here. I came a man, I'm leaving a man. You can tell your friends whatever the **** you want. I don't care. And if they ever had me tell, tell them about you, don't worry. They're going to get a whole mouthful. But you know, that's, it's like, that's, but that's, this is a strong man. But that's the, but I'm not a man. Is there a match? Is there a match here? But I'm a, the thing about me is I'm a gentleman. Cause I was taught that I'm a good, I'm a nice guy, you know? But there's that, and that's just Nigerians in general. We will be nice first. But then when you go, hey, what, wait, you, you questioning my, nice doesn't mean dumb. Right. And my pops, I go, I look at my parents married 40 something years. My father never disrespected my mother. Never raised her hand. His hand or his voice to my mother. My mother didn't disrespect my dad. It was always a, you know, that, ask your father, ask your mother. So you going, you're going to disrespect me. And I saw a man that was never disrespected. We ain't talking to me crazy. I don't care. I'll sink this whole ship. That's me. I don't care because I'm still dope. I don't, I'm really care. All you're going to do is, he was mean to me. I go, yeah. And I'll say it to all you. I don't care. There's too many women on this planet, but what? I think because in relations, we all have expectations. I'm, I'm interested to even hear your, your thoughts on this and what your expectations are. Yeah. Holly Berry's ex-husband, Dave Justice. That was a weird one. Yeah. He was, he came out and he was talking about how, you know, Holly Berry wasn't, you know, she didn't cook. She didn't clean. She didn't have to. I was like, she was Holly and Barry. I would have been totally on that brands. Do you, what are your thoughts on gender roles? If you want gen, if I feel like a man that wants a traditional woman has to be a traditional man. Like you can't say, Oh, I want you to be a, you got to cook. You got to clean. You got to suck my when you want it. You got to do this. That's a traditional woman. Like you can't say as a man, wait a minute, hold on. What's wrong with that? Listen, what's wrong with that? Listen. I just, I didn't want to know. I'll tell you what's wrong with it. Okay. What's wrong with the, with the, with the head job. What the hell? Do my laundry and give them a foot. Okay. Go ahead. I'm sorry. I was agreeing with. I said that if you want a traditional woman, you have to be a traditional man. If you know you want a woman to adhere to those traditional roles, then you have to be the provider. You can't be like, Oh, I want to be in a 50, 50 relationship, but I also want you to do all the cooking. I also want you to do all the clean. I also want you to suck my when you want, when I want you to, but also you have to do 50, 50. You have to contribute 50 to the household. You'd have to contribute 50 to the bills. That doesn't make sense at this point. It's like, okay, so this, this group project, this is a group project where you want me to do 90% of the labor and you just want to write your name on it and get the credit. No, we're not doing that. So that's how I feel in terms of gender roles. Like I feel like if you want to, if you want a traditional woman, you have to be a traditional man. If you don't want to be a traditional man, then you can't expect to have a traditional woman. If you don't want to be the kind of man who's a soul provider, you want to be in a 50, 50 relationship and you want to find you a 50, 50 woman, then know that in that 50, 50 relationship, then you two are going to have to cook it in the cleaning. Yeah. And when I want you to do what the you got to do when you got to do it, you want to munch the cause I'll be like this. I like 50, 50. I'm sorry. What? Is that gross? Sorry about that. And that's the noise you make. What's your alpha? What? Would you ever in a fraternity if I pledged? I would have been Omega. Yeah. He would have been a Q for sure. A Q dog. On my campus. That's actually what I wanted to. I wanted to pledge Omega. No, you would have been a Kappa. You think so? Yeah. On my campus, it's the Kappas and the Qs that I have. He would have been a Q. You would have been a Kappa. The Alphas. But the Kappas and the Omega's on my campus, it was because of Shaq. Shaq, when I was growing up, like that was like, Michael Jordan, Shaq, built everybody Omega. And my friends, my co-host on my podcast, he's Omega. Dante, he's Omega, like hardcore. And they know like, you should be like honorary Q. I said, well, let me know dog. Cause yeah, Omega, I would have been. Ain't nobody beat up. I was going to get beat up by nobody. Yeah, I ain't getting smacked today. I thought he would have done like a fly little. A little dab. That Kappa thing, this thing. No. I like the ones when I'm hitting the king, the sling, and the king. He's a Kappa. He's a Q. Yeah, the Qs, they haven't changed. You would have been what? One of the skee, skee, or whatever? Delta. No. I think I would have been a Delta. Because I did, I did go to, when they were tabling for it in college, I went to the AKA table and they were such, they were so nasty. They're the first, because they're. I don't know. They were. They're the first sorority, the oldest sorority. And also, the Deltas came out of the AKAs. They used to be, they were former AKAs. The 22 founders. So they're the remixed. So they're. 2.0. So the AKAs are like, we are the original. No, the AKAs. We are the 24. The AKAs was too big for they britches, is really what it was. Oh really? They was too big for they britches. AKAs are. At least in my school, they was just. Like damn, can y'all relax? Yeah. Not friendly at all. We had a divine nine. And I, I dated like AKAs. I dated Deltas. It depended on black women. I didn't give a ---- what sorority they were in. But you know, we had Zeta, Zeta Phi Beta. We had Sigma Gamma Rho. We had Q's, Kappa's. We had Iota Phi Theta. They were 19. You know what I pledged? What'd you pledge? Kappa Tri Delta. No. I pledged Alpha Kappa Psi, which was. Oh. It was a professional co-ed business fraternity. Yeah, business. Because we had the biggest fraternal system in my university. We had 52. So University of Illinois, you know, big 10. We had every, every. We had a, we had a Latin fraternity. We had all, we had frat houses. We had the Kappa Carnival. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was around that. Like big time. I'm a brother. You want to get married? Do I want to get married? You want to get married? Amen. Okay. Amen. Oh, for sure. Okay. All right. That's another 154 conversation in the books. We are bridging culture back to its roots. From Africa to the world, we're telling stories our way. So make sure you hit like, subscribe, and share your voice in the comments. This is 154.