If YOU Are 'Saving' Money, You NEED To Stop!

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Could you just explain to me the high level of what these things are on the table in the
different frameworks we're going to go through? Sure. So we have a bunch of things here.
This is one of my favorites that I bring up in a lot of my videos. So this is the PERMA model,
which comes from positive psychology. Psychology is important for investing well,
but it's also important for figuring out what your long-term investing strategy should be.
We'll go through that. What else have we got here?
This is the top 10 financial mistakes that I think people make. This is the three steps
for investing your first $10,000. Okay. And we've got $10,000 there,
so you're going to talk me through how we do that as well.
We're going to talk about all of the unrecoverable costs,
the whole stack of them that you incur when you own a home.
Okay. And I guess this begs the question, who is Ben Felix? What is your background?
And what is the education, the reference points, the experiences that you're drawing upon
to give us this information today? Probably where it starts for being relevant is I did a
degree in mechanical engineering at Northeastern University. And I say that's relevant because
when I came into finance, I wanted to approach it like an engineer. And a lot of finance,
a lot of financial services of investing and wealth management is not approached like an
engineer. It's approached like a, I feel almost bad saying this, but it's approached like a car
dealership selling product. So I was disappointed in that and had to find my own way.
So they haven't got my best interests at heart?
In a lot of cases, I don't think so. I started spending a lot of time reading through academic
literature so that I could be very confident and comfortable that the advice that I was giving to
people was good, high quality advice. And where is the best place to start?
Is it in the psychology? Is it one of these frameworks? Is it somewhere else? Is there
a background understanding of the economy one needs to get going?
That is a great question. I don't think so. And I think that's where a lot of people get stuck,
where they believe they need to have a lot of background information before they can start
investing. They may do research on specific industries. They may look at like the energy
sector so they can build out an energy portfolio as one example. But investing the way that I would
say is sensible for most people, which is just using low cost index funds, capturing market
returns have been there and they're going to continue to be there. They should continue to
be there in the long run. Doing that doesn't require a lot of background knowledge.
I would argue that people who know just a little bit, just enough, they just know that index funds
are sensible and they have enough conviction they can stick with that. They will be better
long term investors than someone who knows enough to hurt themselves.
What would you say to young people that are thinking about their financial strategy? Would
you say that someone in their early twenties, 21 years old, should adopt a completely different
approach to money based on what you've just shown me versus someone that's 51 years old?
It's going to be different for sure. I think it's a tricky subject, but a lot of young people feel
a lot of pressure to save. And that might be saving for their retirement. It might be saving
to buy a home, but they feel a lot of pressure from their parents and just from society in general
that they need to be saving money and that if they're not saving money, they're being irresponsible.
But again, if we come back to academic research, there is research suggesting that it's probably
suboptimal for young people to save. The general point is that you should save more when you have
a higher income and save less when you have a lower income. And what that ends up meaning is
that young people may not need to save or may not need to save as much as they feel pressured to
save. The reason this topic is tricky is that, while what I just said is true, it can cause bad
habits, where if people spend all of their income and then don't have that shift towards saving at
some point, then they'll end up in a difficult position later on in life. Someone who's 50,
it's going to depend on their situation. If they're the person who I just mentioned who never
saved, they're in a tough position and they are going to need to save a lot in order to have some
wealth later on in life. But if they've already saved and they have wealth, then they can focus
more on some of these topics. And you've got the 10 money mistakes people make here. Can you run me
through those ones and just let me know if any of them are particularly pertinent or interesting
that we should dive deeper into. So this one's controversial. It's not earning enough money.
A lot of people feel like they don't have an option, that they're not earning enough money
because that's just the way things are and there's nothing that they can do about it.
I don't think that's necessarily true. Investing in your human capital, and that can be formal
education, it can be gaining skills, it can be becoming an entrepreneur. Those are all ways to
make your own self a more valuable asset to increase the value of your human capital and
allow you to earn more money. So that's a big one. I think people who get stuck in the feeling or the
thought that they do not have the ability to increase their income and that this is just the
way things are, I think that can be very problematic. I've always thought of it across
these sort of five buckets. The first two buckets that we attempt to fill when we're starting our
careers are our knowledge and then our skills. And kind of like when knowledge is applied,
it becomes a skill. And these two first buckets are so imperative because they can almost never
be unfilled. Whereas the other three buckets, which is your resources, your network and your
reputation, you can have career fluctuations and earthquakes that cause those buckets to unfill.
So as you were saying earlier on about young people, one of the things I've always thought
is when you're young, just optimise fulfilling your knowledge and skills as much as you possibly
can. And actually I guess the level of nuance there is acquiring a rare but complementary
stack of knowledge and skills that the market values. And I think over the long term,
this doesn't apply to everybody because things happen in life and bad things can happen,
but over the long term, I think life tends to land you pretty much in and around the value
of and the rarity and the complementarity of those knowledge and skills as it relates to the
market's demands. That's absolutely true. There's data on this too, where we know that there is a
mechanical relationship, at least historically. We can talk about the future, but historically
there has been a mechanical relationship between formal education or trade education and lifetime
earnings. And we also know that certain degree types like engineering, finance, business,
some other sciences have higher lifetime earnings than other degrees. So I think you're absolutely
right. The hard part is we don't know what exactly those degrees and skills that are going to be the
highest paying in the future are going to be. 10 years ago we might have said software developers,
today we might not. But even you as an example, so you did engineering and then you did finance,
and now you've added this other string to your bow, which is you know how to make content on
YouTube. And that makes you as a finance expert and professional and CIO so extremely rare.
It almost makes you like one of 100 on planet earth maybe. And this is what I mean by rare
and complementary skills. You could have just learnt more finance. I don't think that would
have moved you up this sort of earning ladder. But because you added this really rare skill of
being able to make content to your other skill stack, I'm guessing it made you money.
It did, it has, and I continue to be paid well. And you know, it was, please don't,
but if you were to go back and watch my old videos, which are still up, I am so rigid and
nervous. And when I was, and it took probably years of recording and we do a podcast too,
so just being in front of the camera, for me to feel pretty good. I mean,
it probably took me three years to smile on camera. So yes, that was a skill that I acquired through
just practice, I guess. I say this because I really want people to think about how rare their
skill stack is. It's not something we're taught. And then also one of the things I know is I used
to work in a biotech company for a little while, while I was in between things. And we were looking
for a writer, a biotech writer. Now the other writers that we hired at our other companies
might have been paid $50,000, whatever it is. For a biotech writer, we would pay them a quarter of
a million. And all the only difference is the biotech writer had like some base. They didn't
have to go to medical school. They just needed experience in writing about biotech. And it 5x
their earnings. So this other point is you might have a skill stack, but are you selling them
on the right market? And even me, the first part of my career was marketing. I was helping Uber and
fizzy drinks company and dress seller company sell their dresses. As I just said, the second
little stop I took in my career was helping biotech companies with marketing that are about
to IPO. My first contract with one of those companies was worth 8 million, six months work.
And it was a real pivotal moment in my career where I go, it's not just the skills you have,
it's like where you, the market and industry where you sell those skills can wildly change your,
as you say on that card, your earning potential. Yeah. And as you say, this is something that you
don't have full control over because you could do all of those things and not find work as a
biotech writer. But putting yourself in that position, I think does increase the odds.
What's the second one you've got there?
Second one is not saving enough. Touched on this a little bit. Young people maybe don't need to
save, but at some point you do have to start saving. And the tricky thing about saving is
that wealth compounds over time. And if you're not saving enough, you're missing out on compounding.
And it gets a lot harder to catch up with the amount of savings you would have otherwise had
if you'd started earlier. So that's a big one. And some people will wake up when they're 50,
55, maybe even 60 and realize they haven't saved enough. But by that time,
there's nothing that you can do about it or very little that you can do about it.
There's a lot of parallels with health here, where if you eat poorly and don't exercise,
you can wake up when you're 55 and you can have heart disease. That is very difficult to reverse.
And it's the same effect. It's compounding over time. I think health and wealth have a lot of
parallels. Anyway, so not saving enough can be very problematic because it is so hard to reverse
the effects of it once you've realized it's a problem. Interesting. I read a book called
The Slight Edge by, I think it's Jeff Olson when I was 18, which talks exactly about that. I think
it uses one of the analogies that it uses is like brushing your teeth. Don't brush them today. It's
fine. Don't brush them every day this week. You're fine. Don't brush them every day this month.
You're fine. But in five years, you're fucked. That's right. In five years time, you can't like
stop brushing them then. You're in a dental chair having them ripped out. I guess finance is the
same in this regard. Exactly. Yeah. Number three is not setting financial goals. We talked a little
bit about this earlier as well. If people don't set goals, they will do things like think they
need to earn more money because, because, because that's what you do. Or they'll think they need to
buy a house because that's what you're supposed to do. But they won't step back and reflect on
what are the components of a good life for them? What do they want their life to look like?
And what would they need to do to achieve that? And if you don't go through that exercise,
you can end up spending years or dollars achieving things that don't really matter to you. And again,
because of compounding, by the time you realize those things didn't matter, that's time and money
that you can't get back. So how do I go about setting good financial goals? What is the process
there? So this is the process that we created is three steps. List your goals. Okay. So what does
that look like? So you're going to sit down with a piece of paper, or we built an app for this
that we use with clients. You just list out your goals. So I could say, I want to be a dad.
You know, I want to buy a Ferrari. Yeah. We want to go on holiday to Cancun. Yeah. I want to be
able to retire at 50. Those kinds of goals. Yep. Now step two. So you've got your list of goals.
You're going to double the list. Double it? Yeah. Why? You came up with, I think, four goals just
now. You're going to write down eight goals because this forces you to think harder about
what other goals might be important to you. And research does show that this elicits more goals
that people later identify as being at least as meaningful as the initial goals that they listed.
And then the last thing, we're going to come back to the PERMA model. So the PERMA model is a
five-factor model of human flourishing. If you have these components contributing to your life,
there's a very good chance that you'll live a good, satisfying life. I think you've lived through
this experience where you've seen that wealth does not lead to a good life. And so what does?
Well, there's a whole bunch of really good research on this, and it does suggest that
positive emotion is one big piece of it. What does that mean? It's literally enjoying what
you're doing and feeling good throughout the day. Engagement. You could probably argue that we're
getting some of that right now where you're doing something that you enjoy doing that's maybe a
bit challenging, but it's at your skill level. It's the idea of getting into flow. I know I get
that when I do podcast interviews, when I do research, when I'm sitting down and writing a
video script. Relationships is having good, strong relationships with people who are close to you in
your life. And that can be friends, it can be family members, it can be colleagues. Meaning is
being part of something that is bigger than yourself. That can be a lot of different things.
For some people, it's religion. For some people, it's community. For some people, it's their own
business. And accomplishment is achieving hard things, setting goals and achieving them.
You're going to look at the items of the PERMA model. You're going to look at those as categories
and think about what other goals you may have that fit into those categories.
That's called a categorical prompt. And again, there's evidence behind that helping people
elicit more meaningful goals. So one of the things I said is buy a Ferrari. Again, these
aren't my goals. I don't care about Ferraris, but in case they want to sponsor the podcast,
but say the Ferrari thing. Do I have to find where it sits in terms of positive emotion,
engagement, relationships, meaning accomplishment? It would be wise to. And this is why I think this
framework is so important because you might realize that a Ferrari does not contribute to
any of these things. It might though. Like maybe you take it to the track and you spend hours
racing it. And that would be engagement. Maybe you have a bunch of buddies who have Ferraris
and you want to be part of that friend group. So that's relationships. Yeah. Okay. I mean,
positive emotions, but I might only last a couple of days. Yeah. Well, it's the hedonic
treadmill idea. That's exactly it. Yeah. And then accomplishment. I mean, it's not really in a car.
If it was a goal that you've had since you were five years old, maybe that you could call that
accomplishment. Maybe. Okay. So I fit my, my financial goals, my life goals into the Palmer
model as a way to understand what my financial goals should be. Yeah. Okay. How many people in
the general public do you think have actually thought about what a good life for them looks
like? Not, not enough. Not many. I think everyone's people are so busy with their data,
day-to-day lives. And I know this is true for me and my family too. It's really, really hard
to step back and have this kind of thoughtful discussion about what you actually want your
life to look like. Cause I was just thinking about that. I was thinking, I don't even know
if I've got, um, really clearly defined life goals for myself. Like I think most of us just
kind of act on how we feel and that can somewhat drift us towards the short term. Like if I just,
yeah, what's going to make me feel good today and do that every day? I don't know.
Some might argue that you have to be a bit more long-term thinking. It can, it can help,
right? Cause it can help you from making decisions that you might regret in the future. Yeah. Cause
when I look at this Palmer model, there's some things on here that I've optimized for,
which have sacrificed the other things. That's it. That's it. Yeah. Like I might've,
I might've over-indexed on this, like achieving things, but it might've cost me some relationships.
So what's the fourth mistake people make? Yeah. So this is related to what we were just talking
about, but it's, it's overspending on the wrong things. Okay. When you think about what is a good
life for you and you realize, if you realize that you're spending on things that are not
contributing to that, which is resulting in you not being able to save toward things that would
contribute to what you want your life to look like, that's probably not a great position to
find yourself in. So I could be spending $12 on a, an iced coffee every morning and not enjoying it
because you couldn't get positive emotion out of that. But you're like rushing to work, chugging
down the $12 coffee every day. That's probably not contributing to a good life. Number five
might be one of the bigger ones, which is not taking investment risks. And that's really,
the stock market has delivered these incredible long-term returns. And on expectation, it should
continue delivering strong returns for investors. Not participating in that is a huge mistake. And
it's a mistake that many, many people make. A lot of people don't invest in stocks at all.
And a lot of people who do invest in the stock market don't invest enough in stocks. They have
very conservative portfolios and that has a very large implicit cost. By not participating in the
stock market when you could be, you're giving up a huge amount of economic gain. How do you quantify
that for the average person in terms of what kind of gain they're giving up or the size of the gain
they're giving up? Well, you can look at the historical returns on stocks. And you can also
look at the expected returns on stocks. So let's say it's 7% that we expect stocks to earn in the
long run. And if you could get 2% by sitting in cash, that 5% difference is your opportunity cost
of not investing in the stock market when you otherwise could be. 5% compounded over the long
term is enormous. So say I have $10,000 and I invest it in the stock market and I'm getting,
what did you say, 8%? Say 7%. How much money is that? So I've done $10,000, which is what we have
here. Invested in the stock market at 7% return over 40 years. That would be $150,000. Do you
know what's quite scary when I think about that? That kind of means that today, if I spend $10,000,
I'm actually spending $150,000. Yes. Which makes me not want to spend any money on anything.
Yeah. Because if you buy, I don't know what costs $10,000, like a small car.
Yeah, maybe, yeah. You're actually spending $150,000 when you factor in the fact that if
you'd put that $10,000 into the stock market, you could have made 7% a year and it would have turned
into $150,000. Yeah. That's one side of the coin. I think you also have to think about
any enjoyment or utility that you get out of that car. If that car lets you drive to a job
you couldn't have otherwise done, it may have a significant economic value to you in the long run,
as one example. I've got a coffee here. Some people spend $10 on a cup of coffee with
frappa chappa toppings and all that stuff. Looking at that over the long term, in 40 years,
if you'd not bought that coffee and put it into the stock market and got just 7% return,
you would have had $150. When you buy that $10 coffee, you're actually, theoretically,
spending $150 in 40 years' time. You better really enjoy the coffee.
Is there a bit of a fear that it makes us not want to spend money on anything and therefore
we end up having a shitty life in the near term? No. I think that's why this framework,
that's why the PERMA framework for thinking about these decisions is so important,
because you do want to have positive emotion and engagement, relationships, meaning,
and accomplishment. Those are all really, really important. Yes, that money could be
worth more in the future, but it can also be worth a lot today if you're optimizing on the
right things. What else? Number six. It's another big one. Not taking enough risk is important.
Taking the wrong risks with your investments. We just ran some numbers about a 7% stock market
return. You can basically get that using an index fund. The problem is a lot of people don't
invest in index funds. They pick individual stocks hoping to earn really high returns.
They trade individual stock options. They trade crypto tokens and all that kind of stuff. A lot
of those types of risks have negative expected returns or they have high costs if you're doing
a lot of trading, and that can really erode long-term investment growth. If you love the
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