You're Not 'Too Nice'... This is Why She's Losing Attraction

We've all heard the quote that nice guys finish last, but it's not because they're better. It's because they take the longest to realize that being nice doesn't get them what they want. They get walked all over until they finally understand that being nice is their weakness and so they finish last. If you have any specific situation with a woman or you just want a If you've ever been told that you are just too nice, you're being too nice to women or people in general, you're probably doing these things. You're probably doing one if not all of these things and you don't even mean to, right? You were probably taught to be kind to others. You probably taught do one to others to which you want done to you, right? That's the whole mantra. That's like rule number one of kindness. But there's a difference between being a kind person and being too nice. You know, being the nice guy. You get walked all over, point blank period. Being a nice guy is being a target to anyone. But let's get into it, okay? Being nice. One way a man can be too nice to a woman is if you are saying things to basically just make her like you. If you're complimenting her, if you're saying she's beautiful, if you're saying all the right things. Dude, that's just one way to have this quiet transaction. You're doing it to get something in return. You think you're getting something in return when really she's reading through it and she thinks it's manipulative. You want to have some sort of backbone to back up your compliments, to back up what you're saying. And I get it. You might not mean it in that way. You might not mean it in the way that you want something out of it. But think about the cause of why you're saying it. Think of the real point in why you might be complimenting a woman. Why are you saying something nice to a woman? Please think about the real gist of why you're saying nice. There needs to be a reason. And I'm not here to tell you this is how women think. I think this is just for everyone. If you were to compliment anybody, you don't want it to just be seen as, oh, this person just wants something from me. Even if you were to compliment co-workers or your boss. If you compliment your boss, your boss can probably see through it and be like, oh, he wants a raise. He wants something out of me. Why is he being nice to me? There needs to be a backbone to it. If you're going to compliment anybody, man or woman, do it with a sense of real concrete cause. Not just because. If you're trying to make anyone like you, you're already a target. You're already seen as weak because you're not able to have a real stand-up personality. Something that is disagreeable. And this goes to my next way of being too nice. If you're not disagreeing with anyone, if you were just an agreeable person, if you're just agreeing to anything a woman says, if you're on board with everything, you're Mr. Nice Guy. You're Mr. Nothing. You can walk all over this guy. He's a bridge, right? There's nothing that's going to make you have your own sense of identity. You're just bouncing off what other people say. And you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah. I agree. For real. Yeah. I agree with you. There's no challenging. There's no teasing a woman over something. You know, there should be some sense of polarity here in the regards of dating. Women want to be challenged. Okay. We don't want you to constantly agree with us. Now, there goes to a point where, yes, we want to be heard. We want to be right in some ways. But you got to let her know. You have your own opinion. Okay. Don't just agree with women just to make her like you. Oh, honey, we will see through that. We will think you are just trying to get through the pants. Right. We will think you're just trying to get her number and get gone. Being nice is putting yourself in a vulnerable position because people can see through being too nice. Especially nowadays, you have to have some some oomph. You need to have some rigidness. Have some have something for other people to think about. Right. Have an opinion. It's okay to have an opinion. It's okay to be disagreeable. It's okay to disagree with people, especially women. You're allowed to disagree with men, women. You're allowed to say, you know what? No, you're wrong. This is actually the facts. You know how many women actually find that attractive? Women love men who have their own opinion, who have their own way of thinking. If you're just going off of what she says, if you're just agreeing with everyone and everything around you, then what are you? You are just a stick in the wind. You're easily manipulated. And you just try to think you're manipulating other people by being agreeable. Nobody likes that. This is why we say nice guys finish last. Because they're literally being walked all over. Last place. People are running to the first to the first position to the finish line. While nice guys are over here trying to get everybody to like them in the in the frickin slow lane. You don't need to be a nice guy. You can be kind, right? You can be a kind, respectable man. But being the nice guy. Don't get it twisted. Okay? It's okay to be disagreeable. And kind. It's okay to be respectful. But with your own opinion. Okay? And don't just compliment people with no backbone with no reason. You know, don't just sit here and be this friendly guy just for people to be like, thanks and walk away. You want something people can remember you by. If you're just another guy complimenting a woman, what is she going to remember you by? Who are you? Right? What's your name? What's your what's your aura? What's your mantra? What is your your take on everything? What is your your personality? Who are you? Right? And why should anyone listen to you? Why should anyone want to talk to you? If you are just other people's mirror, if you are the mirror of everyone in life, if you were just a chameleon getting through life, there is no you. You do not exist. You exist in the ways that other people exist. If you get my drift here, okay? You also overgive way too early. Now I'm speaking in the context of dating here. That is kind of the whole the point of this video is dating with women, right? If you were acting like a boyfriend on day one, honey, oh honey, you are too available. You are overly giving. You are an open door and you are open all the time. People could just run all in and steal all your, steal everything, steal your mind, steal your thoughts, steal your opinion. Like you are open for business and there is nothing stopping you. That is a vulnerable place to be, okay? That is how you get your heart broken. If you are giving so much, there has to be an expectation behind that. I mean, tell me otherwise. If you are open to a relationship from the first day, what do you expect from the woman, right? And if she doesn't meet your expectations, boom, heartbreak, boom. You don't trust people the same, boom. And it is like you don't realize that you are putting yourself in that position. You are putting yourself in that vulnerable place where now you expect the same reciprocation. That is not how it works, okay? Have some guard, have some boundary and respect yourself. Not everyone deserves your presence. Not everybody deserves what you have to say. Save it for later. You know, there is such a thing as a time and a place, right? Sprinkle of you here, sprinkle of you there, little sprinkle, sprinkle. You don't need to pour it all in. That is kind of like putting all your eggs in one basket, right? You really think this is the one, you really think this is the girl. Be smart. Be smart here. Stop being too nice. You can be kind, right? And I know it sounds so stupid to compare being kind and being nice. No, there is a difference. There is a huge difference in being way too nice, way too available. And then just being a kind person, right? Being kind is also being truthful. Telling someone the truth, telling someone, hey, I'm not really feeling this. Hey, I'm not really interested in this. That is a form of being kind, okay? Being nice, being too nice is agreeing with everything. Saying, yeah, I'll go when you don't even feel like going. Saying, yeah, yeah, I'll do this for you when you don't want to do it. Don't be a yes man. Don't be a yes man. I think we've all seen the movie and how it ends. Don't be a yes man, okay? That's how you finish last. Because you're saying yes to everything. You don't even have the time to think properly focused. You can't even prioritize what's more important because you are prioritizing everything. Stop it. And lastly, you're being way too nice if you let her be the center of your world, right? You found a girl. You think she's the one. You found a girl and you're really hitting it off, right? You might have some sort of similarities, things in common, but then you just start dropping everything for her. You start dropping going to the gym. You start dropping going out with the boys. You start dropping everything that makes you you. Like I said, it's like losing your priorities. It's losing your sense of focus, that tunnel vision. You need to have a tunnel vision in your life and if you meet something really worth the look along the way, then yeah, you stop and look, but then you keep going. Period. Period. There's no need to be Mr. Nice Guy because at the end of the day you're finishing last, but it's not the type of last you're thinking. Finishing last as in, oh yeah, he gets the girl at the end. No, it means that you took the longest to find a girl. That's what it means. Nice guys finish last doesn't mean you get the girl in the end. It means you take the longest to even find one because no girl wants a nice guy like that. We want a respectable, kind guy. We don't want an overly nice dude that doesn't have a personality, who doesn't know how to say no, who doesn't have boundaries, who isn't accountable for himself, okay? If you want anyone to talk to you, friendships, co-workers, girlfriends, right? Be presentable and present for yourself. Have a form of an opinion. Have your own personality. You know, have a reason for people to keep talking to you. Don't just be Mr. Nice Guy to think that you're getting what you want out of it. That's not how it works. It's okay to disagree with people. It's okay to have a challenge to people, a challenge to other people's opinions. That's part of the human experience because we are not all the same. We are all unique individuals with our own unique experiences and we have our own way of life. So act like it. Who are you? Who are you as a person? Because the day you realize will be the day that you're already manipulated. You're already taken advantage of. It's easy to take advantage of a nice guy because he's always going to say yes. He's always going to be nice and what woman could ever respect that? What woman could respect the fact that a man will never just stand up for himself and what he wants in his life, right? And that's it. That's it for this video. Don't finish last. Don't wait till it's too late. Start strong and finish strong. Period. Okay, that's it. See you guys later.