
The Real Work of Ambition: Pursuing Your Career Without Sacrificing Your Family with Paul Sanftner
Faith, Family, and the Super Commute
In this episode of Real Work, Paul Sanftner returns to share a surprising life update and deep dive into the "real work" of balancing high-level professional contribution with being a present father, husband, and friend. After six years as a Public Information Officer for the City of San Leandro, Paul reflects on the importance of intentional transitions, the power of community, and why he is choosing to prioritize family over the grind of a 232-mile daily "super commute".
Paul discusses his philosophy on leadership—from managing a local government communications team to coaching Little League—and how physical discipline and faith provide the foundation for a productive life.
This conversation explores:
-The "Super Commute" Reality: Navigating a 116-mile journey (one way) while staying productive and present.
-Leading with Trust: Building loyal teams by prioritizing personal connections and staff well-being over rigid oversight.
-The Mental Shift: Practical "tricks" for transitioning from a high-stress workplace to a peaceful home environment.
-Sacrifice for Success: Why taking a potential pay cut to prioritize family is a winning strategy for long-term happiness.
Key Takeaways & "Homework"
-The 5-Day Note: Write a physical note or text to your spouse at least every few days to express appreciation.
-Seek Elder Wisdom: Connect with mentors or "elders" in your community to learn their routines for prioritizing family.
-Morning Discipline: Use exercise and meditation to set a calm, patient tone for the day.
"Life is not about myself; it’s about service to others... doing the real work of raising your family and being present with your spouse." — Paul Sanftner
📚 Books Mentioned
-Lords of Finance: The Bankers Who Broke the World by Liaquat Ahamed
-Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don't by Simon Sinek
Shop Books on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4eVUg7y
🌐 Organizations & Community
City of San Leandro YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cityofsanleandro
F3 Nation: A free, peer-led men’s leadership and workout movement. www.f3nation.com
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