【Japanese Podcast #34】日本の「〜ハラ」多すぎん？There are way too many "~hara" suffixes in Japan?

This time, I'd like to record my 34th podcast episode. Today's date is March 26th. I'm recording this podcast on Thursday, March 26th. How was everyone's week? I haven't recorded a podcast in ages. I think everyone probably realized it on YouTube. I was actually returning to my family home in Tottori Prefecture. My birthday was at the end of February. So my birthday was spent at my family's home in Tottori Prefecture. Then I stayed in Tottori for about two weeks. I got back to Osaka around the 10th of March, you know. I've come to deliver the骂词 (insults) about the wisdom tooth that you've been muttering nonstop since you got back. My face became really bright and cheerful. It wasn't that I didn't have the leisure to shoot a video; rather, I simply didn't have the time. It was so difficult that I couldn't even shoot a video. But the troublesome wisdom tooth ordeal has also ended safely. It's still slightly stitched, you see. It's kind of uncomfortable in my mouth, or rather, it feels unpleasant. It feels like there's still some pain lingering, I guess. I'm enduring it day by day while taking painkillers. How have you both been spending your past week or two? Insults toward wisdom teeth I'm really a scaredy-cat. Anesthesia, more like intravenous or general anesthesia. I decided to have the procedure done while I'm asleep. You didn't have consciousness, then. So it felt like I'd really just fall asleep and wake up to find it already over. So painful or scary, etc. I didn't have that kind of fear. I'm really glad about it. After it's over, okay? My mouth really hurts. It's hard to eat, and I can't open my mouth wide enough. I still can't open my mouth a little even now But somehow It's now packed so tightly that you can't tell from the appearance. Not even food at all I'm just picking and eating things that seem easy to chew. I'm eating, you know. Basically, it feels like it's already improved quite a bit. You know, quite a lot of people Insults to wisdom teeth, you're doing your best, right? Things that end in an instant, you know, like... If I work hard now, I won't have to think about it anymore. It was like they gently encouraged me in such a kind way. I did my best. Thank you very much Yes Last time's video, you know, I make videos where I solve N1 level JLPT questions, among other things. posting vlogs about going to the movies with my mom and stuff like that I also tried posting a video of me and my mom doing a drive talk, you know. In the N1 video, It's impressive that everyone got 65 out of 69 questions right—truly worthy of a Japanese teacher, I'd say. It's amazing how kind everyone is. I thought maybe I'd get some backlash for it, though. That's not true at all. Everyone sent me such kind comments. Thank you very much. Even now, I still can't quite put together what I wanted to say back then. Truly, those who have passed the JLPT N1 It's not just N1, you know. At every level, it's the same. It's not really my new language after all. Learn a completely unknown language from scratch even thinking about taking such an exam in the first place I think it's amazing and wonderful. Even more so, those who have already passed Those who have passed a certain level exam truly to my own efforts and to myself who has worked so hard until now I think it would be nice if you could clap for me. Especially N1 is so difficult that even native speakers like us can get it wrong. It's a very difficult exam. I truly think everyone who has passed is amazing. Congratulations Also regarding my interview video Many people say my mother is incredibly kind. You left a comment saying that. Thank you very much. I think my mother would be happy too. And again, like this with my mother It might be interesting if we could also shoot interview videos. The me who talks with my mom or my friends More than when speaking alone I think I'm being more truly myself now. Videos of such interviews as well I thought it would be great if we could keep taking photos effortlessly. To everyone who always leaves comments Thank you so much indeed. I thought it might end up being misunderstood. I'd like to correct just one thing, rather than say I really want to talk to you in detail and thoroughly. In the interview video with my mother I've always been interested in foreign countries. I wanted to go abroad, or something like that Getting married to a foreigner or something like that Something like she said she was going to have a half-blood child I think there was a discussion about that, don't you? When I hear things like that It's like I'm only interested in foreigners, or something. Would it have been okay with anyone, as long as they were foreign? I thought it might have sounded that way. It's not really like that at all. I've been dating someone Japanese for a long time, after all. The person I have become engaged to this time is It was an American, not a Japanese person. I got engaged because I happened to like an American person, or something like that? Because the person was a foreigner That's why they got engaged or something like that Of course, even if that's not the case It would be a little sad if I were called a foreigner hunter. Please don't say things like "outsider hunter." I am not. That's not quite right. I received a comment saying "Foreigner Hunter." Have you heard of the "Outsider Hunter"? What kind of person is he/she? What is an outsider hunter? Something along the lines of "If they're really foreigners, then anyone will do" About the person you're thinking of Such people sign up on dating apps or the like. Something like going on a date with anyone, just as long as they're foreign. That's what people call "foreigner hunters." For example, getting married for the purpose of obtaining a visa, you know That's about it. I wasn't doing it for that purpose. I also used to think it would be great to actually marry a foreigner. The reason is that The fact that I was really interested in going abroad culturally speaking, compared to Japanese people It's romantic, after all. Truly thoughtful and kind That it's full of love I've been watching it on dramas for so long. I want to fall in love with someone who is foreign rather than Japanese. It was nothing more than a mere admiration. That's why, if they're definitely foreigners, they'd go out with anyone, right? Because they're foreign, I want to marry them or something like that That's not quite right. It happened by chance, but it turned into a relationship where we're both genuinely fond of each other. The person I became engaged to by chance That's all—it's just that they were American. So please don't misunderstand. I know you're all kind-hearted, so I'm sure you understand this. Never mind that. I'd like to get straight to the main topic this time as well. This time it's harassment About what's called "Hara" or something like that I was thinking about having a conversation. For example, Everyone and their talk about the term "sexual harassment" and such Have you ever heard of it? What part is that, the Hara Hara thing? It comes from the English word "harassment." When you say it's harassment, what do you mean? Harassment is conveyed through words and actions. Through words and actions It means making the other person feel uncomfortable. Causing unpleasant feelings It's called harassment, you know. Recently in Japan I've been getting comments about sexual harassment quite frequently since long ago, but Not just sexual harassment, but By the way, sexual harassment refers to It's an abbreviation for "sexual harassment." Not just sexual harassment, but It's already emotional abuse. Sexual harassment Alhara Sexual harassment It feels like bullying. Harassment like that There are many, aren't there? The word "Hara" something This is my student, you know. Talking during the lesson I was thinking, maybe something interesting... This time, regarding this theme I thought I'd give it a try. What's with this damn hassle? Have you ever heard of it? I think "sexual harassment" is probably the most commonly heard word, though. This time, let's do one by one. what meaning it is being used for I think it would be good if we could delve deeper. Shall we start with sexual harassment first? Sexual harassment is The first time I heard the word "Hara" was when... I think sexual harassment was probably the first thing, don't you? Sexual harassment is when I said it a moment ago, but It's an abbreviation for the term "sexual harassment." Omission Sexual remarks and such Comments about appearance or anything like that We call it sexual harassment when someone does something that makes another person feel uncomfortable. For example, sexual harassment At work, there's a boss in his fifties or so. toward a young female employee in her 20s Saying things like "You know, today's different from usual" or something like that Aren't your skirt shorter than usual today? Commenting on appearances, saying things like that, and so on Or asking things like, "Do you have a boyfriend?" and so on. Or making comments like "You're not married or anything?" In that manner Sexuality, appearance, and so on Ask me a question about that kind of thing. We call it sexual harassment when someone makes the other person uncomfortable. Recently, this kind of sexual harassment Because everything gets labeled as sexual harassment these days It's probably hard for men to do, isn't it? Amazing, I'm a woman I can't help but think how terrible and pitiful it is. That's enough already, you know—anything and everything Because I might get called sexual harassment, sexual harassment No matter what comment I make I think it'd be hard for a man to do, don't you? Conversely, a female boss towards young male employees, and so on Making sexual remarks or comments, for example Commenting on someone's appearance is also Of course it's sexual harassment. Frankly speaking, one way or the other More so than what a woman says to a man A man toward a young woman Comments like that about sex and sexuality Once I make a comment about appearance, I wonder if it'll be immediately called sexual harassment. Yes There's nothing I can do about it anymore. You shouldn't say things like "there's nothing I can do" That's why men are like that I think they're probably being quite careful. I do understand that it might feel a bit creepy, you know. My company's supervisor It's not like we're talking about private matters or anything like that. To someone who never does it normally What if someone suddenly says, "You have a boyfriend all of a sudden?" Why do I have to say something like that to you? That's what happens, isn't it? To the young female employee That's why I can't stand it. So whatever it is, anything and everything Wow, it felt like I was sexually harassed by that person I wonder if that's the case. Yes This is the first case of sexual harassment. The second thing that often comes to mind lately is Is this harassment? Bullying at work, or workplace harassment, refers to It comes from the term "power harassment." As the name suggests, it's exactly that. Why power? The person above the superior in the higher position A person who has power Waving that power around toward subordinates or the like Doing things like saying aggressive words They call it bullying, don't they? When it comes to situations commonly associated with power harassment, I think it's probably inside the company. The company's superior to their subordinate You can't even do something this simple? saying things like that, or in this manner Maybe something like forcing it or the like? Please do it no matter how difficult it may seem. in this manner Forcing someone against their will situations that force one to do something Something like making statements or speaking out, I guess. The rest are all working overtime, so You should also naturally work overtime, please. in this manner Using the power of my superior To subordinates Saying things in strong words Forcing someone to do something against their will We call it bullying. Bullying and harassment Bullying definitely happens in the workplace. I think those are the words that would be used. For example, parents toward their children In terms of position, parents are above. I think the child is downstairs. Parents do something to their children doing things like speaking forcefully In the manner of bullying I wonder if I should just not say it... I'm thinking maybe you've never heard of it. It's definitely related to work. In the relationship between a superior and a subordinate I wonder if those words will come true. Yes, it's bullying. Company culture in Japan I think most of you already know this, but It's true that hierarchies are strict, isn't it? Until my boss leaves Things like I have to work overtime, you know Until my boss leaves My subordinates shouldn't be allowed to go back, or something like that? All sorts of dark rumors like that Some people might have heard of it before. Something like that I'm not sure if it's relevant, but... There's also the term "bullying" (power harassment). Lately, even in the news and such You do see things like that, don't you? In such a manner toward one's superior I am being bullied at work. In the worst case, I may have no choice but to resign from my job. Sometimes things end up in such a situation... Getting depressed and stuff like that, you know Such sad issues and the like Actually, it really is happening, after all. In Japan Who knows? In foreign countries, things like power harassment, you know... How about it? Do you all feel it? Seems wrong somehow Something like a boss who knows how to wield power I think there might be someone like that in every country. But something about it Culture of Japan and overseas When it comes to differences, After all, in Japan, the boss is always right. My subordinate, after all, did what their superior told them to do. The prevailing trend that makes it seem like one must comply Even though the times are changing You still have it left, don't you? But foreign cultures, you know More so bottom-up than top-down In a bottom-up kind of way Young people also express their own opinions Saying things like that People who have their own opinions are valued or appreciated I think that's what they'd do, don't you? In Japan I knew it all along, this kind of thing I think workplace harassment might still happen, don't you? I think so. The darkness of Japan. Yes, next Next is the commonly heard psychological abuse. What is emotional abuse? From the term "moral harassment" They're coming, you know. Judge the other person by their words, actions, or demeanor. To torment someone mentally They call it emotional abuse, you know. In frequently encountered situations Saying it aloud Something about my boyfriend Like a toxic boyfriend Something like a psychological abuser male It might be used for structural purposes, I suppose. Like Morao A man who is emotionally abusive Called or being called Morao Maybe do it. That guy is seriously like a mora-o. That's what a psychological abuser man is, right? What do you mean by that? That is to say For example, if her boyfriend Towards her He's always in a superior position, no matter what. Acting that way toward a girl Psychologically To trivialize something hurtful, as if it were foolish By speaking out or doing things like that Torture You know, there are people like that, aren't there? Occasionally That's called "mora-o," you know. He's a psychological abuser. commonly used in romantic relationships between men and women I think it's not really about words. It feels like they're just mocking me. Mocking the other person That's what it's like, isn't it? For example, today I There was a presentation at school, you know. I failed, and I'm too embarrassed to say more. As if saying something like that, you know You know, when you start talking about something that went wrong or failed, right? Then, her abusive boyfriend You can't even do something like that? or making remarks that ridicule someone as foolish, and so on Something like that Didn't you do your best in your own way? Something along the lines of teasing a little? You understand? This That's what they call emotional abuse, isn't it? With those words I'm really not doing well at all, am I? I'm useless after all. I'm such a worthless person. doing things that make you think They call it emotional abuse. I am definitely not a narcissistic man. We can't go out together, can we? But things like this Men are... Because you're good at talking. What could it be? Sometimes it's really great, probably. But in this kind of way Sometimes, nezuke, nezuke, nezuke, nezuke. You've been making fun of me all along. things that lower self-esteem It's like they're going to say something. Get sucked into a toxic man There's a girl, you know. I know you might wonder why, but I'm absolutely determined to do it. Dating someone like this is Never mind that. I'm being emotionally abused. The next thing I often hear is Sexual harassment, power harassment, moral harassment I told you, didn't I? Since you just mentioned you've recently started hearing about it, I've heard things like "al-hara" too. What is al-hara? Alcohol harassment It comes from words Japan, everyone's a bit like that I think many people already know this, but There are quite a few customs surrounding drinking parties. After finishing work at the company, together with my boss and others It's like going to a drinking party, isn't it? You know, don't you? What is al-hara? Superiors and such to their subordinates Drink, drink, drink, you can drink alcohol It's about giving it to them, even if it's forced. Forced to drink something I don't want to drink That's called sexual harassment. They say This is not just about the company For example, a university At circles or such places Senior to junior Drink it already, like you're telling me to. Since the senior said so, you absolutely have to drink it. say things like that sometimes Call it harassment. You say it's scary, isn't it? That's why it's really Regarding this, it's a matter of life and death. It's also something related to everything, after all. I've been overthinking everything. In the worst case, one's life I think there might be some connection, though. Alcohol harassment is really Aren't there even people with alcohol addiction? I can't drink alcohol at all—literally to a pathological degree. There are even people who can't tolerate it, you know? Yet, it's acting like that Something like forcing someone to drink it To commit al-Hara I think it's truly frightening. Lately, what I've been hearing is Al-Halal or something like that Lately, all I've been hearing is "kashahara." There are words. Cyberbullying refers to customer harassment. which originates from the word "that" I don't know if everyone's heard of it, but In Japan, there's a phrase like this: The customer is god. I see, there is such a phrase. What I mean is The employee and the customer When comparing positions You are absolutely the superior one. Japan is So, if you study honorifics and such, you'll probably realize it. Store employees are absolutely You speak to customers using polite language, don't you? That's why Abase yourself Honorific language that makes the customer feel respected Using You absolutely must talk that way. If I didn't use polite language You think I'm joking? It would become like that in Japan, you know. As can also be seen from this culture In Japan After all, the customer is always right. The term "customer harassment" came into existence. Well, there's something like this in the background. What is cyberbullying? The customer said "upper" or "up" Good thing The customer looked down on the staff member. It's really strong when it hits, isn't it? So For example, something small Due to the employee's mistake What the hell are you doing? Saying things like "Go get the person in charge" or whatever Something like this? I can't pay money, you know. When customers say things like that Something like I'm about to post it on SNS Saying things like that, you know The customer is god. From that standpoint Something like that Look down on and mock the store employee Saying something hateful or vulgar, you know to do I call it cyberbullying. You're right, back in the day I used to work at Starbucks. At that time Things like casuistry You didn't accept it, did you? The customers who come, the customers who truly come It was really just wonderful people all around. That's so scary Customers who harass us like that But they weren't there. In places like casual izakayas, It must be a lot, wouldn't you say? Probably, in izakayas, everyone drinks alcohol too. There are many people who are drunk as well. That kind of trash harassment is likely to happen, isn't it? I think that way. That comes from Japanese culture, right? That customer is a god. in such a culture Because they've been growing up, everyone You think you can say anything you want, don't you? To the staff member That's why such things Acting big toward the staff Looking down on someone Shouting insults and the like There are people who do that, aren't there? I really hate people like that. Towards people People who change their attitude depending on the person I hate it, don't you? I wonder why you'd do something like that. I think so. Next When it comes to harassment-related topics that I've been hearing lately, There's something called "smehara." Sexual harassment Coming from smell harassment For example Everyone, the crowded trains in Japan, you know? I think you know this, but Like summer and stuff Isn't riding a packed commuter train absolutely terrible? No matter what happens It's packed full of people, squished tight. It stinks horribly. That kind of smell By smell When I feel unhappy or distressed, or If it offends your mood You're saying it's cyberbullying now, aren't you? Therefore, the summer in Japan When I ride in a crowded train or something like that Everyone might experience smehara. I don't know. That Not just crowded trains For example Perfumes and such, perfumes that are a bit too strong There were people who were attaching things here and there. That perfume I really feel nauseous. Oh no, if I feel uncomfortable That can be called "smehara," you know. Really anything at all Slight smell, a bit to take offense at something They call it "smehara." Something like that, I guess. Really? There are so many that it's overwhelming. What's this "Hara" stuff? Words come one after another So it's coming out, huh? If something happens, or if something unpleasant occurs As a gimmick What's that, some kind of a hassle, huh? in a way like that, anything at all Liven it up and make it fun! There are even young people who say such things, so Truly, it has so many meanings What's this thing called Hara? They are appearing. Even if it's just one Were there any words you recognized? Today, you know I said Sexual harassment, power harassment Moral harassment, sexual harassment Sexual harassment Something like this I mentioned a few things, you know. Something like that, whatever it is, harassment those words Was there anyone who knew? Nowadays, there are various terms for different kinds of harassment Because of that It's starting to feel a bit like a gimmick, you know? In Japan If everyone comes Various things like that You might hear the phrase "Hara" sometimes. Today, you know I have talked about this theme. How was it, do you think? I am When someone does something to me normally The feeling of having a bad experience Not really, I'd say. That's why I don't use this word too much I've never used it before. I'm not working for a company or anything like that either. That's why at the company Being sexually harassed or subjected to sexual harassment There's also no issue with being subjected to emotional abuse or bullying at work, and so on. Even my fiancé Emotional abuse is truly completely different. Because they are human I wouldn't even use the term "emotional abuse" Since I never ride the train anyway I never have to endure sexual harassment either. Even if I say I'm going to a drinking party Nothing at all with friends My friend keeps forcing me to drink alcohol against my will. That's not always the case either. Since I'm not being harassed anyway Not really this whatever Hara I never use it, though. I guess working at a company is really something after all. Women and stuff like that Especially those working at a company Young people, or new employees, you know Things like this workplace harassment and the like Enduring things like that I fight every day. In society, people I think there must be a lot, wouldn't you say? This video is about I think I'll end it like this. Once again Everyone who watched until the end Thank you so much indeed. If you liked this video too, Good Button and Subscribe to the channel and leave a comment I would appreciate it if you could leave it behind. In your countries, it's like this: Like ○○ Hara, but... Is there a word like "Hara" in Japanese? What words could there be, assuming so? That also catches my interest. Japan's this something Hara How did you feel upon hearing that word? Everyone, please tell me in the comments I am happy. See you in the next video. Bye-bye