Are Germans Jealous? | Easy German 651

Today I'm asking people a question that few enjoy answering What is jealousy and when was the last time you felt jealous I'm really excited Let's go What is jealousy A passion that creates suffering through jealousy You put that very nicely It's a proverb a German one Jealousy arises when another person likes your partner's photos on social media Jealousy occurs when your partner flirts with other people Jealousy occurs when your partner is unfaithful to you People are especially jealous there What is jealousy I don't know but jealousy is unnecessary that's for sure Jealousy I think has a lot to do with ego and the issue of self-worth When I have a stable sense of self-worth I don't need to feel jealous of anything It's not envy Jealousy is not envy What is jealousy In my understanding jealousy primarily concerns other people The fact that people don't love me as much as I expect or that others love them too There’s an overlap with envy here But for now it’s more about interpersonal relationships when it comes to jealousy What is jealousy A very ungrateful feeling that gives you nothing It drains you of a great deal of energy I'd say It can also be linked to envy I think Jealousy I would describe as a longing for something spending time with someone else or feeling missed or perhaps even envious What is jealousy To distrust others and feel envy toward them I think jealousy is just something that's partly justified I don't think you can simply overcome it It always comes down to whether someone has an inferiority complex feels something is missing in themselves or experiences uncertainty And an uncertainty especially when it comes to jealousy in relationships usually arises for a reason Jealousy is a feeling that sparks intense effort in equal measure It's a feeling where I'm utterly sad angry and disappointed at someone doesn't pay attention to me or notice me the way I'd like to be First and foremost I'd say that jealousy affects everyone He might possibly in some way have something to lose And that brings us straight to the biggest difference regarding the topic of envy Jealousy is likely more about someone else having something That could naturally be intellectual property but also material possessions that yourself do not have Jealousy tends more toward the disappointment that perhaps it could have been yours as well s connected to someone else Yes and also the fear of loss You've already perfectly highlighted that distinction Would you say there's a difference between envy and jealousy Yes definitely I think jealousy is very personal and can connect with someone on a deeply personal level where envy encompasses a broader spectrum of emotional states I believe jealousy can only be felt toward other people or other living beings I'm fine with living beings Sometimes you feel envious of a dog when it goes off to another one Good point Envy I think is something material People envy material things Objects Objects circumstances jobs So in a way circumstances or possessions but nothing human or alive Envy is more widespread I want what others have I don't think it's fair that others have things I wish I had that too I feel like others have it better easier simpler And that’s envy And that can involve people but also things— wealth houses cars Jealousy is more specific I think this is strongly related to relationships especially romantic ones Is there a difference for you between envy and jealousy Yes clearly So envy is really just another form of resentment at one begrudges someone something And jealousy is truly at you feel you have needs that aren't being met and perhaps that's why you're also sad As you can see the difference between jealousy and envy isn't always so clear-cut That's why I' ve made an extra video just for you Checked the definition in the Duden And the Duden states jealousy is a strong exaggerated fear aving to share someone's love or advantage with another person or losing them to someone else In short what I fear about jealousy is something I already have Envy on the other hand is a feeling in which someone begrudges another person their possession or success I don’t want to give up what I have yet I desire what I don’t have So when I feel envy I wish for something someone else already possesses As you can see emotions can be quite confusing and learning languages is no exception And if that's how you feel too en I can highly recommend our Easy German membership On our membership platform you'll find all of our videos and podcast episodes There are interactive exercises and vocabulary lists available for the videos allowing you to practice German independently We also have a Discord group where you can exchange with members from around the world and learn German together If you'd like to give it a try Then go to easygerman org/slash Membership and all further information can also be found again below in the infobox Can you tell me about a time when you were jealous Yes well I was once extremely jealous my then-boyfriend because I get the feeling he really likes a girlfriend of mine And yet I wanted to be totally cool and not let him notice Exactly so I acted as if I weren't jealous But that was really terrible And then it often gets worse when you swallow it all down inside Exactly it was really something that could have been resolved through a conversation I could have quickly resolved this situation I was definitely very jealous whenever my boyfriend did things with other people where I thought just us do that I was really jealous I can totally understand that Yes when you think Hey that was our thing wasn't it Can you give me an example of a situation where you felt jealous so we can better understand it Okay when does this feeling usually come up In different stages of life it varied Even when I was little there was jealousy between my siblings and me for attention from our parents That's a classic Classic exactly And later on yes of course you fall in love with someone and feel like for heaven's sake He thinks someone else is better or makes a different choice That’s a very painful feeling It affects not only oneself but also the people one is jealous of I believe this is one of the most destructive feelings I know even in myself I could celebrate my cousin as mentioned and we'd agreed to head on to a bar later because he had friends of his that I know quite well however he actually did when I wasn't around at the time e people he'd met with whom he then continued on his way leaving me practically behind That was a situation where it became noticeable to me Yes then you simply feel excluded Could you perhaps describe a situation to me Have you ever felt jealous Sure of course in the past I've been in that situation with an ex-girlfriend before You're at parties There were also occasions when one or two gentlemen came a bit too close to her and of course I had to trust my friend in those situations and let her handle the rules herself but I did feel jealousy there Definitely Exactly I was once jealous for example And when my partner met up with her ex-boyfriend I naturally feared losing her but everything turned out fine Yes everything went well Then it's good after all Is there something we can learn from our jealousy Anything positive Where do we find ourselves in this uncomfortable feeling I think jealousy can push us to our limits There one gets to know oneself better and perhaps one can better gauge one's feelings I believe we must learn to love her and truly see her at behind it might lie entirely different needs such as wanting to be seen o be loved I believe that part of our jealousy which we project onto other people and observe Perhaps these people are responsible for how we feel loved and seen so we might as well do something good for ourselves One can learn from this that it achieves nothing and doesn't move one forward so it's better to focus oneself and that nothing can be changed about it in the current situation yet somehow find the positive in it or perhaps simply address it and communicate more effectively at it never comes to that in the first place Addressing issues is always a good solution I believe jealousy can help us get to know ourselves better and note that Where our fears are what we fear helps us become a better person and perhaps more balanced Absolutely I couldn't agree more That was no easy question Now I'd like to hear from you When was the last time you felt jealous Tell us in the comments below and become a member of Easy German You can find all the other details below in the infobox Bye everyone