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Women who haven't read this story yet are really missing out This is a classic tale of a queen She was exceedingly beautiful immensely noble of the highest status and deeply revered by many Then the queen asked the Buddha a classic question that every woman wonders about Some men are less curious but women always wonder about this: Today the Buddha allowed his disciples to ask Regarding the similarities and differences concerning beauty ugliness wealth poverty and social status among all women in the world See how it is Guys rarely ask this question but girls immediately wonder when they see someone who seems more attractive than they are Why does it look better than me It seems to dress more elegantly than I do—why does it appear more refined than me Wondering Being empress means asking only the female teachers right Don't you see True equality would require asking both men and women alike Go ahead and ask—The Buddha replied is it the queen's intention to inquire about causes effects conditions and retributions from which such extraordinary differences arise Difference means the emergence of distinctions while sameness means the emergence of similarities Are such differences and similarities inherent in karma Then he said something and now let me summarize: in short there are four categories of women The first type is an unattractive appearance combined with miserable poverty while the second type is unattractive yet wealthy and prosperous The third type is beautiful but unhappy and poor the fourth type is beautiful wealthy and honored How can these women train now to get into the fourth spot the number one position right Point four is beautifully elegant wealthy and prosperous—truly the height of bliss As for number three it's quite a miserable existence Beautiful yet often unhappy frequently suffering The The Buddha answered each question in turn as follows: A woman with an irritable temperament prone to uncharacteristic anger Anger is frustration or yelling at others anger is the tendency to get upset Frustration builds easily leading to anger over trivial matters no matter how small and such reactions will inevitably create grudges and resentment toward others That is the case Without faith in wholesome actions without joy in creating merit without willingness to give or let go—this is the second meaning This is the third meaning Envy toward the wealthy envy of others' good deeds Jealousy of those who have abundant advantages Envy toward those who are favored respected and beloved in short jealousy and resentment toward those who surpass oneself More than money more than fame or more than the reverence of others These women after their physical bodies decay and their shared life ends will suffer numerous painful consequences in the four evil realms In those realms where evil resides Atula this birth hell and hungry ghost realms are indeed realms of starving spirits If influenced by some blessing from the past that is if having planted a certain cause in the past About one or more beings from the past who were virtuous and reborn again as humans That means by default you're no longer considered human —doing such evil things means you've lost your humanity But if we're fortunate enough to be born as humans it's because of some blessing we sowed in the past—now we still get to enjoy its benefits Therefore Being reborn as a human being one falls into the condition of the first category of women—ugly impoverished living a lowly and wretched life There ugly poor and wretchedly downtrodden— here we distill it all we separate ourselves Those who have already studied Basic Drawing 1 Observe analyze and draw conclusions must now separate the layers Here we separate the layers: the first layer is heat anger and resistance Grim ugly Hot-tempered angry incompatible grim ugly One is the root the other is the fruit—so those who often get angry hold grudges take offense easily or suddenly lose their temper— Don't worry about the future—no matter how much she's dyed she'll still look ugly and irritable no matter what kind of beauty salon you go to she'll still end up looking unpleasant and angry One who does not create merit does not perform good deeds harbors hatred toward others bears grudges against people is the cause of poverty and suffering one who does not know how to do good For life not knowing how to give generously not knowing how to do good for others leads people to poverty and breeds resentment toward those who are better off Creating enmity with others plants the seed of unhappiness and that unhappiness will inevitably bear fruit—here is the first consequence of such a destructive act This second type of woman is aggressive and fierce in temperament Yet they possess faith and a generous heart knowing how to give and harbor no envy toward those who are superior There are many other righteous and good deeds Meaning she is a woman Of faith who knows how to do good works Those virtuous deeds are another matter entirely and they harbor no jealousy toward those who surpass them yet their temper is quick Those who work improperly are often very hot-tempered and tend to shout at others Pay attention —some bosses belong to this type Female business owner Extremely tough Loud and aggressive toward employees constantly But she only yells at those who fail to perform They only yell at lazy employees As for those who actually get things done they are always willing to share generously and they frequently take their employees to temples to perform good deeds Dragging the entire company along to perform good deeds on festival days on the fifteenth of each month—dragging the whole company along even though they were fierce and intimidating With such people and such things those lazy and evil individuals But as for those who are better than them they feel no envy at all That means their hearts are also relatively pure When the body eventually perishes and the life force disperses one will be reborn into favorable realms if reborn as a human one's physical form will be unattractive Yet refined and noble thus here we see beauty and ugliness stem from one's disposition—yes if the disposition is filled with resentment and ill will— It was born ugly nobility wealth and status come from Whether your intentions are aligned with good deeds Whether your actions are in service of good deeds Performing many virtuous deeds Sharing generously with others Then you will reap the precious fruit of blessings A mind free from jealousy A heart that knows generosity and forgiveness To be born into a revered status to possess a life more noble than others that is it Furious mocking this harsh ugly ringing Generate merit do good harbor no hatred toward anyone Free from envy free from jealousy Rich and noble— see that everyone This is the second type Type 3 Women without or with little ill will are always gentle kind serene and radiant with inner joy If someone accidentally says something harsh offensive or hurtful they remain unperturbed and harbor no resentment or ill will Yet they lack faith—without the heart to cultivate merit unwilling to give generously Jealousy toward those who surpass them who have greater advantages and who receive more praise from others They have committed other wicked and evil acts if a woman of this sort is reborn as a human being after death She was incredibly beautiful yet lived a life of deep despair poverty and misery Do you see A mind without ill will is calm and serene gentle speech leads to a beautiful future life And even in this life they appear beautiful yet deep within their faith is hollow and their actions do not bring merit Without doing good deeds they will be born into poverty without helping others others will not help them in return then their hearts will become hardened They grow envious of those who are better than they are Envy toward those who receive more praise than oneself gives rise to unhappiness and breeds future weakness So in short that's the essence of it Anger and joy Then resonance beauty Not doing good deeds or harboring hatred toward anyone more than oneself Envy and jealousy toward those better than oneself Hunger and misery And finally fourth place Is the most beautiful one Women who have little or no ill will Gentle and kind-hearted Their expressions are always lively and joyful They have faith they cultivate merit They understand giving and sharing They don't harbor envy toward those who are better than they are in fact they do many other good and kind things as well At the moment of death one typically takes rebirth in a favorable realm if reborn as a human Beautiful realms Here starting from the human level onward you see Meaning those heavenly realms Or rebirth as a celestial being If one is reborn again as a human Such exquisite beauty boundless blessings in wealth fame and status husband and children servants and attendants —everything is perfectly fulfilled Respected and cherished by all There now we're facing this situation again Without anger the mind is joyful and calm one becomes graceful and beautiful one consistently performs good deeds one helps others one aids everyone When you give freely you will never harbor hatred toward anyone nor feel envy or jealousy and you will consistently perform other good deeds Born into a high status respected by all Then afterward After explaining thoroughly you must clearly analyze cause and effect only then will you truly understand If your mind fails to analyze clearly you won't grasp it The law of cause and effect is not arbitrary — it's the law of cause and effect that forces you to separate in this way Don't you see In the sutra the Buddha separates things layer by layer It is very clear broken down into distinct layers After the explanation A clear analysis of cause and effect Of the four types of women in the world The Buddha concluded thus: Due to this irritable nature anger grows steadily Leading to resentment bitterness and deep-seated grudges Your face always looks sharp and bold See what I mean A sharp bold face Already looks worse in this very life A harsh face is not inherently bad rather it is precisely these very causes and conditions that shape karma and give rise to consequences A face may appear unattractive yet it carries meaning Worn-out hat rough and bumpy skin emitting a slightly unpleasant odor unattractive and unpleasant to look at This second platform lacks virtue lacks moral discipline meaning it lacks ethical conduct unaware of generosity unaware of sharing That is the result of one's own actions leading to retribution—poverty and hardship lacking food and wearing torn clothes That is simply because one lacks faith in the power of good deeds That's why I no longer hold onto good deeds within my heart so I no longer share them I don't perform good actions and I refuse to give anything to anyone That is the cause and the condition that brought us into existence so why do we become poor hungry and suffering This is point number three Status fame and wealth—meaning I resent those who are better than me or hold higher status or greater renown than I do Or wealthier than oneself one still harbors envy and resentment toward them this is precisely the karma and connection the karmic cause and effect that leads to retribution lowly and humble in one's fate Slaves concubines and prostitutes — the lowest rung in society Notice here folks There are many very beautiful slaves Her beauty is truly striking yet many of these women are prostitutes—so beautiful yet deemed the lowest in society It's because of jealousy and resentment toward those who are equal to or superior to oneself So we should pay attention to the trees of the boundary that often perform We commonly refer to it as the long-legged boundary tree Dressing impeccably isn't it So dashing so stylish—truly impressive But behind it all lies an immense deep-seated envy Jealousy fraught with immense danger so beware of such a life—later it may lead to paralysis in society Luxury and wealth last only a few years at most then fade away—this is a timeless truth taught by the Buddha I'm not the one saying it you know But none of you sitting here with long legs should go on saying this guy is骂ing me—it's really annoying Sorry in advance These are the three things the Buddha taught about evil tendencies and He likewise summarized them in a similar manner With intentions directed toward goodness That embodies the law of cause and effect Without anger with joy and peace Then one's aura becomes radiant and beautiful Whether through faith or performing virtuous deeds Giving generously brings wealth and abundant blessings and harboring no hatred toward anyone being free from envy and jealousy and performing many other virtuous deeds as well That is exalted status and great value that is it thus three things point downward and three things point upward when combined they form this The kind of women the empress asked about and you can reason the same way for men right Women are no different from men in this regard Subscribe to the Ghiền Mì Gõ channel to never miss out on exciting videos