It took me 30+ years to realize what I’ll tell you in 10 minutes...

If you're feeling lost in life, there are three questions that are absolutely essential that you should be asking yourself. Because if you can answer these three things for yourself, just via journaling or thinking or talking, you will live an absolutely incredible, meaningful life. Hey guys, I'm Alex Hine over at Modern Health Monk, author of the book Milk the Pigeon, a field guide for anyone lost in life in their 20s or a midlife crisis. Let's jump into the video here. Question number one that you need to answer, what the hell should I do with my life? Whether you think about it or not, your life is going to be primarily dominated by work. And so in my opinion, you might as well make it be work you love. But beyond work, what do I do with my life is really a difficult question for human beings. Because if you think about it, like sure, there's an easy roadmap to follow if you wanna follow the prescribed life path. If your main goal in life is get married, nine to five life and finance, 2.5 kids, white picket fence, settle down in New Jersey, be around my parents, do the same job for 40 years, you don't really need career and life advice because you're not really doing anything creative with your life. You're doing what everyone has done since the dawn of time, just follow the prescribed life path. But the problem is, if you don't follow the prescribed life path, you wanna travel, you wanna be self-employed, you wanna write books, you wanna live an exceptional or big life, there is no map for that kind of life. And so because there is no map, what do you do? Like what path do you walk on when you don't even know what the path is to walk on? That's a very, very difficult life to figure out because not many people have done that before for you. Especially when I was in my 20s, I really spent an agonizing amount of time thinking about what the hell do I do with my life? Yeah, career is one part of the quadrant, right? Because most of my days I was spending working a boring marketing job that I knew wasn't my life's work. But then it was also like, what do I do in my evening hours? I don't have kids. What do I do to fill my life because time is so short? What do I do that would be incredibly interesting? And I came up with certain themes and you should do this exercise too because it will give you some ideas. The first is, how do I wanna spend my days? Because ultimately, your life is comprised of your days. I wanna have my own business. Okay, that's one thing I wanna do. I don't know what kind of business, but I know I wanna work for myself. Second thing is, you know, I really wanna write books because I'm a nerd, I like reading books, I wanna write books and I have ideas that I think would help people. And then I thought, I love travel. I find travel to be so fulfilling for my soul, it inspires me, it gives me creative ideas, it rejuvenates me. What do I wanna do with travel? Maybe I wanna do a month abroad every single summer in Europe. Maybe I wanna travel two weeks every season. And then the most useful exercise was just how do I wanna spend my days? And I was like, you know what? In general, I like work. I wanna work like nine to four. I wanna work on writing books, building a business, traveling more often than the average person, but having flexibility. And so ultimately I settled on, I wanna become a YouTuber as one of my core goals in my life. As you think about what the hell should I do with my life, I want you to think about meta, like bucket list experiences. What are trips you wanna do? Like once in a lifetime experiences, like me buying that one way ticket to China, living there, becoming a monk and Kung Fu martial artist. And then on a granular level, what do I wanna do daily? How do I wanna spend my life? Think about that. Now, one of the best ways I thought about how to live my day-to-day life was I came up with a 12-step process to go from quarter or midlife crisis to living an amazing life and finding work I loved. And this process, I just call the reinvention path. I've put together this brand new guide right below this video, and that'll bring you to download this free guide I've put together all about the exact 12-step process that you can do in the next 90 days to stop feeling lost in your life and figure out exactly what you wanna do going forward with your life and with your career. Now, question number two, how do I find work I love? Whether or not you think about it, you're gonna spend more time working than any other singular activity in your life. So this is just one guy's point of view, but it better goddamn be work you love that is meaningful. When I think a lot about the process of finding work I love, I think of a lot of it as being a continual process of evolution. Finding work you love is a never-ending process. It's not like I found the job and now for 40 years I'm eternally happy. No, we're human beings, we evolve. Things are always changing. And I saw this great quote and piece of advice from someone in corporate who said, the second you get your job, it's time to start looking for the next job. You always wanna be looking for that next level, either higher compensation or more fulfillment or ideally both. So you get your job, great. Start now working in the business, out of the business to find the next level. Because maybe you're doing 50K right now at a job you're okay with, but in two years you'll be making 120K at a job you like even more. Maybe it's not your dream job, but maybe it's the next most aligned step. It's the best step right now. It's utilizing your natural strengths, your natural interests. You have so much more knowledge about all the other careers and why they didn't fit. I'm not a math person, not a people person, not a salesperson. I'm a creative or I'm a strategist or I love people or I love sales or I love like content creation, right? Pick up that job for a summer, volunteer on the weekend, call 10 people in the profession, see how they feel about it, trust your instincts. And eventually as time goes on and as you evolve and journal and learn, you'll start to see those trends that you keep in your little notebook and that will help you design the best dream life going forward. Finding work you love for me is about trying every single thing that's a gut feeling and see what sticks. Question number three, if you're lost, is how do I create a life worth living? The reason this is so important is that for so many of us, we end up in these weird lives that are like the in-between. It's like the mud. You're at a job that doesn't suck, but you don't love it. You're with a person that you're dating or married to who isn't awful, but you're not crazy about life together. You have a day-to-day existence that's okay, not that you're so awful you're clinically depressed, although you may be, but it's not so good that you just can't stop talking about it. And in my opinion, these are the most dangerous places to be. The middle is the most dangerous place to be when you're dating because when you don't love them so much that you're like, let's spend together forever, but you don't hate them so much that you're like, get out of my face, you cancer, the problem is you stay in something that's maybe not the best fit forever just because it's good enough. And I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, but from my point of view, if you want to create this incredible conversation-worthy life, you have to stay aligned with what lights you up more than anything. The most useful exercise I've seen to figure out what creates the most incredible, meaningful life is to keep what I call a resonance journal. And the resonance journal is really simple. You're gonna write down these five metrics that I share here and then document for a year every job, person, experience, event you do that makes you feel these things. The resonance radar is as follows. What makes you feel increased energy? What makes you not stop talking about it? What keeps coming back to you, like a thought you keep having, but with excitement, not fear? What gives you goosebumps or makes you feel lit up? What makes you more animated, like the way I am now? Track these five metrics, put it on the first page of a journal, and in the following pages, you're just gonna keep a log of like family dinner with friends, I felt resonance, I felt alignment. I was reading this book and I got a great idea to create like this creative project, resonance. I took a trip to Thailand and volunteered to help kids, resonance. For a year, I kept a digital journal of what made me happy according to this resonance and alignment radar. And by the end of that year, I had hundreds of data points for what I knew lit me up in life. And I had so much more clarity and self-awareness around what daily things I want in my life that would make a life that was meaningful to me. I learned that more than anything, I wanna have a meaningful work that contributes and gives me freedom to travel, freedom to work when I want, et cetera. And if you just keep this journal of resonance for a year, you're going to be getting so many incredible data points that you would have no clue about that will make a dramatic difference in everything that you do. So the best way I found to reinvent yourself and not feel so lost, keep this journal and then make sure you go through the 12-step process I linked to below this video. And I'll send you my 12-step process to go from quarter or midlife crisis to reinventing your life and really getting clear on what creates an incredible life and what creates a meaningful life in your career and personal life going forward. I just call it the reinvent your life process. So check it out down there below. Now, I wanna leave you with one final thought here. There's often a very simple reason why you feel lost and you just cannot get your stuff together in life. And if you feel that specific emotion, beyond just feeling lost, I shot a whole video on helping you out feel unlost right here.