How to Win Again: AI, Fear, & What People Get Wrong About Success | Tea with GaryVee 94

Did you not learn from Karate Kid? He was, lost every job and nobody likes you and you're 39. You're not even at halftime. You're just losing. You're not a loser. Good morning everybody. Welcome to another episode of Tea with GaryVee 94. I'm in a good mood because the Jets did not lose again. That would have been very hard since they didn't play this week. This was their bye week. So two weeks in a row. GaryVee.com slash whatnot. Okay, let's get into the questions. Mark is asking, I'm looking for a job and I constantly interview. I'm working a seasonal job I hate too. How can I kill the interview and get that job? I think vulnerability, honesty, conviction, passion. These are words to lean in on. I think if you go into the interview being scared that you're not gonna get it, you've already lost it. I think honesty matters. Tell them where you're at. I think honesty allows for comfort. Like this is what I'm good at, this is what I'm not good at. You know, I think fear kills people. I think about somebody who recently worked here, not for a very long time, fear ate that person up. There was no reason. We had nothing but deep hope to make it epic. But the fear ate him up for no reason. And so fear is a ******* scary thing. People would prefer to be in their little bubble of delusion with their fear because it allows them to not address the truth. People love to be with themselves and ******* stew on ----. And then grab a couple of family members or friends to like enable them. We love being three musketeers of bullshit. I'm full of ----, let me grab two ******* other losers that are my friends or my family that loves me but they're doing losing behavior because they're enabling me and we're just gonna roll around and blame everyone. But ourselves, for no reason. And I know who's in the worst spot because this place I'm trying to really help and fix. And if you can't win here, well then when you lose here, and many lose here, you need to really go back to the Batcave and make a new ******* potion. Because if you lose here at a place where someone's really willing to lose money to help, fear has completely won you over. And by the way, that's why politicians and parents, cruel chancellors and bosses weaponize fear. It's the ultimate weapon. Not, love is. Optimism. A-O, that's O. The O in A-O, O. In accountability and optimism, the O is the optimism, hope. Love is the ultimate weapon. But fear is the ultimate weapon of choice, of **** faces, because it controls people. I just want everyone to hear this. You are never tricking winning people and you are always tricking losing people. So when you're in your bullshit and you know your bullshit, and here's my thing, don't hate yourself for being that way. Love yourself out of it. That's the circle that everyone gets fucked up, because I'm pointed. I'm triggering people right now with the way I'm talking. I'm poking, right? I'm like, here's your zit, here's your zit, here's your zit. And what's happening is some people know I'm ******* right. And then they go into this bad place I don't want them to, which is like, yeah, ****, man, I'm a piece of ----. You're not, you're hurt. You're actually wonderful. I need to get you the **** out. First, I gotta poke to tell you, like, you're fugazi. People think they're clever when they're in this world. They think they're tricking someone, because their mommy's coddling them. You're right, Sally, Johnny is a dick. And their best friend, who's also in their ******* mud. You're right, Sarah, Johnny's a dick. But that's just a ******* circle jerk of negativity bullshit. So here I come along, and I'm poking, because I want to get you the **** out. But when I poke, sometimes people go into like, he's right, and ****, I'm the worst. You're not the worst. You're in a circumstance that you need to get out of. You're not the worst. You're just as good as me or anybody else. You're just as good as everyone. You're just hurting right now. And you don't realize that you're hanging with the same people, listening to the same ----. And we've had the rise in the last decade of the fear weaponizers. And they're very effective, because so many people lack self-esteem. Because we gave the eighth place trophies, mommy and daddy coddled everything. Everybody's a puss. Bunch of pusses. People stopped fighting. People stopped punishing. People stopped grounding. Parents stopped smacking. There are no ramifications, no consequences. And now everyone's about to, the problem is life has the ultimate consequences. If you're a puss, and you're 22, let's use a guy right now, you're a man. You go out into the world and you're 22, and mommy and daddy took care of everything, life's gonna **** you up. And then you're gonna blame life. Instead of blaming yourself, because you're the one that took mommy and daddy's ******* coddling. There's 16-year-olds right now, I get the DMs who are telling mommy and daddy, go **** yourself, stop coddling me. I'm off the payroll. Proud of you. Big shout out to all of you. This is a new thing. This is where Gen Alpha's getting to learn. Big shout out to all the 16, 17-year-olds that have been hitting me up lately. There's a new wave. New wave of DMs. New wave of feedback. Had a kid stop me, actually when I was with Xander, which I don't love, but said, I got off the ******* payroll. 17 years old. Was at the card store. Learned how to flip. Got off the payroll. That ******* kid, if he didn't get off the payroll, would have been the cliche 25-year-old who's depressed. You're depressed because you're not capable. You're not capable because mommy and daddy took care of everything. That's why kids have to play sports. You gotta lose. If your kid does not want to play board games, who's got a kid under 12 who avoids board games? Put the number 12 in the chat. Because I'm telling you right now, you need to break it. I had one of those and I broke it. Who's got someone under 12 who avoids games? Who avoids games? They avoid it because they don't want to lose. First tell that they're insecure. For everybody putting 12 in, you have an insecure child. I did. Broke it. Avoidance. And if you have a kid who cries when they lose and then wants to play again, you have a winner on your hands. Stop changing that. Who has a kid who cries or gets super upset and then wants to play again? Play again. Who's got one of those? Now let's be really honest. Who here, maybe five or six, seven years ago when this wasn't obvious as much in culture, tried to get their kids to realize it's just a game? And now realizes, wait a minute, let me flip it up. Put fixed it. Put fixed it if you were in the camp seven years ago saying it's just a game, but now you're all about letting it go. Look at this. This is why society matters. Look at all these fixed it in the chat. That's huge. Those are all parents. This is why we have so many people hurting right now at 20. We had a whole generation of parents who told kids that wanted to ******* win and believed in, stick with me here, merit and truth. These are six-year-olds that believed in merit and truth and had competitive spirit and were built for the actual world. And we had parents being like, nah. You know what that fucks up a six-year-old? Because your parents. All these people have fixed it now. That means for a lot of you, you're 23, 24, 25, you have to fix it for yourself. You're not a loser, you're currently losing. There's not one loser on earth. There's just people who are currently losing because they want to be happier. You like that? That was good, right? That was good? Give me something. It's true, nobody's a loser. Did anybody watch the Bengals and the Bears game yesterday? That ---- was crazy. Everyone losing, the Bears, the Bengals were ******* losers. Them that are winning and the Bears had the worst loss of the year that may come. That's life. There is not one. I'm gonna make this statement for 8.3 billion people. There is not one loser on earth. There's just people that are currently losing. And now let me break your ******* brain. Losing is fun, especially when the game's not over. Because then you get the ******* joy of getting out of the loss. You know what the best win is? What the Bears did yesterday. Not just like cruising and making it easy. You know what's a great win in my favorite sport, fighting, is when you lose every round. Leon, I mean I hate this because I like ******* Usman is one of my favorite, favorite, favorite fighters of all time. I think he's one of the great fighters ever. But Leon Edwards' win is the most joyful. He got his ass beat for four and a half rounds and he ******* found that leg late. The karate kid. Did you not learn from ******* karate kid when he did the *******, like he was ******* hurt. He was ******* hurt, *******, he ******* did karate kid. He ******* did it. The ******* leg was fucked up. Danny's leg was fucked up and he had to do the weird thing and do the, he ******* did it, he ******* did it. I don't give a **** that you suck and you've lost every job and nobody likes you and you're 39. You're not even at halftime. You're just losing. You're not a loser. ------- did it. Right? You were ******* pumped too. I ******* brought out ******* Miyagi. Did you not ******* learn from karate kid? Wax on, wax off, motherfuckers. Let's keep it moving. Hey everybody, I'm not gonna keep you long but I've gotta tell you about GaryVee.com slash Stan. 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I mean you know this better than anybody, Pablo. You've been on my team now for a little while and you know how effective localized ads are. They need to run 150 bucks, right, on a 25, 35, 40 mile radius because the more you want it, the wider you want the radius to be because the more you're willing to drive and ******* do it. **** it, they might want to do 100 mile radius. It'll take a job two hours away, right? So my answer is Facebook ads. You know, I think it will work. That's my belief for that business. I think that one of the great things one can do in a localized business is recognize how effective those ads are for such little money and that may give them the spike of extra dollars that they'll see that will make him feel more secure in it or he can go back and go full-time job and run ads for it to just do it on the weekends and see if that creates the demand and maybe he does that on the weekends and maybe over time he realizes those ads are working and maybe he goes back to the gig. There's nothing wrong with trying to go all-in on something. It doesn't take going back to a job, turning that all-in jump into a side hustle while you go back to a full-time job and maybe that will build back up and can become a full-time job. And so I think for a business that is very localized, I'm a very big fan of trying to attack the Facebook ad ecosystem because it works for localized businesses. I just know it does. Let's keep going. Jose, how are you, my friend? Doing good, Gary. I just want to say thank you. Thank you for always dropping knowledge and being there for me as a 42-year-old content creator who's also still maintaining the corporate life. I just want to say I appreciate everything. So in a world of AI, we keep talking about AI, AI, AI, but people aren't talking about EI and me as relationship manager, how important should I really double down on communication and emotional intelligence as people continue to kind of get away with that? Yeah, look, I don't think people are getting away from it at all. In fact, I think the big winner from the AI era in a decade are gonna be the people that understand the value of emotional intelligence and how to interact with people and where humanity comes in. I think a lot of people are going to gravitate towards more real things. This morning, I put out a post, I continue to believe that experiential businesses are gonna grow. I think concerts and rock climbing and sports and all these things that require us to be out in the world are gonna continue to grow. There's a lot of people who are gonna try to build AI apps because they want to be an entrepreneur where what they should really be building is New York City tour companies. I just think a lot more in that. I think as we get into a workforce where mundane skills become less effective, I think, and valuable, because they are being replaced by AI, I think what employers and companies and humans are gonna be looking for is good leadership, good management, and I think it's a game of both. I don't think you can just go into this nirvana, utopia idea of like, I'm just gonna be a nice guy and I'm gonna make a million dollars a year because I'm nice and I care about people. I don't think that's what I'm actually saying. What I'm saying is, someone who has a grasp of what the AI tools are, and is a manager of people that use AI tools within an organization, and is the human that is creating good culture and emotional intelligence, and as a manager has HR-like tendencies, I think is going to have a real earful right here in front of them, and so I think a lot of people are talking about emotional intelligence and leadership as a growing value, because there's gonna be a lot of people managing, a lot of people that are managing a lot of AI bots. Again, big companies are gonna have 35 people using AI with the power of 400 people, right, that are gonna need managers to keep that effectiveness and culture going, we're still humans. So that's what I think, brother. Good luck, pleasure. Pleasure. Appreciate you. This is the Notorious Ninja signed pack, comic number seven, the origin story and the first appearance of the Notorious Ninja. If you don't know what VFriends is, you are breaking my little heart. My tiny, tiny little heart is broken. This is my Pokemon, this is my Dalvin dog hat that is not released yet, that I'm very excited about. And it's a universe of 250 characters. Think of it as Pokemon meets Marvel meets Sesame Street. I am building one of the most important electable intellectual property companies of this generation, is my hope and my dream and the efforts I'm putting in. So please go to vfriends.com and check it out. And this is being given away for free on Whatnot right now. Please enter the top right corner. All you have to do is click the button. For everybody who's on Instagram, YouTube, everywhere else, come over to garyvee.com slash whatnot. That's it, once you get in there. Why do people value 50 no's so much, but not 50 views? That's a great question. I think people value 50 no's versus 50 views for a very specific reason, which has become weirdly my life's work. I think that people are wildly insecure. And so when they get 50 views, they think that's a failure because other people get millions of views. And I always say this, like I wish they could see 50 people in a room to see how powerful getting 50 views is. I think the reason that they get so fucked up by both 50 views and 50 no's is they take them both as negatives. So I think they view both those things as negative. For me and for others, I think that there's just an incredible thirst to persevere through adversity. I think some of us, me included and others that I've seen, had the fortune of struggling early on and it didn't break them. Some people struggle early on and it breaks them and they become cynical and mad at the world. Other people have struggles and it becomes a motivation. The people that have struggles oftentimes have unconditional love in their family that allows them to believe. So for me, I'm incredibly fortunate that even though I had plenty of struggles in my youth, I had incredible love for my mother, which made me be able to persevere. Other people that have struggles may not be as fortunate to have a mother or father that are giving them that love and then are in search of that and it compounds their insecurity. So much happens in your childhood. But again, we can't weaponize our childhoods. There's plenty of things that happened in my, as incredible as my mother and father are, there are things that they did that in hindsight put me in a vulnerable spot that I wasn't able to see and instead of blaming them, I've used my adulthood to work on it. I think that this becomes a big obsession of mine and you know this, I bring this up often, which is at what age? As a matter of fact, everybody in Whatnot, please give me the number here. At what age do you believe it is time to no longer blame your parents and your circumstance and to, as the kids say, adult up and start saying, okay, mom and dad fucked this up, life fucked this up, but I am strong enough to address this and now I have to start working on it. Instead of pointing fingers, I can go thumbs and I can start going. And so we're seeing a lot of answers, right, in the chat right now. And a lot of people are hovering between 18 and 25. Some people are saying 30, somebody said 40, which I think is a wrench. But a lot of people are saying these numbers but they're not living it. Watch this, we're gonna have a very vulnerable moment right now. A lot of you just put a number in. How many of you put in a number yet you have passed that number and you continue to blame mommy, daddy, the government, the mayor, the governor, the president, the system, like own it, own it, say me. Say capital me, right? And so, look, a lot of people are gonna say me. There's a lot of people being honest here, which I *******, I adore you all and that's what these mornings are about altogether to start getting into that place, right? And for everyone who says me, this is the moment. Maybe this is the team with Gary Vee where do you realize I'm done blaming my boss, my mom, the system, America, Canada, India. Everyone here is capable. Everyone's capable of cutting negativity out of their lives even if it's hard, like your mom, your dad, your spouse. You're allowed to get divorced. You're allowed to limit your interaction with your, you're like, this guy says, someone said my cheating wife. Yet you're allowed to forgive your cheating wife for her sins in your mind and move on. You're allowed. Or you could be one of those people that sits and rolls in that mud for the rest of their life. You could be mad that the opportunities aren't there for you in India or you could spend 100% of your time trying to get working visas in other places where you think there's more opportunities. You're just allowed in life. You're just allowed. This is life. You're just allowed. You're allowed to dwell and you're allowed to attack. You're allowed to cry and you're allowed to wipe off your tears and go at it. I will say this. People in worse mental, physical, and emotional situations than you have been able to persevere and get out, you know? And so, and you gotta try different things. Like, whatever's, a lot of people that are stuck aren't trying different things. They keep going to the same well, whether it's one person in their family that allows them to complain, same kind of therapist, same kind of content, same kind of, like, we need to change our ---- if you're not happy. I think they value both 50 no's and 50 views by not valuing them. They don't value them. I value no's, their feedback, their motivation, and their information. I value 50 views because I think 50 is incredible. Like, I've had a lot of people say, Gary, why are you doing it on one night? You only have 443 people watching. You know, as we know on TikTok, I have 60. You know, like, I don't know, because I've never been in a place where no matter where I'm at, I'm not insecure. I love when people are like, oh, Gary Vee, you've fallen off, you only got, like, a thousand likes on this post. I'm like, what are you, like, I don't understand. You know, I do not, if I didn't give a **** of people making fun of me in middle school, you think I'm gonna ******* give a **** of anyone here trolling? I've only had sympathy for you. I only have compassion for your anger towards me. I only have sympathy. I am not affected by your tough guy words on Twitter. I'll ******* beat your ass, do you understand? Like, do you think you can beat me? I am an emotional ******* savant. I will blow you out the water. I'm not scared of you. I'll roll up on you, say three things, and you will crumble like a bitch, because you are insecure, tough guy, gal. The easiest person to punk is a keyboard warrior. They're soft as ----, but I'm not gonna hurt you back. I feel bad for you. I love you. I want for you, like, but if you feel like you're getting off on, like, ******* trying to tear somebody down, me or anybody else, like, I don't know what to tell you, but real winners see you, or the losing situation you're in. I see you. I see you for all your weakness, and I don't care for you, man. I want you out. These people got you twisted out there. I see you. You're losing, and I'm here to take your anger, because you can't penetrate me, and I'll take it, and I know other people will take it, and I hope you, I hope you can get your poison out by trying to punch me, but your punches aren't landing, and you need to know that, and your punches aren't landing on anybody else who's winning inside. Punches are only landing on other hurt people, and that's a rolling in the mud that you need to get the **** out of, because this is the Notorious Ninja signed pack, comic number seven, the origin story, and the first appearance of the Notorious Ninja. If you don't know what Be Friends is, you are breaking my little heart. My tiny, tiny, little heart is broken. This is my Pokemon. This is my Dalvin dog hat that is not released yet, that I'm very excited about, and it's a universe of 250 characters. Think of it as Pokemon meets Marvel meets Sesame Street. I am building one of the most important, electable, intellectual property companies of this generation, is my hope, and my dream, and the efforts I'm putting in, so please go to BeFriends.com and check it out, and this is being given away for free on WhatNot right now. Kylie's asking, I started a business with my fiance. He's great at talking about what we should do, but I'm usually the one executing. He works, but it's hard to get him to take the business seriously. How do I get him to be disciplined and consistent? Ooh, this is a tough question. This happens a lot with partners. People have very different working styles. It gets much harder in family businesses. You're in kind of like pseudo family in fiance land, right? You're kind of like half-pregnant family when you're engaged, and so this makes it even harder. One thing that I'm a very big fan of as a leader, and I think she's leading in this situation, is realizing it's very hard to change people, but what I try to focus on is how to put people in positions to succeed based on who they actually are. What you need to be careful about in that scenario is putting too much on yourself and creating resentment. This is a formula for breakup, both in business and in your relationship, so I tread here lightly. This is like a real combo. There's just a lot of talkers out there. The world is filled with talkers who complain and envy and deploy jealousy and hate towards doers. I ask a lot of you to use this morning's show to figure out where you sit on the talking and doing spectrum. Listen, I do a lot of talking. I don't think talking is bad. I think talking without doing is bad. Muhammad Ali did a lot of talking, and then he did it in the ring. He's the greatest. A lot of people have done a lot of talking and then have gone out and done it. I think this is a tough conversation, but I think she needs to be honest with him. I think candor is the actual answer to this question. I think she needs to explain what her point of view is on this. Now, a lot of talkers often are incredibly insecure. Most people don't do things in life because they're insecure. They fear, and I talk about this all the time. You all know where I'm about to go. They fear losing in front of others. So if she addresses him and brings up that, hey, man, I love your energy for it, the ambition for it, but I end up doing all this stuff, he may get triggered by that. Insecure people, when called out, narcissistic people, when called out, really hate that ----. Baby doesn't like to be put into the corner when they're trying to peacock. A lot of talkers use the talking as a disguise, as a front. Ego is defined in my mind, at least one man's point of view, as insecurity with makeup on, and so with a Halloween costume on. So I'm concerned about how he'll receive her feedback if she goes candorous on this. I'm a big fan of couples therapy. I think, you know, as I'm now what, 11 days away from being 50, I'm a big fan of people who can afford therapy to use it. Even when they don't seem like there's something wrong in the relationship, I think sometimes it's offense versus defense. I think people wait too long for it. Good maintenance, like going to the gym. By the way, I figured out that my outer left glute is incredibly weak and tight. In the last week, and it's really helping me. I'm like loosening up my back through my heavy stretching. So like this morning, 45 minutes of like heavy stretching, especially on my left, like my outer left glute, whatever that's called. And that's kind of how I think about therapy and like meditation, how I think about this show. You know, one of my great ambitions for Tea with GaryVee is doing this early in the morning and maybe getting people's mind right around, Ayo! Right, that's what we do here, Ezra. You know, we're very big on who knows what Ayo is, who's new and has no idea what just happened, and who's an OG already from last week when I retired and I'm retired. A lot happened last week. Honestly, that might be it. I'm retiring. That's a wrap. I'm upset. I'm not sure if I should ever make another piece of content in my life. It's sad, man. This is it. I think it's over. I think all of it. Sorry, bye, Instagram. I'm done. No, no, I'm done. I'm retired. I'm out. I'm retired. I do not do content anymore. A lot happened. Oh, big winner, Haggard76. You just won $100. Literally, if you don't give a ---- about this, get this in the mail and post it on eBay. Thousands do, and they will buy it. I like this little giveaway. I know a lot of you wanna buy. You know, I talk a lot about live social shopping. Here we are on Whatnot. Let me show you how it's done. We're gonna literally post this. This comic is $35 a pack. You can actually get a rare cover. You can see these rare covers in the back. The rarity guide. You might be able to get the one-of-one lollipop that probably worth thousands of dollars. So if you want one of these packs to open, here's what happens. Let's see what I got here. Ooh, I got a David Mack cover. So I got a good one here. I didn't get the common one. If you're a comic book nerd, you know who David Mack is. Pretty excited about this. Really epic comic. Origin story of the Notorious Ninja. A really good story. Ezra, let's put up 30 packs for 35 bucks a piece. If you've never bought anything ever in your life on Whatnot, you can actually get this for 20 bucks. $15 off by putting VF15 in your shopping cart or hitting this little yellow, Court, where is it? Come on. No race? This little post-it note? Click this little post-it note. Thank you, Court. Click this little post-it note and click the VF15 white button in there. That will put the code in automatically for you. Actually, I'm gonna sign this one too. Next giveaway as well, Ezra. Let's get another giveaway. This one's actually on the cover. Little Gary Vee sign. Free stuff here. Everybody who is on social media, go to GaryVee.com slash Whatnot. W-H-A-T-N-O-T. Everybody come over to GaryVee.com slash Whatnot. If you're on Instagram, YouTube, I see you. All of you get over here. Homes, pun quest goes, therapy is way overrated. Talk with your grandpa. Disagree. But this is what's amazing about the world. Everybody can have different opinions. Maybe, for example, Homes, Puns, Quest went to therapy and had a bad therapist. That happens. What do you think, all therapists are good? I think a lot of therapists are full of ---- and aren't trying to get to the solve and just trying to keep you on the payroll. Like, there's a lot of things out there. But nothing is absolute. But the concept of getting your poison out, one of the great things that is ******* up every one of you. By the way, I don't give a **** if you go to a therapist. Go to the ******* woods. Literally go to the woods this weekend. Go to the woods in the middle of nowhere and just scream out your poison. What I promise you is globally historically true is the number one thing that's ******* all of you up is you're keeping poison inside of you. And most of your buckets are small. I always used to yell at my dad. I was like, dad, your bucket to getting upset is like filling up this little cup and mine and mom's is like the ocean. And I used to think that's a strength, but I would argue that just because me and my mom have the ocean to take the resentment and the anger from everyone, eventually that pulls over. And which one's better? Neither. Get your ******* poison out. For everybody who wants to learn what social shopping is, literally click that little button at the bottom if you want to start your journey. A great comic to read to your kids this weekend. Just click it right down below. You just hit buy. It's literally Apple Pay. Boom, boom, as they say. Somewhere in the world. All right, let's keep it going. Raghav, what's good? Hi, Gary. I don't know if you remember me, but I'm gonna give you a second to recognize me. You have seen me twice. Remind me, brother. I apologize. It's from week on one. I was there in Minneapolis. I'm glad. It's great to see you again, brother. Yeah, and I wanted to ask you, so we were in Canada at that time, but now I've moved back to India with my family. I wanted to, I know I can crush it in like what not live shopping, but I don't know how to get in because India is not in yet. So how can I take advantage of that? Because India is not in as. Well, you can't be in something if it's not there yet. Yeah. Right, like if I was like sitting here in America, I was like, I know that I can be remarkable at cricket, but nobody in America plays cricket and cricket was banned in America for some weird reason. Well, then I would have to move to Pakistan or India to play cricket or Australia or England. You know, I understand you think you could crush live shopping, but if the live shopping function is not available yet in India, well, then what are we talking about? So you have two options. You can continue to get educated and be prepared for when it is or you can move again. Yeah, and there was one more thing. So I have been selling on Amazon and online marketplaces since I was 16. I was working in Walmart, doing all of the stuff with high school. And when I left my job, I was working full-time for Amazon. And now with the- One second, Raghav, one second. Somebody in the chat saying Kiko and Amazon Live both work in India. I don't know about Amazon Live. I only know about TikTok shop and whatnot. They both don't. That's fine, but this is what you could have done, Raghav. Yes, I know you're about to watch me do it, but you're gonna have to eat it. Hey, chat, is live social shopping available in India? I know that TikTok is banned in India and I don't think whatnot's there, but I could be wrong. Which three or four apps right now are doing live social shopping the way whatnot and TikTok shop are doing in the US and obviously how China is a half a trillion dollar economy? Is there any app that's leading right now in live shopping in India? Maybe eBay Live, I've seen them starting to get going. But can you give me the top three, please? You have to understand, if there is an actual answer to this right now, I'm coming to India to punch you in the neck. You know that, right? I'm coming to India. Amazon Live works. Flipkart works. Me Show. ------- Me Show. Why are you not on the Me Show? Yeah, that's right, India. Why the **** are you coming on my show saying it's not there yet when you *******, yeah, you know Me Show. But I was more focusing on US side. I have only sold in Canada and US. I was looking at the export. But you were in India. Yeah. Okay, so I look into that, the Amazon and Me Show live shopping. Yes, because you're in India. Yeah. And I just have one more question. Are you gonna be doing another VCon anytime soon or in a couple of years? Yes, but I'm not doing one until I see you on Me Show. I'll see you when I'm on Amazon Live and Me Show. Please. Yeah. And never call into another show where the answer could be done in one second. Yeah. Raghav, I love you, but I hate you. Another thing was, I just wanted to talk to you in person, so that was. That's fine, that I respect, that I respect. That's a fair, that's good, but don't come and embarrass yourself. This is forever on the internet. Your kids one day are gonna be like, daddy, why didn't you go on team with Gary V and ask such a stupid question? No, no, I'm totally fine with that. I'm not embarrassed. I've just started making content on social media, so I'm not embarrassed at all. I have left all of that. Well, now, Raghav, you redeemed yourself and I love you. Now, I'm not gonna punch you in the neck. Now, I'm gonna kiss you in the neck. Thank you so much. Punch and kiss. All right, brother, we'll see you later. All right, let's keep it moving. Ray's asking, my young daughter struggles in school, even though I tell her that grades don't define her. The school system pushes these kids to know what they wanna be and have good grades, making her feel like a failure. I've shown her some of your clips, but can you give her some specific words of wisdom? Ray, listen, to your daughter, she's not gonna just believe her dad after a couple of times. This is a constant flow. You can send her my clips. Look, either she wants to be common sense oriented. I don't know how old she is. When you're seven, when you're 10, when you're 12, it's harder to believe that you could be successful without getting good grades. When you're 15, 17, 19, it becomes more clear. What is success? I think needs to have a real conversation. I actually think one of the worst things that's going in society right now is followers, money, clout, stuff is the definition. In a way that we've never had, we've become dramatically over materialistic. It's nice and fine, and you're allowed to have certain things and want certain things. And if you love fast cars or collectibles, you're allowed. But I really struggle with first defining success. I think success is really defined by, did you wake up this morning? Actually, let's do this. And honestly, no bullshitting in the chat. And everybody from social media, you need to come to garyvee.com slash whatnot, W-H-A-T-N-O-T, to answer this question because the answers are officially only real on whatnot. So for 400 of you this morning, if I said from zero to 10, 10 being you felt no anxiety in your chest, you woke up this morning and you're like, thank you ******* God for another day, another day where nobody called me with an emergency last night because someone in my family died or had a tragedy. Today's gonna be awesome, that's a 10. Zero is, I don't even wanna live tomorrow much more. I'm like very unhappy, everything's fucked. Where are you from one to 10, zero to 10? Give me your numbers. And so like I'm looking at these numbers, right? A lot of good numbers here and it makes sense that a lot of people in those four and five, three is a tough number. I just saw a three, which is not super fun for me. Everybody answering on social, your answers are not official. garyvee.com slash whatnot, W-H-A-T-N-O-T, come over here right now, come and hang. I think success is waking up with something between a seven and 10 this morning to that question. But you need to pout, brother. You need to talk about it every day, not once in a while. And eventually you will break through. My daughter's 16 right now. And I've definitely seen a shift in how she sees the world in the last year. And I think a lot of people will go through that as parents. There's some, and we're all, we've all gone from 12 to 16 to 22. I think those 10 years are insane. Think about yourself at 12. Think 16, think 22. That's a lot of growing up in a 10-year window. You might be frustrated right now because she doesn't see it right now, but give it some time, give it some time, and make sure that she's defining success with happiness, not stuck. Optic Beezy with the big win on this, congratulations. Next, I wanna give these away. So, all right, we're gonna give one of these away, the minis, this I'm really into. These are one of my favorite products. This is a toy that you put on your desk. When you're at, so this is the, perfect. This is the Gratitude Gorilla. I genuinely believe if some of you put this on your desk in the morning when you come into work and you look at the Gratitude Gorilla, it might just remind you to be ******* grateful for what you have. Yes, your boss might be a dick, but you have the best husband in the world. What do you wanna focus on? I believe most people focus on boss's dick, right? I believe more people should focus on husband as the best. I've always, in times of anxiety or issues or challenges, before you buy this, it's $15 for a box. Before you buy this, who here has never bought anything? Who here has never bought anything on Whatnot? Say never bought, because you can get this for free. You can literally get this for free. You can literally hit this little white Post-it note right here. Everyone who just said never bought literally hit this little yellow Post-it note, this little yellow Post-it note. Oh, I'm above it a little high. There we go. Click this little yellow Post-it note and hit the VF15 button in the notes and you click that or put VF15 in the shopping cart. All 48 of these should be gone in seconds because I saw more than 48 of you have never bought. You'll literally get this for ******* free. Click down there, hit VF15 and literally check out. Free and enjoy it. Your BeFriends journey has begun. Anyway, I think more people, he needs to define success as happiness and lack of anxiety and joy and then he needs to continue to pound her that grades have no impact on that. Straight-A students are not universally happy. Straight-A students are not universally rich. I don't know how we have not had this conversation. It's period, end of story, it's truth. Let's keep it going. Chris. I lost my wife five years ago this month to COVID and I made sure to focus. Thank you, sir. I'm a big fan of yours. I've been watching you since you were on that app show and on the Apple channel, like for Apple TV when you went into that. Yes, I got into the apps. Thank you, Chris. Hell yeah. But I just wanna say that I think I got my boys graduated, I got them situated and now it's my turn. And so I decided, what the hell? I decided to jump into this whatnot stuff. I'm gonna start my own show coming up this week because of you and all the things you've said. But I just wanna know, I also had some Michael Jordan Gatorade cards that I won from Gatorade several years ago and I thought maybe I could trade them for just 15 minutes so I could come to New York and hang with you for like 15 minutes. I don't know, they're very rare. I still not throw that out there, shoot my shot. But anyway, I just wanted to throw that out there. Chris, first of all, that's your energy. I don't need your Jordan Gatorade cards though. If they're star cards, I need to see them because you need to get them graded. Okay. But I will give you 15 minutes in New York. The team will set it up for you in Q1 of 2026 just because I love the energy you're bringing here and I wanna give that to you. Dude, oh my God, thank you so much. Oh, I would love that, yes. So I've been a teacher all my life. And so, yeah, so I do that and enjoy that. But back in the day, I used to do some goofy things like on whatnot. So like we had like a live cable access. Oh, a breakdown of goofy things for Chris. I need to know what goofy things you did. This is getting good now. Yeah, goofy things. I used to sell like from 10 p.m. to 3 a.m. on a cable access channel, like crap in a box. So like when you like kind of, it's exactly what you need to be. You need to be on whatnot yesterday. Just don't sell crap this time. Sell something you believe in. No, you're right, absolutely, don't sell crap. That's right. Yeah, but it was so much fun and it was back in the day. And I've tried a little bit of everything. And I think basically what I was gonna say is the other things that I've learned is I've always wanted to be like a motivational speaker, talking about strength, especially after these last five years and what that looks like. And you talk a lot about being humble, a lot about just the strength and fighting through. And what you just said is so important for people to listen to. When you live through an experience like I have, and you understand that you're not losing, you're just learning about life and you're continuing on, it's a hard thing to keep a smile on your face and laugh about things, right? But man, ----, it is incredible once you come out on the other side. And I appreciate you because I listen to you almost daily and absorb all your content. So anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for that. Chris, you're such a inspiration. You went through one of the more challenging things that someone can go through, right? Losing a spouse at a young age. Did you have children, sir? Yeah, yeah, two boys. It was 40, let's see, I was what, 45? She died six days before her birthday, which would have made her 46, yeah. And so boys are 18 and 21. How old were the boys when your wife passed? Middle school and high school. They were 13 and 16. So I think when you battle those things, and it's funny because you know the balance between a mom and a dad and how that works. You're very familiar with that, with your wonderful family that you've been a part of. And just kind of working through that experience and what that looks like. It's tough because you still play that role of the dad, but then also, how do you make up that kind of that role for the mom too? And I think a lot of what you said too, my boys always talked about, well, we're just trying to, we've lost, we've done this, we've done this. I said, yes, but you know what? There's another reason behind all of this and we got to keep fighting through it. And I think that's, and I never let my boys understand. They always lost like in sports and things, like you said, it's always that feeling. And yeah, and just grow from that experience and what does that look like? And then how can they turn that into their motivation to continue and be strong? Both my parents lost a parent very young. My mom lost her mom at five and my dad lost his dad at 15. And I've talked about openly about how fearing the death of my parents was the backdrop of my life, like the theme of my life. And I think a lot of my gratitude comes from the fact that I went through my youth where that very challenging thing did not happen. And I think it's just so wonderful that you were on this show, Chris, because I believe that there's a lot of people, this is what's happened in our society, unfortunately. There's a lot of people in the chat right now that are struggling with very lightweight things. They're struggling with, they don't have extra income to buy silly stuff. Like literally they're sitting right now watching and their biggest issue that really eats them up is that they don't have extra money to buy a Lexus or a Birka bag or go to the Four Seasons in Hawaii, like someone they saw on social or someone in their neighborhood. And it's eating them up. Envy, jealousy around materialistic things. And then a gentleman like you comes on who has gone through a real adversity, losing your wife during COVID and then having to raise your two children by yourself at an incredibly fragile time in their lives. 13 to 16 for boys is a profoundly challenging time. And the fact that you had the strength and the energy that you come on here with and the optimism and the hope and just what you're doing, I hope wakes somebody like, not only thank God for your boys, they were lucky to have you, right? And I do believe the incredible challenge of losing their mother can become the foundation of their happiness. I really believe that. I believe adversity is the foundation of success and happiness. But Chris, the reason you need to go on whatnot and get out there is, I'm convinced that you just helped someone in this chat. Convinced. Convinced that somebody just got shook and said, this ******* dude is coming on with this energy and I'm crying about some dumb ass ----, right? Like people are crying about dumb ass ---- and literally just felt what it would feel like right now to lose their spouse and all the pressures of keeping up the financial impact. There's people right now that could lose their spouse. I don't know if your wife worked or not, but some people here are the stay-at-home parent and could lose their spouse, who not only is their spouse and would be their mom or dad to their kids, but also the finance. There's people that literally had to go to work today, literally today, Monday in the world. Somebody had to go to work today on November 3rd, Monday in the world, who'd never worked in their adult life because their spouse took care of the finances and that spouse passed away last month a couple weeks ago and that person has to go to work. People have real adversities out here. Yeah, no, you're right. I think when people always ask why you don't get stressed, like they say, well, Chris, nothing ever shakes you. I said, yeah, it doesn't shake you when you see your wife hooked to a machine and can't breathe. You know what I mean? Of course. Nothing shakes you. And by the way, Chris, I've never had that happen to me and nothing shakes me because the serendipity of my DNA parenting circumstance. There's people who are unshakeable who just have simplicity in their heart. It's simplicity that we need, my friend. I love it. Yes, sir. What the **** does everybody need? What do you need? You know, people are very confused out here that they think stuff is gonna close the gap of their heart. Yeah, it doesn't. I cannot explain to you how many people I've watched get more stuff and get more unhappy because here's what happens to people that believe that money and stuff will solve it. They get there and it doesn't and then are completely fucked up. Yeah, it's been an absolute honor. Do you have a whatnot username yet? Yeah, I think it's just ChrisK54. It's me holding the microphone, it's the picture. I see it. Everybody, please follow, all 400 of you in here, follow, everyone's following you right now, Chris. There we go. Oh man, bless you, sir. Bless what you do. Thank you so much. And hey, I can't wait to come visit you in 2026. I'm pumped. This is awesome. What a blessing. Thank you, sir. Appreciate it. Bye-bye. Everybody, as we're tuning off here on today's show, if it's your first show, make sure you go to the top left corner and follow Vee Friends. 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