Hustle Culture is what Leads to Inconsistency

Consistency is a great thing but it's important to know I think just how we can be consistent and how we can't be what's realistic when in ter comes to consistency consistency is this this is not consistent right there's no way we can maintain consistency when we are filling our life and our day with endless lists of things that we feel that we need to do and stay consistent in consistency by definition is this. It's a small narrowly defined thing that you feel will move you in the right direction and it's true that if you do maintain consistency in it, it will move you in the right direction. The problem our conditioning is that this tends to because our social conditioning our culture tends to expand as a sort of a mission creep thing that comes in and I see this time and time again with people. It's uh it's very interesting actually because people will sometimes say okay this is what I'm doing. I'm going to stay consistent in this. Everything else is secondary but this is what I'll stay consistent in. And they'll notice that it works. um they'll start to feel better emotionally. They'll start to feel like there's a sense of progress in their life. And you'd imagine that would be proof enough for us to say, well, just going to stick to the plan. That's it. I'm just uh going to stay consistent in this and everything else is secondary. with that conditioning. It's that thing of um never enough, more needs to be added that takes us away from what works and we end up paying the price for that later on because this never works. This is going to overwhelm your nervous system to the point where you can't really stay consistent in anything. Your nervous system kind of goes on strike after a while with it. So, our job here is always to be coming back to this. What's this for me? What is this that I can stay consistent in? It's doable and it's meaningful. It's significant for me. It hits something emotionally within myself. Or you could even think about it in terms of your your time and your energy, right? Do you have this much time and energy in your day? Really? Actually, in my experience, people have this much time and energy in their day. So, it's like, okay, what am I going to use my time and energy for in this range of time? And that's where I'll try and stay consistent in. But the the little voice and that's kind of why I keep making these videos. It's kind of to help people with um reminders that we all kind of live with that internal voice of this is not enough. You're going to have to keep adding. You're going to have to do more. It's not enough. You're not finished yet. We need reminders. We need a sort of a a push back to the cultural conditioning that we all received. And I hope that's what these videos can help with. Ultimately the fascinating thing about it is well why do we have this thing within ourselves that tends to keep you know introduce that mission creep into our life and it's never enough I'll talk about this more I think in other videos because it's a recent enough insight I've had it comes from this idea we talk about low self-esteem right feelings of unworthiness I think a lot of this mission creep and this expansion of never enough things have been done in my life comes from an aspect of that unorthodiness that low self-esteem and I would refer to it always as a sense of impotency or a lack of uh potency in oneself. Imagine for a moment you did have a real sense of you are highly uh effective, right? You're highly impactful. You're highly potent in what you do. It would be very easy to maintain that cuz you'd have a sense that's the only time I need. I only need that much time. But when we have a sense of I'm kind of impotent, you know, metaphysically, psychologically speaking, or um I'm not that impactful. I'm not very capable. I'm not very effective in what I do. Well, I'm going to have to compensate by saying, okay, this now is going to be required. So, it is always that first thing. It's the identity issue we have is that how am I seeing myself here? Now, that's very unconscious for most people. Most of us are not aware of that low self-esteem all the time, right? But what we are aware of is that our behavior start to change. We'll notice ourselves adding more to the list of things that need to be do to be done. the ever expanding list. And in that expanding, what we're actually doing is we're training ourselves, we're teaching ourselves that that identity, that um low efficacy, not very impactful identity that we have, we're training ourselves that that's real. But the converse is also true. If we can train ourselves, this is what I do. It's very useful. Stay consistent in this. It's impactful. I'm impactful. We're actually undermining the original story that's there for most of us, right? So again, it's this is another video to remind you that it's great to be per productive. It's great to stay consistent, but really the bigger thing that we're working on here is our sense of self, our sense of identity, seeing ourselves as uh not weak, vulnerable. Well, we are vulnerable. Everybody's vulnerable, but weak and powerless, right? That's kind of the identity that a lot of us have. And then we have to go out and adjust and overcompensate in ways that are very destructive or ways that are going to put ourselves under so much pressure that we go into a freeze response and we can't do anything anyway. So what is this for you? Right? Keep on attuning to that when you got so much time and energy and challenge yourself to look at whatever it is you've been doing in your life and look at your exhaustion. Look at your overwhelm. Maybe it looks something like this. Maybe it's been doing this for a while. You can bring it back to this. This is how you stay consistent, right? Very very narrowly defined time, energy requirements. And I stay consistent in it. It's meaningful. It's impactful for me. Anything other than that, you almost by definition you will not and cannot stay consistent in over a long period of time. And certainly, you can't do it and stay psychologically balanced, I would say. So that's the invitation. Find out what it is. Keep those boundaries narrow about that thing that's important to you. Focus on that and work on that social conditioning of why it is I believe I need to to do X Y and Z so so much and realize that a part of it is to do with our own sense of identity, our own kind of trauma stuff about unworthiness and not being very impactful people. But you can you can undermine that by keeping tighter boundaries with that one thing that you want to stay consistent with. Hope that's a useful concept. If you want to talk with me, you can go to my website. The link below is uh will take you to a site where you can um you can contact me if you want to do onetoone work. You can also join a group that I run on Wednesdays and you can find out information about the groups that I run on my website. Also, if you like this video, like it and subscribe to the channel. It really helps me reach more people. And if you subscribe, you'll also be more likely to see future videos. really. Um, thank you for being here and I will see you again in the next video. Take care of yourself. Bye-bye.