Woman Finally Figures Out How to Be a Good Wife to Her Husband

That he'd really, really love it if, when he came home from work, I was there at the door to greet him. Obviously, that's not gonna work. Wanna be his breath of fresh air. Come home to you, not drama. Taking care of your husband means only one thing. To be a good wife. But there's one thing that you absolutely need to be good at. A married man out there who doesn't want to be his wife's hero. Women that are with great men don't know how to be quiet. I don't wear too much delusion. I don't go 50-50. Talk to men who can't plan a date. We are not accepting the bare minimum. Welcome back to Moda Life. Before we get into this video, like, comment, subscribe. Also, smash that notification bell just to be sure you get all my videos as soon as I release them. Let's get right into this. So, my husband says to me last night that he'd really, really love it if, when he came home from work, I was there at the door to greet him. My first initial reaction to this was, so you're telling me you want me to be one of the 1950s wives who come to the door when you're back from work with some warm slippers and have some dinner ready at the table for you. That's what you're asking me to do? Obviously, that's not gonna work. He looked at me and he explained something which actually made a lot of sense. He said he's not expecting any of that from me, but he did say the way that it makes him feel when I give him a really nice greeting, as opposed to what normally happens, which is he comes in through the door, I'm in the thick of it with the children, making dinner, rushing around. I do a quick high bow and I carry on with what I'm doing. He said it really makes such a difference for him, for his mindset, preparing him to be able to actually come into the battlefield, his words, the battlefield, and actually work as a team to get through the whole dinner, bath, bed time routine. And I thought about it after my initial shock horror reaction, and I thought actually, it's nothing on me if I take out two minutes when he gets home and just come give him a nice big hug, make him feel so special, and then we can get into it together. So I'm going to try it tonight when he comes home. We'll see how it goes. I like that. I like her attitude. Very considerate wife, right? For her to say, I'm going to try it tonight when he comes home and see how he reacts, it shows that she cares. She didn't make it all about her. Say, I'm home all day with the kids doing this and doing that and cooking and cleaning. Didn't use that. The man just wants some reciprocation. He wants to know he's appreciated and he's aware he's willing to take on the load that he understands both of you need to handle together when he comes home, which is getting the kids ready for bed. He's ready for that. As you said, he would do it all. But let's get on and see what happens next. For those of you wanting an update about how greeting my husband when he came home from work last night went, here it is. I actually thought it would be really funny to get all the kids involved in this just for that day, just to see how it went. I told them all before, when I call you, when daddy gets home, we're all going to rush outside. We'll start cheering, go, yay, daddy's home, daddy's home, and then give him big hugs and see how his reaction was. So when my husband pulled up, I shouted for the kids, come on, come on, let's go. Daddy's here. Let's go. They were all so excited and in the mad rush to get to the front door, one of my sons tripped over the dog. He then started crying. My daughter, who saw this, started laughing at him. They started arguing. The dog was barking. It was all chaos. So only a few of us made it outside. I explained to my husband what the plan was. We did all give him a hug, albeit a bit delayed. And the first thing he did was turn around to me. He goes, oh, that literally just made my day, even if it went a bit wrong. How can I help you? Bless him. And then, yeah, we basically worked together as a team, went through the whole dinner bath, bedtime routine. And then in the evening, I got a nice foot rub, which was lovely. So yeah, yeah, it's all working out well. Although I'm not going to involve the kids next time. I think it's just going to be me. That probably was his lucky night. But you should have took the thought to just rub his feet. He's the one that went out to work. Rub his feet. But I'm not going to get into that. You did it. He know that you cares about him. That's what a man needs. That's what keeps a man from filing divorce himself, right? Because I'm not going to say 100% of divorces happen because of women. Because we know it's not, right? That stopped him. Or if he had any doubts ever, that went all out of his mind. Any doubts that you were there for him has left because you showed it. You showed you care. And that's all a man wants. So simple. He's telling you exactly what he wants. Let me read his comments. It says, Imagine that. You showed him a bit of love and he reciprocated it. Who would have thought? It's amazing how little us men need to make us happy. We don't need much. This is true. Love and attention goes a very long way, both ways. After the foot rub, did he get, of course, she didn't answer that, which a married woman never tells, right? Now, next one says, that's amazing. Is it wrong? I came here to see if there were comments about how him asking how he can help will be adding to your mental load. All men want is peace at home. I played this to my husband and he said I would love a hug when I come home too. It will make me feel happy. So I'm doing this too now. Look at that. Another lady wants to do the same thing for her man. So now, we got something that happened. You being considerate made another woman show her husband and she wants to be considerate to him as well. Do this here. She's saving another marriage. Look at that. Positivity. We do more of this on TikTok. Instead of the rah, rah, rah. I'm not doing nothing for no man. A man has to do for me. Now, we see married couples doing for each other. Look at that. This is The Good Wife's Guide. How you can be a good wife to your partner. I'm not forcing this down your throat to tell you to do this or don't. Don't want to do it? Then don't. Skip this video. But I'm telling you what works. And have dinner ready on the table. Never let your man go hungry. A man's heart truly is through their stomach. So make sure you cook for them and make sure they're not hungry. Two, take care of yourself. Meaning, don't let yourself go. Okay, the guy that I'm in love with, that's who he wants. Get yourself up, make sure you shower, brush your hair. Just make sure your appearance is pleasant and nice. So we're humans. You don't have to do this all the time, obviously. Three, you want to be his breath of fresh air. Be happy and excited to see him. He's been at work all day, stressed out. The last thing he wants to do is come home to a grumpy or sad wife. Four, tidy up the house. Okay, I know. It shouldn't be all on you. The chores should be shared. But if you want your man to come home to you and be happy, make it a good environment for him to come home to. Five, don't complain too much. Don't be drama. Your man wants to come home to you, not drama. The drama for your girlfriends or a time when you're out to brunch with them. Men don't want that. They want to enjoy you and your pleasantness. Last disclaimer, I'm not saying you have to do these things. I'm just saying it works. Believe me or not. I don't care. Do with this information what you want. Bye. I love it. I love it. No, it's not that you have to, but actually it is. Don't sugarcoat it for them. The other lady just before you realized she needed to do that. And the man showed he loves it. I mean, when you come home, right, especially if she's home all day, you don't want to see someone unpleasant. You want to come to your food cook. You want to come to come home to a happy woman with a smile on her face, showing you why she's happy or showing you some appreciation because you feel appreciated when you come home. Someone's happy smile at you. They go. Taking care of your husband is not taking care of his food. It's not taking care of his kids. It's not taking care of his clothes. It's not even taking care of his business or his parents. Taking care of your husband means only one thing the bedroom. Oh, yes. So many guys have sexless marriages that you can't man. It's while like it's an epidemic in America. Like it's a known thing. Guys have been saying it for years. You don't get married. Once you get married, that stops, right? And why is it that way? You should want to do that. Your husband, you should feel that you desire him. You should be thinking about him almost daily, right? Unless you're at the age where you hit menopause, but most of you are not. Most of you are 30 years old, 20 years old, and you act like you're older. I understand. I know how it is. You get tired of being with the same person, but you marry. You supposed to do it. Guys, now I got somebody right here. That's unexpected, right? And she's talking about how she's called you to her husband and it'll blow your mind because you go, wait a minute, not her. And yes, take it with a grain of salt, but I look at what she's saying as her telling other woman. You need to be this way. A lot of it's probably acting, but you don't keep a husband because she's kept her husband for a long time by acting. I'm sure a lot of it's real. Let's get into it. Another technique on how to be a good girlfriend or wife. Keep an open mind. Don't just shut everything down that he talks about. Oh, that's stupid. That's not going to work or who I don't like that. I would love to hear more about that. Just let him talk about it. You ain't got to agree with it. Just let him talk. Don't be his competition. Don't debate with him. If you don't agree with something, just do like this. I never thought about that. The more they talk, the worse the idea was found and shut it down itself. Don't get in arguments over stupid petty stuff, okay? Because I have seen women that have gotten in arguments over stupid stuff and lost their man. I just walk away. They come find me. If you're arguing with someone, it's because they're getting to you emotionally. You don't let them get to you emotionally. If you can't argue with someone, it's because you're not emotionally involved. Realize, you know, she walked away. She's not even going to argue with you. Wow, she must be thinking about moving on. Yeah, and what she's saying is right. Think about it. You don't want to be a confrontational woman. Because then you're not being a woman. Stay in your feminine, and you'll be fine. And yes, I know she gives a lot of bad advice, but she's sort of right about this. My husband and I are married for almost 15 years and together almost 20. So here's something that I've learned over the course of our relationship. You don't really have to be good at a lot of things to be a good wife. But there's one thing that you absolutely need to be good at. To find things. No less than 10 times a day, my husband would ask me to find him things. And most of them are right in front of him. So technically, you don't really need to be good at anything. She's right, but you know, she's coming from the land of the Xiongnu. Yeah, Xiongnu, which means leftover women. And you know, she kept her man being polite, being gentle. You can hear in a way she's talking, right? We already know she's at the age where she's about to be over the wall. But this is one thing you don't hear her talking about, right? She has because she has a husband and she's giving advice how to be a good wife. Now, I just reacted to a video where a bunch of ladies were talking about how they're going to get a man and they her age. There's a bunch of ladies right now in China that are doing the same thing. They're fighting over guys at the marriage markets. That's not her. Why? Because she's doing this the same as the woman in the first video, right? I'm sure he's coming home. She's smiling. She's not arguing with him causing controversy. And that's what it's all about. There's this little marriage hack. I've learned after being married for like nine years and it is this let your man be your hero. I know you were born into this society where we praise boss babes and being independent and empowered, but let that go let that go for a little bit and see how it makes you feel. You don't have to be in charge of everything. You don't have to be in control of everything. You can just let him do things. It's like sometimes we feel like we have to do everything and we feel like we have to be in control. And if you're married to a man who is like basically good, you don't have to be like that. It is so freeing to let go of that and to just sit back and watch your man do something for you. Just let him. It's so fun. It's like it's hard for me to just like sit back sometimes because I feel bad. I feel like oh I need to help out with that or I need to do something or like I'm sorry that you did that or like they love to do things like that. There is not a married man out there who doesn't want to be his wife's hero. It doesn't exist. It's in their blood. It's in their DNA to want to help you and to want to serve you and to want to be your hero and it's in your blood to receive and to be taken care of let it happen. You know for the most part I tell you they would have to already have it in them, right? Because if they're not like that. Nowadays guys are so smart like me back when you got married. It could have been 10 years ago eight years ago. Maybe maybe longer but nowadays a guy she has to let him do things because if she's in a modern woman on top of things a guy's not going to marry her. That's straight up. So, I mean she's going to pretty much understand the happy wife hack already, but you do have some out there. This is good advice because there's some out there that are married now that are in her boat. They haven't married for 10 years, right? And don't feel that way for like they need to stress everything and we're on top of everything and yeah, she's right at the end of the day. Let your hair down because a man wants a damsel in distress. He wants to be her backbone at the end of the day. He wants to be her he wants to be there for her so she can have a lot of load and he wants the same thing her turn being a good wife. You need to have proper conflict resolution as well. Well you and your husband because having proper conflict resolution will either make or break the marriage and if you both can't be able to have an argument come to a compromise and then be able to smile after in some sort of way if it's not the same day or the day after that's an issue. So work on your conflict resolution when it comes to you as a wife and for your husband as well. That's right and you got to work on that because it can happen anytime. I know I've been married for going on 10 years now. It'll be 10 years next year and conflict resolution whenever there's a problem the man and also the lady the woman she has to be ready to sometimes apologize sometimes take the fall it could be anyone's fault right take the blame because it's not about who's wrong or who's right is about us doing this together and keep that in mind and you'll be around but especially keep it in mind as a woman because a lot of y'all are struggling with that wondering why don't have a man. That's why no matter how healthy your man is you have to nurture your submissiveness. You have to nurture the ability to follow you have to nurture the ability to be quiet. Even if your ideas or direction or something feels better in order for your man to even have the ability to grow. Sometimes you got to fall back and that thing that fall back game it has to be nurtured and so I always speak to the women that say all I need is a man to come in here and to lead and to show me that he's a good leader and then I'll become this feminine submissive self and it's it's not always true says there are women that are with great men and literally just don't know how to be quiet. Like they literally don't know how to fall back and I'm in this is not a shot. It's like you don't know how because you've never done it, especially if you are 30 40 years old and you've just been getting in after mud and working and assertive and deciding and you cannot think that that's just going to turn off. That's something that has to be trained. Yeah, but we should hear what she said right now. The problem is most don't have it in them. They don't like you said it's something that you have to turn off. They can't turn it off or they can't turn it on because they weren't raised that way. It's something that's like you see guys saying I'm going overseas to find someone who's been raised or trained to do certain things, but if they weren't raised that way, they won't have it in them. They won't have that submissive bone or submissive gene. I'll tell the truth. I'm going to tell the truth. Anyways vlog and out here you have women that are not like that as well. So you still even when you come out here, you still have to find the one that's for you because you miss around and find the same thing back home and you don't want that but how do y'all don't have it in y'all? So you're doomed. You see how I'm not crying over anybody's son very demure. I don't wear too much delusion. I don't go 5050. I don't talk to me and who can't plan dates. I do a little get dressed. I do a little the reservation is booked. I do a little I sent it to your jail. Very considerate very approachable. And now a very single very demure. Let's be mindful when we're dating ladies. This is not rocket science. Some of you ladies are walking around looking pressed with very low standards. I come very high standards. Very natural. Very respectable. Very demure. Let's be mindful when we're dating ladies and remember to be demure. She that energy energy was very masculine not very demure very manly. She can't help it. The same thing that she was explaining. Just now in a video right nothing against her. But as I said, she arrogantly explains how she's demure how she's letting a man take the lead because she's giving him stuff like the attitude is never going to change. Check out this lady to 2025. We are not accepting the bare minimum. I'm sorry. We are not accepting it. If you cannot come correct do not come at all. We are not accepting the bare minimum that goes for everything in our life. We do not care that goes for people in our life that goes for ourselves that goes for our job that goes for everything around us. If you can't give a hundred and ten percent don't do it at all. Okay, and that goes for everybody around you and that goes for yourself that goes for everything that you want in life. If you're not giving it a hundred and ten percent do not halfway do it. Don't halfway love me don't halfway be in my life. Don't halfway come around me and be fake don't halfway do nothing. I am not a halfway person. I am a hundred and ten percent and that's what you need to be on the attitude in 2025. You better be like no that's not going to cut it that energy. You bring in turns a man off a man will see you be excited from how you look. Thank you the most beautiful woman and didn't hear you talk and then shrivel up seriously downstairs to you make a man show up in all kinds of ways their heart demand downstairs, but the attitude no man wants to deal with that. No man wants to deal with something forceful and look at the difference between all of the married ladies before that. I believe all of them married and then the last two and then tell me the difference they're trying to figure it out. Oh, how can I do to keep my man my husband not talking about divorce, right bringing in 2025 and love. Why you got two others saying? Oh, you better do this and you better do that. You see the issue that energy is not going to cut it being like that. You're not going to have a man this year. You're not got a man next year. You're very single. Yeah, can you will never have a man with that kind of energy? Why because men are not accepting that kind of energy that forcefulness that you're bringing no man wants that and most women won't deal with that because they realize it's definitely more than life than dealing with a woman like that or something feminine and delicate.