How to Change Your Life

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Hey friends, this video is about how to change your life in just four hours using something I call a Think Day. It’s inspired by Bill Gates’ “Think Week,” where he credited some of Microsoft’s biggest breakthroughs to taking time away just to think. I’ll walk you through how I run my own Think Day here in Hong Kong, the prompts I use, and why I believe the quality of our decisions really does dictate the quality of our lives. Hope you enjoy xx
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00:00 - Introduction
00:16 - The Think Day Method
06:31 - Wheel of Life
10:55 - Fear-Setting Exercise
21:54 - Journalling Prompts
25:40 - Action Steps
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So this is a video about how to change your life.
And in the video, I want to talk you through
the Think Day method, where in about four hours,
you can drastically change the trajectory of your life.
You guys know Bill Gates, founder of Microsoft.
He had this practice and he would call it a Think Week,
where once or twice a year,
he would go off to a cabin in the woods for a whole week.
He would clear his calendar.
He would get a private chef.
He would, private chef would bring him food and stuff.
And he would just use that week to read and to think.
And Bill Gates actually credits quite a lot
of Microsoft's most like best innovations and stuff
to this Think Week practice,
where he's just sort of sitting in this cabin
and doing a lot of thinking and making decisions.
Now, most of us probably don't have a whole week
to take off to go to a cabin in the woods
to make these sorts of decisions.
And so there's a technique that I came across
in my friend Sahil Bloom's book,
5 Types of Wealth, which is called a Think Day.
And the reason I want to do a Think Day for me today
is because there are a bunch of decisions
that I need to make about my business and about my life.
And if I make the right kind of decision
in this kind of moment,
then honestly, it could be worth millions
to tens of millions of dollars,
if we just think in terms of like monetary ROI.
That's what we're doing in this video.
I want to talk you through my personal approach
to the Think Day method.
And instead of just sitting at my desk
and telling you about it,
we thought we'd go to a place in Hong Kong
that I've never been before.
And I want to show you the actual journaling prompts
that I've gotten incredible value out of over the years.
I would say that these journaling prompts
that I'm going to share with you
are things that I have used repeatedly
to change my life in increasingly positive directions
because of certain decisions that I made earlier in life.
I was able to start my business and get really rich
and become financially free and quit the job
and all of that kind of stuff.
Because of certain decisions I made,
I ended up meeting a woman who then became my wife
and we now have a kid.
So I basically swear by having the right kind of journaling
or reflection prompts and using those as ideally
in a fashion that's outside of your normal context
to help inform what decisions you want to make.
What does it mean for your life to actually change?
The way I would personally define it,
it's that currently your life is going on a trajectory
that looks something like this.
If you change nothing else, time is still marching on,
you're still moving towards your inevitable demise
and we're all just going with life.
Now, what it would mean to change your life
is if you make a decision that causes you
to take some actions,
which then changes the trajectory of your life.
It's sort of like you're going down the highway
and then instead of continuing to go straight,
which is the path that you're currently on,
you decide to take a turn.
Now, if you decide to take that turn,
that means you end up in a different destination
than you would have been before.
And so your life has changed.
Now, the way I think about this
is that it really comes down to the decision that you make.
So for example, you could decide right now
that tomorrow you're gonna rob the local bank, right?
You could just make that decision
and if you followed through on it,
then your life would change.
But the trajectory of your life
would probably go in a negative direction,
i.e. you'd probably regret having robbed that bank
and you probably wouldn't advise other people
to try and rob a bank
because your life will change for the worst.
Similarly, you could decide to quit your job
or to drop out of university
or to break up your engagement or your marriage or whatever.
Like you could make these drastic life-changing decisions
and now your life has changed
because of a decision that you've made.
So what that really means
is that the quality of our decisions
dictates the quality of our lives.
If you make a decision that causes you to take actions
that move you in a positive direction,
then your life has changed for the better.
If you make a decision that causes you to take actions
that end up in a negative situation,
your life has changed for the worst.
So all of that is context
as to why this video is titled How to Change Your Life, right?
Because otherwise it sounds like a click-baity title,
but really what changing your life comes down to
is a decision that you've made.
So instead of doing a think week,
just do a think day or a think four hours
where you basically take half a day or a day,
maybe like four hours out of your normal day-to-day routine.
You go to a place where you haven't really been before
to get you outside of your normal context
and you just use that time to think.
Use that time to do some journaling,
to do some reading, to do some thinking.
And as a result of that,
you hopefully make a decision or two
that changes the trajectory of your life in a positive way.
Now, the reason that I like to generally
go outside of my comfort zone when doing stuff like this
is because when you're in your home environment
or your office environment
or like your usual day-to-day situation,
there's all sorts of subconscious patterns
that we just find ourselves following.
Our brain is kind of like a prediction machine
that likes to conserve a lot of energy
by just sort of defaulting to decisions
that we've made in the past.
So when you're at work or at school or your office
or at home, you just naturally find yourself
in the sorts of thinking patterns
that you've always been in in the past.
Whereas if you wanna actually get content,
it's sort of like zooming out
or like going like 30,000 feet or whatever.
You can get more of a bird's eye view of your life
to approach decisions from a more sort of dispassionate,
more like zoomed out perspective.
Whereas when you're in it, when you're in the thick of it,
it's really hard to actually make life-changing decisions.
And so what we're gonna do in this video
is you're gonna come along with me
as we go to a new area in Hong Kong
and I'm gonna talk you through the exact journaling prompts
that I'm thinking about
and I'll be sharing all of those with you.
And so hopefully as a result of watching this video
and doing some of these journaling prompts
and maybe doing your own thing today,
that will result in the trajectory of your life being changed
as a result of watching this video
and putting it into practice.
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Okay, so this is like a little pocket notebook
by the way that I like to bring along
when I'm doing these sorts of journaling sessions.
It's like quite vibey.
The whole idea is that you draw a circle
and then you split your circle up into three sections
and then you split those three sections up
into three more sections.
So you end up with nine bits of your circle.
Now the three big sections are we've got health
and then we have a big section for work, relationships.
Within health, we've got three further categories.
We've got physical health, mental health
and spiritual health, which you can define however you like.
Within work, we've got mission, money and growth.
And within relationships,
we've got family, friends and romantic.
And so those are like our nine different categories.
And I like to add a 10th category off on the side
labeled joy.
Now you've got these 10 different categories
in your little wheel of life.
And the whole idea is that you just ask yourself
if 10 out of 10 in a category was like, man,
like I cannot imagine my life being any better
in this particular domain.
That's a 10 and one out of 10 is like, man,
I cannot imagine my life being any worse in this domain.
What number would you rate your like satisfaction
with your life in each of these 10 different domains?
You sort of fill out your little wheel of life
and you get like a little sort of high radar chart
type thing, which is kind of nice.
It's kind of nice as a visual.
Although if you want, you can just write it down
in a notes file and you get the numbers.
But basically what this does is that it gives you a feel
for if you were to do almost like a CT scan
of like your life, what are the areas that are going well?
And what are the areas where, you know,
concerted effort would help improve things.
So in my case, for example, let's start with health.
So physical health, I would say is at a six.
Mental health, I would say is at a nine.
Spiritual health, I would say is at a seven.
In the work domain, mission is on a nine.
Money is on a 9.5 and growth is currently on eight.
And then in relationships, romantic relationship,
I am in a relationship with my wife,
I would say is on a nine.
Family, we now have a kid, I would say is on eight.
And friends, I would say is on six.
And then joy, how much joy do I have in my life
or how satisfied am I with the joy in my life?
I would probably say about six.
So now based on those numbers,
I have a somewhat like intuitive sense
of what are the areas that need some work.
So based on that, we've identified
that physical health needs some work.
When I'm doing the rest of my journaling,
I now have that in mind that like, okay, cool,
I should probably make some decisions
that can change my life in the domain of physical health.
We've identified that on the work front,
to be honest, on the work front, I'm pretty good.
On the relationships front,
friends could do with some work
because I haven't seen friends in a while
since having a baby and stuff,
like we just have been quite antisocial.
We spent a month in London, which was amazing,
but now we're back in Hong Kong.
We haven't put in the effort to organize stuff with friends.
So friends could do with some work.
And then the joy category for me
is also only a six out of 10.
And so I could do with a bit more fun in my life.
And so having identified that
as like the three core categories
that are helpful to look at,
I now have more of a feel for,
okay, now when I'm doing the other journaling prompts,
let me just make sure I've at least got some stuff
to ideally touch on all these.
And I've written them down in my notebook
because by the end of this Think Day,
I wanna have at least one or two action points
for each of these three kind of areas of weakness,
as it were.
So if you are following along with the video,
please feel free to pause the video now
and do your own Wheel of Life.
These are the 10 different categories on screen.
And I would love for you to just have a think
about what would your score be out of 10
for each of these categories.
And then feel free to write it down somewhere.
It's generally useful to write it down.
Feel free to share it in a comment if you would like.
And feel free to share already
if any action points come to mind.
And so one thing we're also doing in our Think Day
is that, and I generally like to do this
on a separate piece of paper,
is that we're keeping a sort of rolling tally
of our action points.
Because as we do these exercises,
we're gonna come up with action points.
And at the end of it,
we're gonna look at all of our action points
and we're gonna be like, okay,
which of these do I actually wanna take forward
to take really seriously?
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Okay, so we are here in the cupping room,
which is a cute little coffee shop here in West Kowloon.
It has good vibes.
So this is the single most powerful journaling prompt
that I know of.
If you ask yourself this question
and sincerely engage with the answer
in terms of like,
not just engaging intellectually with it,
but also like how you feel,
like intuitively,
if you had to answer intuitively,
the prompt would be as follows.
What would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
This is a powerful, powerful prompt.
It's powerful because one of the biggest things,
possibly the single biggest thing
that holds us back from living the life
that we actually want is fear.
And in particular, the fear of failure.
We are wired to avoid failure at all costs.
The amygdala, the fear center of the brain,
the habenula is like all of this stuff.
There's all these,
there's like hundreds of thousands of years of evolution
that has trained us to avoid failure.
Because back in the day, failure meant death.
Failure meant you weren't gonna survive to reproduce
and like continue your genes and all that crap.
And so we feel very, very, very fearful
about making changes to our life.
It's just one of the massive biases
that you see with literally everyone.
And so the point of this prompt is to cut past that
and just, you know, let's just pretend,
you know, let's just pretend that you knew you couldn't fail.
What would you actually do if you knew you couldn't fail?
And you think about it.
And then you also answer intuitively,
like intuitively, what's the first answer that comes to mind?
What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?
For me, when I think about this question,
I immediately come up with things
that I would do differently in my business.
And that makes me realize that actually
there's quite a lot as it relates to the business,
a lot of fear that's holding me back
from doing the stuff that I actually know I want to do.
And then, you know, back when I still used to be a doctor
and people would ask me like,
why don't you just quit medicine?
Like you seem to enjoy this business stuff more.
Ultimately, fear of failure was the thing that stopped me.
It was this fear that like, oh,
but what if I try going full-time on the business thing?
And what if I fail?
What if it doesn't work?
And what I find really helpful is
Tim Ferriss has a fear setting exercise
where whenever I have identified something that I'm doing,
because I'm afraid,
I just go in Google and I type in Tim Ferriss fear setting.
And then I open up Tim Ferriss' blog post from May, 2017,
the most valuable exercise I do every month.
And it basically got a bunch of questions.
Also, it's a very good blog post.
I actually would recommend reading it.
Here we go.
Define your nightmare,
the absolute worst that could happen
if you did what you're considering.
What doubts, fears, and what ifs pop up
as you consider the big changes you can or need to make?
Envision them in painstaking detail.
Would it be the end of your life?
What would be the permanent impact,
if any, on a scale of one to 10?
Are these things really permanent?
How likely do you think it is
that they would actually happen?
Number two, what steps could you take
to repair the damage or get things back on the upswing,
even if temporarily?
Chances are it's easier than you imagine.
How could you get things back under control?
And I'll put the other questions in here
and we'll also link to the blog post
in the video description.
So if you are interested in reading the questions,
please feel free to pause the video right now.
So what the fear setting exercise does
is first you ask yourself the question of like,
what would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
And then the follow-up question is like,
okay, why am I not doing it?
And then the answer to that question is always fear.
Like, I'm afraid to quit my job because I'm afraid.
I'm afraid to break up my relationship because I'm afraid.
I'm afraid to start that business because I'm afraid.
You know, I'm not starting posting on social media
because I'm afraid.
I have fear around showing my face.
What if people laugh at me?
What if HR recognizes me one day,
like on my Instagram profile and like, ah.
It's all fear.
And the thing with fear is that fear looms
really, really, really large in our minds
and in our hearts.
And so what the fear setting exercise does
is it basically forces us to write it down on paper.
Like, let's say you do start that business.
What's the absolute worst case scenario?
Okay, well, the worst case scenario is I invest
all my life savings into it and I lose all my life savings.
Cool.
Would that be the end of your life?
Well, probably not.
But like, it'd be really bad.
What would be the permanent impact
if any on a scale of one to 10?
Is it really permanent?
How likely do you think that it would actually happen?
And how likely am I actually to invest
all of my life savings into my business?
Is it possible to start a business
without requiring any investments?
Well, yes, 100%.
There's loads of businesses that start
without any investment.
They're called bootstrap businesses.
It's a whole category of business.
So it's like, by like, taking the fear and writing it down,
you often realize that, oh, wait a minute.
Because when it's in your brain, it's just like,
it's like a dark monster that's in your brain.
But when it's on paper, it becomes a problem to solve.
Like, let's say you were designing a bridge.
Designing a bridge is a pretty complex thing.
Would you do it in your head?
No, you absolutely wouldn't do it in your head.
You would just be dumb to do it in your head.
You would write it down.
You would get out a whiteboard.
You would get out some software.
You would get out some paper.
You would write it down.
And you work with a team to write down
the design of the bridge before you try to build the bridge.
And so similarly, with complex issues in our life,
especially the things that we know we wanna do intuitively,
but we are afraid, fear is holding us back.
This is actually a fairly complex thing.
It's not simple.
And so trying to solve that in your head
is just a recipe for staying stuck in that pattern.
At least that's what I found.
And that's what a lot of people I know
in this situation have found.
So when you put it down on paper,
by asking yourself these kinds of questions,
what would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
And then, okay, well, if it's fear that's holding me back,
what actually is the worst case scenario?
How might I go about it?
Like, if I had a gun to my head,
what might I do to mitigate against the worst case scenario?
You start writing this stuff down.
And you realize, wait a minute.
Actually, it's not too bad.
The worst case scenario usually isn't as bad
as you think it is.
In your brain, you're like, I'm gonna die.
And usually you're not gonna die.
In your brain, you're like, oh my God,
I'm gonna die forever.
And usually it's not gonna be forever.
Usually it's not that permanent.
And in your brain, you're like,
there's nothing I can do about it.
But you realize that the road to ruin is not binary.
Usually there is a series of things that you do.
Yes, it would be dumb to just straight up
invest all of your life savings
in starting your first business.
But could you invest $100 and see what happens?
Then another 300, then another 500,
just to see what happens and get data along the path
and then iterate based on the data
and treat it as experiments?
Yeah, 100%, you could do that.
But the brain doesn't come up with that solution.
The brain thinks, oh my God, we could lose everything.
We've been told starting a business is risky.
Oh my God, we're gonna end up homeless and broken alone
and we're gonna die.
And that's what the brain likes to say.
When you put it on paper,
you realize that that's actually not true.
So that's why this is the key question.
What would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
So if you'd like to follow along with the video,
please feel free to pause it right now and ask yourself,
what would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
Yeah, I guarantee you've come up with something.
Come up with something.
Probably something that your heart initially came up with.
You know what the thing is.
But then the mind is like, no, no, no, no,
we couldn't do that because A, B, C, D, E, F, G.
And so feel free.
We'll put the fear setting exercise questions
on screen again.
So feel free to pause the video.
And for that thing that you're afraid of doing,
feel free to ask yourself these questions.
Oh, and by the way,
in case you don't wanna do this following along the video,
we will put a link to my Think Day guide
that has all of these prompts and templates
and ---- like that in like a Google Doc
so that you can just like access it on your phone
if you're doing your own Think Day
or you can print it out or whatever you want.
That'll be linked in the video description
if you wanna check it out.
Okay, so having said all that spiel,
I'm now gonna do this exercise myself.
What would I do if I knew I couldn't fail?
All right, so come up with my list of stuff.
A lot of it is like business things.
Like I feel like I'm on the verge
of making a bunch of decisions in the business
and basically just fear that's holding me back
from just like not doing them.
But if I knew I couldn't fail,
I would just like make all the decisions in one go.
And so that is interesting.
That is interesting.
Feel free to skip to the next timestamp if you don't care,
but I'm just gonna tell you
about one of the key realizations I've just had
is that I've been toying with the idea
for the last like couple of months
of building this thing, Lifestyle Business Academy,
where I really like the idea
of building like an online school for entrepreneurs
with some offline elements as well,
something like in-person stuff.
And what I've got in my head is like a tagline.
It's like the world's best school
for lifestyle entrepreneurs,
where a traditional MBA teaches you
how to run someone else's business,
like some big corporate.
If you do like a startup accelerator,
it teaches you how to get
like a venture capitalist funded startup
and become a zillionaire or whatever.
But there's not actually that many.
There's not that much stuff out there.
And certainly I don't know of any good online schools
for people who wanna build lifestyle businesses
where you're building a business
that does six figures in revenue,
maybe like low seven figures in revenue.
Like it's not that sexy.
No one's gonna write about you in a magazine.
You're never gonna appear
on the front cover of Time Magazine and stuff,
but you have a business that gives you fun,
fulfillment, and freedom,
and you're making good money,
and you have a small team.
Maybe it's just you.
Maybe it's a small team.
It would be really, really, really cool
to build like an online business school like that.
And if I knew I couldn't fail,
I would just totally go for it
because that feels really exciting.
And what's holding me back
from like going all in on it
is sort of this worry that like,
what if it doesn't work?
What if people think I'm some sort of get rich quick,
scamming, ******* whatever?
What if we try and then we end up hiring like faculty
and like, you know, the whole shebang?
And what if we don't get enough students
to actually make money from it?
What if it's unprofitable?
I also really wanna have an in-person office
where we can like hold workshops and stuff
for entrepreneurs,
and we can get the team working in person.
The other thing, you know,
the fear around that is like,
oh, but offices are expensive,
especially in Hong Kong,
real estate is expensive.
What if we don't make enough money
to make it like ROI positive
and all that kind of stuff?
And so this is just my sort of specific situation
with the business right now,
which is basically like,
what if we don't make enough money
from these things that I wanna do?
Because these things will be expensive.
So what if we just don't make enough money
for it to be profitable?
But then if I think worst case scenario,
worst case scenario,
we just like shut it down, easy.
Yeah.
In the mind, it's very easy to think
that like it's a binary thing.
It's either works or it doesn't work.
But actually,
there are all sorts of shades of gray in between.
What does it mean for something to work?
Well, we're getting enough students
and they're paying us enough money
and they're getting enough results.
Basically, those are the three variables.
If we know we're not getting enough students,
there's lots of stuff we could do to get more students.
If the unit economics are not profitable,
we just raise the prices so that they are profitable.
If they don't have a good enough experience,
well, we refund the people that have a bad experience
and really work on nailing the student experience.
Like there's all sorts of things we could do
to make this really good.
But when the fear gets in the way,
it's just like, what if it doesn't work?
What if it loses money?
What if we end up broke?
And actually, if you double click on that
and really write down like, okay,
what would have to happen for that to be the case?
And where are all of the points of intervention
where I could do something about it?
There's like a zillion different points of intervention
and like a hundred different things
that have to happen in order for it to be broken,
unprofitable and stuff.
And it's just very easy.
Like what I've realized from doing this exercise
that I was thinking in the past.
I was just sort of without really thinking too hard about it,
just allowing the general fear of like,
oh, what if it doesn't work to sort of hold me back
from wanting to do this thing that I really wanna do?
So that's good to know.
Cool, all right.
I think we're done for this little segment.
Let's move locations
and then we will do our next little prompt.
All right, so so far we've done part one,
which was the Wheel of Life exercise
to do a little bit of a life audit.
And we wrote down our action points
that resulted from that.
Part two is that we really seriously took the question,
what would I do if I knew I wouldn't fail?
In part three, what I normally like to do
is that I just have these collections of journaling prompts
and I generally just like to scroll through them on my phone
and I decide like which one feels
like it's calling out to me.
And then I'll just sort of like really think
about the question and generally try
and write my answers down in a physical notebook
or like dictate my answers into VoicePal,
which is our like AI writing app thing.
So here are some of the journaling prompts.
What would you do if money were no object?
Was kind of interesting.
If you didn't care about making money,
how would you use your talents
What would I like people to say at my funeral?
And to what extent am I currently living
aligned with that future?
If I repeat this week's actions for the next 10 years,
where does it lead?
And is that where I want to be?
What activities in the last month have energized me?
And what activities in the last month have drained me?
How can I do more of what energizes me
and less of what has drained me?
When it comes to my work or my life,
what is the goal and what is the primary bottleneck?
This is a fun one for entrepreneurs.
Do I work for my business or does my business work for me?
If I knew I was gonna die two years from now,
how would I spend my time?
I always like asking that one.
I ask myself this question almost all the time.
The answer I almost always arrive on
is that I probably play more video games.
And then I have like a burst of playing video games
for like a week.
And then I sort of get out of habit
and then I'm like, oh, you know,
actually I probably would play more video games.
Oh, this is another nice bottleneck one
that I got from my friend Dickie Bush.
What's the biggest bottleneck to achieving my next goal?
And why aren't I working on it?
It's always an interesting one.
How much do my current goals reflect my own desires
versus someone else's?
What are some areas in which I could invest more money
to make life smoother and easier for myself?
What could I do to make my life more meaningful?
What do I wish I could do more quickly?
And what do I wish I could do more slowly?
And finally, what backpack am I carrying
that no longer serves me?
This is a question from Keith Cunningham's book,
The Road Less Stupid.
And by backpack, it's sort of like we all walk around.
Imagine like walking around
with like a heavy backpack on your back.
And it's sort of like, we all have these things
that we're carrying around that at one point served us
like an identity or a fear or a concern
or like a grudge or whatever.
And by asking the question of like,
what backpack am I lugging around
that no longer serves me?
It's worth, yeah, just taking a little bit of a pause
to really think about the answer to that question.
I always get some good insights whenever I do it myself.
All of these questions are in our little Think Day guide.
And so what I'd recommend is you download the guide.
It's free.
Open up on your phone next time you're doing a Think Day
and you just go through
and you don't have to do all of them.
It will take absolutely ages to do all of them.
Usually I just like, you know,
I see how much time I've got left,
how much time I want to devote to the Think Day.
And then I pick like, I don't know,
three or four or five that really vibe with me.
And then I'll usually do some writing about them
on the thing, or I'll, you know,
go on VoicePal and just sort of walk around
and speak out my answers to the thing.
And actually all of these journaling prompts
are also built into VoicePal,
but you can't access them by default.
So if you open up VoicePal
and you go on your profile settings
and then you hit offer codes,
if you enter the code Think Day,
then all of these journaling prompts will be added
to the brainstorming frameworks part of your app.
So you can find all of those there
if you want to actually do this kind of just like
voice journaling rather than like actively
sort of writing stuff out.
So then you can do as many
of these different journaling prompts as you like.
And then we move on to the final part of Think Day
where we are gonna weave everything together
into some specific tangible action items.
Okay, so final order of business for the day
is basically to document decisions and actions.
So my favorite way of documenting decisions is as follows.
So for each decision that I want to make,
I basically write in my notebook,
before today I was dot, dot, dot.
So I might say before today I was unsure
about whether to get an in-person office for my team
or something like that, for example.
And then we say, but as of today,
I have decided that dot, dot, dot.
As of today, I've decided that I will in fact
get an office for my team or whatever your thing might be.
And therefore my action items are one, two and or three.
And so we're documenting decisions
and we are documenting action points.
So in my case for the office,
therefore my action items are delegate the finding
of the office to someone on the team,
look through all of the offices that I've seen before,
blah, blah, blah, get some, you know,
all of that kind of stuff depending on what the thing is.
And then finally, I will review this in whatever timeframe
to check in on myself.
And so this is usually when, if I'm taking this seriously,
I will create a calendar event like a week from now
to sort of review action points from think day,
just to make sure that I've got like a check-in point
because otherwise it's very easy to do this stuff,
document action points and then not actually do the thing.
But if you have a documented meeting with yourself
in your calendar a week from now,
that generally gives enough time for the thing
to like percolate and for the action points to, you know,
at least make a start on them.
And then generally I'll get a feel for like, okay,
now that I've slept on this,
now that I've had a week to think about it,
do I still wanna stand by the decision
and therefore continue on that route
with my particular action points?
So if you are following along
and you've gotten to this point in the video,
I would love to see a comment down below,
what is one decision and or action
that you have maybe considering taking
as a result of doing these different journaling prompts
or these different like reflection exercises.
In my case, I have a handful in terms of the business,
we've got the office thing,
we've got this like Lifestyle Business Academy thing
that I wanna build.
There is one or two hires that I wanna make in the team
that I was a bit unsure about previously
that now having done this journaling and stuff,
I've realized that I just should make those hires.
I've also decided that I'm gonna experiment
with going to the gym first thing in the morning
before starting work as a way of sort of just jacking up
the physical health things.
One of the general hacks in life is that
if there's anything you wanna do,
make sure it's the first thing of the day
and then it's gonna get done.
Like if you're starting a side hustle or something,
it's generally a lot easier to work on it
before you go to work compared to after you go to work
because after you come home from work,
you're like dealing with low energy levels
and other things come up and social stuff happens,
but like very rarely does social stuff happen
early in the mornings.
It tends to happen more in the evenings.
Anyway, I haven't actually quite figured out
what my action point is gonna be to get more joy in my life,
but to be honest, I feel like I have enough joy
in my personal life and I will get more joy in my work life
by having more kind of in-person team vibes,
which always vibes with me.
And then finally on the social front,
because I realized that I haven't seen friends in a while,
I'm gonna have a chat to my wife tonight
and we're gonna sort of get a standing order social event
like a weekly brunch or a weekly dinner
or that kind of thing in the calendar
because generally when action points
get converted into calendar events,
that is when, at least for me and my wife,
that's when they actually happen.
And finally, if you enjoyed this video
and you haven't yet got a good system
for time management in your life,
I have a video over here that breaks down
the triage method that I learned in my time
working as a doctor that has really, really helped
with time management to help actually make
these action points become a reality.
So thank you so much for watching.
Have a lovely day and we'll see you hopefully
in the next video.
Bye-bye.
