Prudence Apinoko 10 years marriage is over 💔 The Lessons and Takeaway

She went through too much and to my utmost disappointment this man had the nerve To come on the internet to say he walked away from the marriage I've decided never to Give you guys details Of what has been going on, but I'll drop hints here and there Regardless of the fact that we are divorced we are separated It's not official yet. I I intend going to Nigeria in the coming months to do all that and The decision to walk away is my decision Because while all this was going on She made efforts to And I said no, I don't want to work things out She actually gave conditions that I need to go for it for a therapy And I said no, I don't want to do anything. I don't want to continue with it First of all the nerve The gall, the audacity To even show your face after treating this woman like ---- This person cheated on her multiple times Brought home STDs again and again and again and again and again and again This woman is treating STDs that she did not know how it came from her wonderful husband Kept forgiving and forgiving and you allowed him to walk out Bye-bye If I got a hold of this girl, if she was my sister, I would slap some sense into her As intelligent as you are As beautiful as you are You're a woman of God A woman and you allowed somebody to so degrade you all in the name of what? Marriage. Oh God, I am so disappointed You are worth so much more Than how he treated you. I don't know what is going on with the young ladies now Do you not know your worth? Do you not know who you are? You say you're a child of grace? What kind of child of grace? Allows someone to bring an STD, a sexually transmitted disease more than once After the first time his ass should have been at the door. I do not care What if it had been HIV? What would you have done then For you to wait For this person to bring you diseases one time, two times, three times, four times You are you insane? Even if you were not, is it better to be married and dead or Alive and single with your children. Like I do not understand what is wrong. Somebody needs to speak How can you allow a man that looks like this? Look at this man Look at this man. Look at this man that looks like this Very very ugly ugly thing And he's so full of himself. How can you allow someone that looks like this? This brockety, brock, just brocky To treat you this bad Not that it would be okay if it was a rich person, but like look at him Anyway When you remember you forgive again He worried me more that we were broke, barely could feed, but he cheated and brought a Sexually transmitted infection at the time that we both then treated I wish that we had maybe invested in doing proper infidelity. Did you hear that? Even when you don't have money to eat When there is no money for the whole family to eat this man will still go outside Cheat and not only to ----. He will come back home with an infection and she'll be the one treating it And there was even a part she said that this man turned a gambler like he started gambling That was why sometimes they struggle to eat like she had to endure all of this for 10 good years What? When I started asking myself like why didn't she leave? Why didn't she? Why did she have to stay for 10 years? Why did she stay this far? And then another one struck me Look at what she said There is nothing that comes good out of a broken heart Like Hello guys and welcome back to my channel if you're new here, my name is Demi I make fashion beauty and lifestyle content also do commentary and trending affairs I'm really happy to have you if you're new to the channel, feel free to hit that subscribe button down below and join the crew Okay, I'd love to have you Now why are we here today? Oh first OOTD OOTD baby girl OOTD right there I like to Give you a little quick outfit of the day before we jump right into the video because it is a fashion channel after all Other than the commentary and talking because we do like to talk honey But we don't want to leave the fashion out So yes, and I pull my head down all you guys liking the look Do you prefer it up or down? I think I'm gonna do a little thing where I show you what it looked like when it's up as Opposed to what it looks like right now. Let me know which you prefer You know in the comment section. Let me know what you like. Okay, okay Anyway, shout out to all of you, especially all the people from the squad Who went out of their way to wish me a happy birthday last time you guys are so amazing you guys made my day you guys are I Don't know what to do without you. I love you guys so much. Thank you But yes, we pass that now and we are here to talk as usual And of course, I have a haul for you at the end of the video if you're new here We always do a fashion haul at the end but um Today I wanted to talk about a young lady called Prudence Apinoko. I realize she does not enjoy people reacting to her or making videos about her, but I will because I feel like It's a teachable moment that a Lot of young ladies can learn a lot from and I just need to speak on it So I've been watching this girl Or should I say I watched her a few years ago, and she just fell off my radar So I never saw her and I was too busy. So I just You know lost us with a lot of youtubers that I used to follow up with I didn't watch her for a few a while and then she came on my FYP or homepage and I Unfortunately saw that she announced her divorce She did a 10-part series Talking about a divorce. I wish I'd recorded those or saved the video so I could show you guys But yeah, I'll show you who she is. I'm sure you already probably seen on the screen She did a 10-part series and I watched all the way to part 5 I was gonna watch 6, 7, 8 and 10, but I was busy. Listen, I film videos myself. I edit my own videos myself I don't have an editor. I Designed my own thumbnails I'm a wife. I'm a mom I'm busy I was like, okay, I'm gonna watch I'm gonna watch if I could get around to it. The videos are gone I was really shocked to go back to her channel. Although I had a little feeling That she might take it down, but I hoped that she wouldn't and I kind of she probably wouldn't say this video, but just in case she sees this video. I want to address her to This girl by the way, this is not going to be a bashing video in case you thought that's what this is This is not. I'm not I'm a girl's girl, you know, well for the most part unless if you deserve a good beating I will give you one But for the most I'm a girl's girl You know, so I'm definitely not gonna be down on this woman. This girl has been through a lot quite the opposite actually If you know this girl, please reach out to her with support She's been through hell hell But her situation is something that we need to talk about much as she does not like that It is what it is. And also once you put your story on the internet, you cannot really control People you cannot stop people from speaking. That's unrealistic So I don't understand even why she said that but I don't know if it's a personal issue with her and some other Youtubers, I think they were talking negatively about her. None of my business. I'm not a part of that You know, I'm not known to speak negatively about people well unless you come for me then I will come for you I will drag But uh Stay in focus Tani This girl she shared her the story of what she'd been through apparently a 10-year marriage came to an end Which was unfortunate because it felt like a family channel, even though it was her channel When I would watch her video She was one of those girls that would show her husband and show her kids you know a great mom from all I could see and a good wife and to my utmost shock She started to say what she had been going through behind the scenes and I could not believe this woman I do feel that she has been manipulated a bit By a lot of her Spiritual advisors because she's a Christian. I'm a Christian. Okay, but I feel like a lot of Christian women aka us and Archie sometimes we pushed To forgive and forgive and forgive To the point that we put other people's best interests ahead of ours Case in point. She took down her videos now I don't know this girl personally and I don't know the reasons why she took down the videos But those videos where she shared her story. Those are hers. That's her story. She has a right to share our own Story and to profit off of it. It's her story Okay, I believe Maybe and I'm guessing this is all a legend so I could be wrong The because she's you know, one of those girls that seem heavy into her religion They probably advised her to take down those videos though because it revealed too much because yali yali Yeah, yeah, I don't give it Once again, she put other people's interests ahead of hers Mind you it was a good good good story. This girl told like she had me up until part five Trust me. It was good She could have been the next recitese for our land like this girl was good I hope she was smart enough not to delete the videos because I know they would try to manipulate her to delete it No, don't just put it on private delete. Don't listen if you have any iota of sense Don't listen to them Prudence a pinoco if you ever get to watch this video I am advising you I'm much older than you. I am pretty sure forget how I look. I look young Yes, but I know that I'm much older Do not be manipulated and do not be bullied from your own story It is your story. You have a right to share it What are you gonna what are you gonna gain now? The least she could have done at least she could have profited off of this. The marriage is already over It's not like this and it coming back so you might as well I Don't understand the story is out. Some people already saved the video. It's out there if it's out there. It's out there So what do you gain just to show once again that you're gonna submit? To the nonsense that you've been going through all this like it just doesn't make any sense. I feel like this girl She took her power back I think she felt like she did it not in anger because she came back and did a story one That's up right now a new beginning the end of my 10 part series. She did that video support this girl, by the way Support her watch her videos because she needs all the support and help she could get right now From the little that I watched she shared stories Where this man? First of all the videos I'd seen of her before she's just been those my man my mama she protected her This man, she always protected him. It's not her husband and with some color husband Like if you spoke against him don't speak up on my husband like that that didn't age well, honey By the way, another lesson stop fighting for a man Honey, let him fight for himself It certainly knows what to do when it comes to betraying you you think you need to be his soldier you just look worse You know that you're not very bright when you take up arms and you're fighting for a man. Don't do it Especially when he put himself in this position in the first place So, um, I don't know if she has any common sense like people around her as opposed to spiritual I'm pretty sure she has spiritual people to advise her Pastors and stuff, but I wish you would get some people with some common sense Around her to advise her people that have her best interest at heart Not just the marriage He's her best interest Because this girl I don't understand how she had the I couldn't I I'm sorry I could never She went through too much and to my utmost disappointment this man had the nerve To come on the internet to say he walked away from the marriage First of all the nerve the gall the audacity to even show your face after treating this woman like This person cheated on her multiple times Brought home STDs again and again and again and again and again and again This woman is treating STDs that she did not know how it came from her wonderful husband Kept forgiving and forgiving and for and you allowed him to walk out at him back by If I got a hold of this girl if she was my sister I would slap some sense into her As intelligent as you are As beautiful as you are you're a woman of God a woman and you allowed somebody to so degrade you all in the name of what? marriage oh I am so disappointed You are worth so much more Than how he treated you. I don't know what is going on with the young Ladies now Do you not know your worth? Do you not know who you are? You say you're a child of grace What kind of child of grace? allows someone to bring an STD has sexually transmitted disease more than once After the first time his ass should have been at the door. I do not care after forgiving and forgiving They did not end up in the same result no matter What if it had been HIV? What would you have done then For you to wait For this person to bring you diseases one time two times three times four times You are you insane? Even if you were not is it better to be married and dead or Alive and single with your children Like I do not understand. What is wrong? Somebody needs to speak you know I will recommend a channel for you. Yes I will make another video about her, but there's a girl called Mary Jane Mary Jane and one quote you need to start listening to that girl so you could build up your mental your confidence and not be male centered I'm a married woman. I'm not a man hater. I just have sense Huh, uh-huh Don't center your life around any man men are wonderful. Well, not all For the most part not all But you can get a good one hmm regardless focus focus at this point in your life You know I'm not in a position to advise you because I don't know you personally I wish I did I wish I did because I have so much I would have shared with you But I'm not gonna talk too much because I do have a whole to get to Ladies in the comment section Am I right or am I wrong let me know do you think? prudence should have kept forgiving and Forgiving and and the one thing she said in her videos that annoyed me that made my My blood boil was his attitude his stink attitude where it is it was almost like He didn't want to even apologize like the arrogance which you can see this girl did not lie prudence did not lie So I don't know who convinced her to take them. I don't care what bullshit She was told he's still the father of your kid. You're in He should have thought about that while he was humping anything that lived Everything in a skirt he humped while not thinking but now you should be the one thing I'm so tired of people thinking that it's only a woman that holds up a marriage. It does not work that way and For him after all this girl worked. Oh She didn't make her husband look like he didn't do not yeah But she worked and she supported our family and what did she get in return she was cheated on and she was betrayed and At the end she's still been forced To take down her videos because she shouldn't expose she shouldn't are you insane? She should do whatever she wants to do You need to take back your power prudence if you ever get to see this hmm I'll live in Canada And I'm pretty sure you live in the UK or something somewhere in the UK. You're not in Nigeria So I don't understand this complete powerlessness that you are showing Because you are powerful you have the ability to make decisions. I know this is a terrible situation Nobody prays for this But it has happened What is Shelley? So You have to pick yourself up where your big girl panties and do the needful now if you can please Support this girl. I think she did want to do a gofundme But she eventually did if she does Let me know in the comment section if she gives me the permission to I'll post a gofundme so you guys can support her Help her Do not insult her whatever you do or even I will come for you, and you don't want me to come for you It's not pleasant Don't insult her Show her some love support. She's going through hell as it is and she has children Mind you this girl lost a child while this Simba is sorrowful How can you allow a man that looks like this look at this man Oh little sherry, so that being cut off in bare boy a bully very very ugly ugly thing And he's so full of himself. How can you allow someone that looks like this? This broke it. He broke just broke it To treat you this bad not that it would be okay if it was a rich person, but like look at him Anyway, there is a group that I'd like to open because it seems that this ladies Especially all the young ladies Need a place to come Need other women to Embolden them to speak life into them and to not just say oh yes Go back until he kills you or brings you HIV go back go back go back Even when it makes no sense there are some exceptions There are situations depending on the story and what you're going through that it would make sense But I don't see any redeeming quality in that I'm so sorry Hmm and you too Let me not go there There are some things I want to say because we have to hold ourselves accountable as women It has been terrible from the beginning from the story. You told it wasn't a night in shining I'm why will you sit down to joke or don't be more having all these children one two, three four You lost one, I'm sorry, but This is why we need this group. Let me know in the comment section ladies if you guys want us to create a community where we where ladies speak to each other and advise each other and teach Common sense let me know and I'll create a whatsapp group that we all can join Okay, let me know if you're interested say I'm interested in the ladies group. Let me know that in the comment section what? Don't ever someone's treating you bad children do not fix marriages. In fact, the worst mistake you can make I tell you for free is to introduce a child into a situation That's already not good. You and a man are having problems having a child will not help it will make things worse The less children you have the better for you because if it hits the fan You can have the amount of children you can afford to take care of by yourself if need be Hmm. There's so much to say. I can't cover in one video. This video is going to be too long So I'm going to stop here, but support patience patience Prudence happy no co support her. Okay Let's get on with the whole question of the video, honey Today's haul is from which which brand urban planet, honey Yes, I'm giving Zara a little break it to break as I be doing Zara hauls back to back and some of my girlies We're like a little bored So I'm opening up the package for you we're gonna do other oh Oh, this is good. That's the color. That's a pink Let me set this now listen, this is like a t-shirt though It looks like a t-shirt. Okay large 1250 okay, I Think it's a t-shirt light pink. Okay, come through honey. Yes. I was right It is a t-shirt and he sees what sweet thing. I Know that's right now that you know, we're heading out of summer. I don't know. I'll come now I just got there. I should have been rocking that this summer, honey Any you? Should I okay? I won't share that ---- in the next video I wanted to share with you the food honey the food I had for my birthday cousin. Oh When I say good it was So good So good chap, so I have this I think this is like a two-piece set I'm not sure and this stuff was for the cheap. Okay, this one was sort of 1250 Yeah, and I'm not sure what this is. I Think it's a top. Ooh It's like a tube top Come through and it's like this silk material Yeah That's kind of sort of cute though. It's really cute okay, and this is 16 boilers, I think this is like the matching bottoms to it What size is this Oh large? Okay. I think I'd have wanted the extra-large because I think this brand. Oh, this is perfect Well extra-large would be way too big. This is absolutely perfect Okay, but it's kind of like lights. It's not like see-through see-through Your underwear has got to be like probably nude so that you don't look weird Okay, so I'm gonna try to speed up the haul this one was things or less I think it's like a shirt Let's see. Let's see what it is This one says forever 21. That's like a tube a blue tube top. Oh Cute cute cute cute and I think it's like the same thing also $10 Okay It's like a little like least you top situation. They're both like the same thing You can't complain Not sure what this is like a shirt. I think it's $10 Yeah, some of y'all like be wanting to see the prices of everything why do you care about price so much I Tell you literally when I never used to show the prices some people will be in my DMs talking about why didn't you show I Wanted to know the price of that other red top. I wanted to never that girl I don't remember once I'm done the video. I've like turn up all the tags and put it in my closet This one says glam girls club. Oh Come through Should we call our ladies group glam girls club? Should we should we I don't know but that's what this t-shirt says just coincidence Well, let me know and if you have a name suggest if first, let me know if yes if you want to do that And if you have a name suggestion, oh This one has sparkles, you know, I love a good sparkle don't play with me as sparkles. I love sparkles It's a white shirt and It says rodeo coin come through honey, and it has a lot of bling bling on it The rodeo queen is written written in sparkles This is a bigger hole than I thought like I Expected it to be done. This one's $16. I believe What is this? What is this? Oh It's like a skort so like a skirt with it like a shorts inside I was looking forward to this though So this is like the shorts part and this is like the skirt part It looks like active wear something I could work out with I have a gym in my basement that I've not been using Yeah, although I do feel like I want to join a traditional gym Because I spend all that money to buy all the equipment and I don't go downstairs and it's in my own house I feel like if I spend the money outside, I would feel like I don't want the money to waste But yeah What is this ways I don't know what's that what's that I tell you it's been a while oh cute It's just like a brown tube top Like a basic, you know, you need this like maybe a layering. Yeah Okay. Oh Wow, it's a lot. Okay. I think I remember this White and it has like a lemon type design like a green a lemon type design. Yeah This is so cute, I have a purse that's exactly this color So I think the next time I go to dinner, I'll go out with one of my girls This would be a cute look cute look Forever 21 I come through Okay Again I don't know what this is Skirt oh, it's a skirt. Oh, it's a cute little Like cream colored skirt in this large. Oh, that's cute She's cute. She's cute. She'd be nice for like all seasons. This one's like $10. I Don't even know what this is Each into break into it. Oh Okay, like a tank top like a great tank top this is a basic I think I've got this to wear inside my clothes for Winter and this is another Basic looking shirt or actually this looks more like active wear like like workout clothes Let's see, honey Okay, Oh another shoe tub Yeah. Oh, I like how long this one is and it has like this folding Like design this part that looks like it's folded. Oh That's cute. And it's forever 21 nice office boss in just ten zillas Yes, and it's long enough like to cover your belly I love that. I love that for me. I don't know what this is. It's another $10 purchase Oh, it's a top oh It's off shoulder blue top. Oh so cute with the little fold over design at game Very cute. Very very cute very worth it and This is a shirt. This is high High standards cuz cuz barriers Cuz your girl has high standards and it was $10. What? comes there, baby High standards because who has high standards me and you shoot too. Okay. Yes, honey $10. I need to stop shopping honey, but I already have a house full of brand new things. I need to show y'all So, yeah, this one was what 12 50 and it's even a leopard. So I'm really curious like what is in here? What is this? Is this skirt? It's a skirt. It's a squirt. Oh I like I like I like it's a leopard print score. It's a skirt with shorts inside Yes for just $12 and 50 said The rest of the summer we're gonna yeah, even though it's just really short before it gets cold Yeah, this is so cute. Can you tell I like this like light colors? I'm really feeling this blonde though I love the black when I had the black braids, but This I really like this looks similar to that. So please let it not be the same If it's the same, what am I going to I keep I do that sometimes like oh My god, it's the same It's the same isn't it? Did I show you all this already? Why did I get two of the same top? Oh My god, maybe I'll give somebody this Already, I'm developing a giveaway pile of clothes because I have way too many For my own good. This is $16 Let's see what's in here Way too many clothes for a girl Oh score I was looking forward to this I remember this one to score it. So it's like a little short skirt with shorts inside. I Love sports, especially the ones that are like skirts all around Not the ones that are like skirts at the front and shorts at the back. I don't want my booty out them too old Yes, I like skirts, but we have a limit sexy but not like poor You know I'm saying yeah, we ain't doing that. Okay, so $16. This is good. I wish I had pockets though That would have been really cool. I Don't see pockets Dang, that would have really changed the game Cute though cute and I think we're almost done the haul. I have like what? One more item. Oh, so just a return policy and just a list of the items I got and this is the last item in this Oh my if you stay to the end of this video if you watch to this point you want you the bomb, honey You are the bomb. I love you, too. You are amazing Okay, so wait the tag is about to rip off. What is this love wish? How much is this $10? $10, that's good And this is like a crop. Oh, no. No, it's a top look. It looks a little crop. Okay. No, I know I got this I'm filming. Can you go back? Yeah, I'm filming. I'm working. Go to bed Thank you So I got this just because of this design. I thought this is so stinking cute, you know, yeah So that's all the items in this whole what did you think of this ever and planet haul did you like it Did you like it or do you prefer the Zara hauls? Let me know Okay, now I'm gonna do a little some for some people one of the score the color of the this this video the color is Indigo So when I ask that question if you watch this part and nobody should share it in the comment section Don't share it when I ask on that group if I ask and you answer the question, then I know you watch the video today Do not share it in Indigo, okay All right. Anyway, that's all I have for you. What did you think about today's video? Let me know in the comment section. Whatever your opinion is. Let's talk about it Prudence if you have any advice for her let her know in the comment section Okay, I think I might tag her in this video. Do I know her reactions? Oh, I don't know what she will but you know And I hope she takes the advice and starts to look out for herself Anywho, you know what to do before you go like comment and subscribe before you leave out. Okay Thank you so much for watching this video and I'll catch you in on the next one. Bye