¡El MERCADO MATRIMONIAL en China se agota! Las MUJERES SOBRANTES enfrentan un cruel dilema

The marital market in China is running out. The overweight women are facing a cruel dilemma. For the women over 36 years old in China, finding a husband is a tough battle. But the most surprising thing is that some still demand very high marital gifts, up to $125,000. Faced with these exorbitant prices, how are the Chinese men responding? I am a 33-year-old overweight woman and I have reached the point where no one is interested in me anymore. I returned to my hometown hoping that a relative would introduce me to someone, but no one showed interest. No one has said that they will introduce me to someone. No one is interested. It turns out that being 33 years old is not the same as being 23. What can I do? As the marital rates in China continue to plummet, more women express their frustration at the growing difficulties in finding a partner in their thirties. Why do you think so many men do not want to get married today? Let's look at the numbers. Even in the most moderate case, getting married represents a high cost for many men in China. For most families, this is not only expensive, it is also financially exhausting. And if the bride is perceived as demanding, inflexible or too controlling, many men today prefer to remain single. Authoritarian and stingy. That kind of people exhaust. Exactly. Men are not stupid. Many spend a fortune to get married, ruin their families, and even become impoverished overnight. With rising costs and growing emotional risks, marriage becomes less attractive for both sides. I'm 91. I'm in my thirties. Single. No children. Does that make me a failure? The other day I had dinner with friends. Five women, four singles and over 30. That should be normal today. My mother pressures me. She tells me that if I don't know someone in person, at least try it online. She warns me that time is running out. And yes, the older I am, the more judgment I face. I'm not against marriage, but the more they push me, the harder it becomes. At this age, it is no longer easy for me to open up to new people. Outside of work, I stay at home, I cook alone, I enjoy my freedom. But I still hope to find someone who really understands me. If marriage is only based on age, then I prefer to remain single. For many women, marriage is no longer a necessity, but an election. And more and more, it is an election that they will not do without the right conditions. A recent story shared by blogger Qingqing, a housewife in Zhejiang, illustrates this growing gap between expectations and reality. A 29-year-old young woman from Jiaqing, from a good family. Her parents have a small supermarket and three rental properties. She had been dating her boyfriend for five years. Both families agreed to get married in the Chinese New Year. The girl's parents said the engagement gift was symbolic, that they would return it. They even prepared a dowry. But during the conversation, the boy proposed to give 10,000 yuan, one in a million. The silence was total. The girl's mother tried to ease the tension, said she was fine. But the young woman felt humiliated. At that moment, she changed her mind about marrying him. What is intended as a romantic gesture can go wrong, especially when it collides with deep traditions and expectations. In today's China, where marriage has become a transaction loaded with pride and pressure, love by itself is no longer enough. I am 36 years old and I am still single. I have no car or savings. No one has introduced me to a partner. Finally, I have reached that age at which nobody cares. In the marriage market, at 36, I was automatically classified as liquidation. At this age, most of the people around me already have an established family, but I am still alone. Before, I thought I was still young, that I could look for a partner calmly. I even avoided blind dates on purpose. But now that I think about it, I have always been someone of slow maturation and I missed many opportunities. The delayed decisions that used to represent independence now weigh heavily on many older single people as cultural pressure grows and options are reduced. When she turned 35, she discovered that the boys she liked only chose girls under 30. Some didn't even want to meet her. In a blink of an eye, she reached 40 without finding a partner. Later, someone introduced her to a 51-year-old bank executive. She earned about 500,000 yuan a year, had a house and car paid, and her parents had a pension. Finally, she married at 43. Her story conveys a message that resonates more frequently today. Flexibility can matter more than perfection. As expectations change, some advise to return to the essentials when choosing a partner. Don't just focus on ideal material conditions. Look at your family, your character, your values. A good partner is not always the most ostentatious, but the one with a long-term vision. Because in today's China, being single is no longer necessarily a failure. But losing the opportunity for a real connection, maybe it is. From fairies to forgotten. The harsh reality of post-divorce for more than 40 women in China was called a fairy tale until divorce put her world upside down. Now she is ruined, single, and raising her daughter in a rented room. In China, more and more women choose divorce. But what happens when the fairy tale ends? A woman said that before getting married, few men looked at her. But once married, suddenly many flirted, promising eternal love. She thought that after getting divorced, it would be even more popular. She got divorced, stayed with the children, and discovered it. Those men just wanted to borrow someone else's car, flirt without commitment, without cost or responsibility. On the Internet, the reactions became more incisive. A woman demanded a man with a 100 million yuan heritage and a 10 million yuan dowry despite giving two twin daughters to the relationship. The netizens laughed. Even the Buddha would deny with his head. Nobody wants him, not even the youngest. And you ask the eldest? With 10 million yuan, I get one of 18. Cruel? Maybe. But it shows how brutal and unreal the panorama of dating can seem today, both for women and for men. A divorced woman reflects on having left her husband, with whom she was married for 16 years, hoping to find someone better, just to face the harsh realities of monoparentality, financial struggle, and unsatisfied expectations. People used to call me Little Fairy. I thought I was beautiful enough to find someone better if I got divorced. Who still calls you that now that you're divorced? Yes, more than a year ago. Who got custody? My ex. We have two children. Why didn't you stay with them? I thought my husband was boring, without romance, without red envelopes. I thought I could do it better. How long were you married? 16 years. And that was the only reason? Yes. How old are the kids? The son is 15 and the daughter is 10. I'm 44, he's 46. Do you work? No, I never worked, for health reasons. Who made you think you'd find someone better? Everyone called me Little Fairy, and I believed it. Are you still confident now? Always. What did you get in the divorce? Herba and Mojuan. My husband bought a house for our son in his name. He used to give me 10,000 yen a month. Didn't you save anything? No. Where do you live now? In a small rental with my daughter. If you can't keep her, why don't you let her stay with your ex? I couldn't let her go. Can you even provide for her? Sometimes her father helps. Do you also want to get your son back? My ex found someone new after three months. He's still ahead. Why don't you? I worry about the kids. The step-parents can mistreat them. How does your daughter live now? Unstable, barely enough to survive. Sometimes she does, with her father's help. The divorce rate in China reached 43.5% in 2022 with 2.87 million couples separating and being among the highest in the world. It should be noted that between 70% and 80% of divorces were initiated by women, which is driving this increase. Experts point out three main factors. Economic and urban pressure. Although GDP per capita went from $251 in 1987 to $12,700 in 2022, high housing prices and labor stress have stressed family life. Millennial and Z generation, raised under the one-child policy and the internet boom, prioritize personal happiness. Social media and individualism have reduced the stigma associated with divorce. Legislative changes, the simplification of marriage laws in 2003 and the introduction of the period of reflection for divorce in 2021 have facilitated the process of separation. The flood of the century is ravaging China. Rongjiang is living a catastrophic nightmare. I am right now in the first line of defense against floods in Rongjiang County, in the province of Guizhou. This flood, considered once every 100 years, is ravaging everything. From 12 noon today, the emergency response level has been urgently raised from level 2 to level I. In recent days, Rongjiang County has been devastated by an unprecedented flood. The rain was so intense that it looked like the sky had completely opened up. Entire districts were submerged. A shopping mall of several floors became a water curtain cave. Gas stations and homes were swept away by the current. Even buried coffins underground were evicted by the force of the water. My God, it's over. It's over. Look at the flood in our community of Futai. It's too much water. The main entrance is completely covered and the back as well. It's terrible. This water is unbearable. Voice in off. These cars are destroyed. You can see mine there too, totally submerged. All the neighborhood vehicles are underwater. The motorcycles have disappeared. This is my refrigerator. Hey, run, run! It's too dangerous. My God, I can't get out. The equipment in my store is worth hundreds of thousands. Everything is lost. I worked all year for nothing. This happened right in front of my house this morning. I thought the water had not reached here and in the next second, BAM! Flooded. I woke up in a water park. The staff has not slept all night. It has been very hard. Please, everyone take care. This was just below. Not even half an hour passed and the water rose at this speed. There are so many things. Look, the bridge has just collapsed. My God, his house. The blast was huge. The bridge came down. This is the most serious flooding recorded in Rongjiang. Since the controls of the water level began, the three rivers in the region, Pingyong, Saihao and Duliu exceeded 10 meters on June 24, exceeding the guaranteed in more than 5 meters. These are flooding levels that are only seen once every 30 years. The maximum flow reached 11,000 cubic meters per second, about 75 times the usual rate. The authorities issued an emergency evacuation order for most of the Old Town and several coastal neighborhoods of the New City. But many residents claim that the alert arrived too late. They didn't have time to prepare. Almost the entire city was under the water. Houses were swept away. Shopping centers were completely submerged. Economic damage in Rongjiang is incalculable. That same morning, the bridge of the Xiamen-Rongcheng highway in Wuchou collapsed suddenly. Several vehicles fell into the void while a large truck was hanging on the edge of the cliff. The driver opened the door and asked for help in shouts, with life literally hanging from a thread. The authorities later reported that the collapse was caused by the intense continuous rains and landslides that ravaged the structure of the access bridge. On the Internet, the outrage was total. Many criticized the bridge as a work of inefficient construction. Much of the PIP of China is built on the basis of shortcuts like this one. It's rotten to the core. How many cars fell? How many lives were lost? After the flood I came to see my store. I really felt like crying. Everything is destroyed. It's heartbreaking. What do I do now? It's a total disaster. My God, everything is chaos. This catastrophe is not an isolated event. In recent days, strong storms have hit much of southern China. In Guilin, Guangxi Province, sudden avalanches of mountains and landslides hit without warning. In Guizhou, multiple floods have left several dead or missing. As the waters recede, the scars remain not only on the ground, but in the lives that were trampled overnight. In a country that is heading towards the future, nature is still a force that imposes the last word. For Rong Jiang, the recovery is just beginning.