OVERCOMING MY PHONE ADDICTION AND HOW TO DO IT

i've never told anybody this not even my wife when i started doing what i did to help bring down my screen time my first week i was down 36 i spent a lot of time on my phone i spent hours upon hours every single week it's something that i've known i struggled with i literally would some nights go to bed and to be completely honest and transparent i've never told anybody this not even my wife i would go to bed and cry to myself because of how much i hated um how much i was on my phone that day and realizing that i could have taken that time to spend with my kids taking that time to invest into them instead of scrolling on social media granted i use my phone for work as well but that's another problem because i'll pull up my phone to do something work related and then instantly get distracted on social media i was spending probably around eight hours a day on my phone and i realized that was a problem a lot of people don't recognize the addiction that this thing can be i posted a video on facebook and youtube before where i got another phone and it didn't have all the apps but it just wasn't conducive to what i needed it to do for work and things like that to whenever i was out and about needing to have access to that stuff so i really had to figure out a different way and a different approach to being on this thing less i will say when i started doing um what i did to help bring down my screen time my first week i was down 36 from the week before that and so i'm going to share with you what i've been doing so that i'm not on my phone all day long so here is my tips to you guys how to break up with your phone how to put it down and not be on it all day long so the first thing was this and this is what really like kicked it off and made it something that i i could continue to do i saw someone post a little instagram post something about people that are successful the first hour of their day they don't even touch their phones they don't look at it when they first wake up they leave it for the first hour of their day and the first morning is really hard because i'm so used to that literally the first thing i do is grab my phone every single morning oh what's going on what i miss through the night what am i what i miss what's going on this morning like even in the middle of the night i wake up to go to the bathroom or something and grab my phone what's going on like it's crazy so that was like the hardest thing to do was to like actually the hardest thing was just leaving my phone it wasn't even having it gone for an hour once i walked away and was downstairs doing other things it was so easy to not have my phone on me it felt freeing and i felt uh like i could do so many more things for my day and my days felt longer first hour day leave your phone by your bed get up don't look at it don't touch it walk away from it go to your kitchen make a coffee do something that you normally would do but don't have your phone that's going to be the biggest change a game changer and you're going can do so many things like have a conversation with your kids think and have ideas and get in creative thoughts will start coming into your mind because you won't be focused on something else all day long literally that first day without it felt so much longer like i had so much more time i always told myself i don't have time for this i don't have time for that i don't have time to do all these things that i want to do but i had the time i was just wasting it on this so leave your phone by your bed don't touch it for the first hour because what happened was then when i did that the first hour went to two hours and then went to three hours but the first day i did that i had i was on the phone for like maybe two hours total and that was including like when i was in in bed just looking at some stuff that night throughout the day it was literally like maybe an hour i was looking at my phone from there i did that over and over and over again until about the third or fourth day i didn't even realize when i didn't have my phone on me it was literally like my fourth day of not having my phone on me all the time and i've walked down the door without my phone i went down to the mailbox with the kids and i did and we went for a walk around the neighborhood and it was halfway through that walk that i realized oh my goodness i don't even have my phone on me i didn't even think about bringing it with me because it was just not a natural instinct to go checking for it so i recommend taking that first hour and then seeing how much longer you can go without it i would recommend to maybe check it once an hour and set like in your mind like okay i'm going to check my phone i'm not going to go into any of the like social media apps i'll save that for the evening but i'm just gonna check my phone real quick see if anybody called me that i need to respond to you know and then if they didn't put it down walk back out and honestly like i take it and i throw it on my bed or something like this like like this like evil thing like get it out of my hands quick and it felt nice even before you do all that i turned my phone notifications off a long time ago so i have a few like i like messenger things that i actually need like when people are sending me messages business related things i have stuff set up for that but like instagram notifications when people comment on stuff facebook notifications when people comment stuff those are all turned off and they have been turned off so i would highly recommend doing that first turning all those things off so that you're not constantly getting hit up by people and then seeing what's going on then getting sucked into it so here is uh my first week with putting my phone down three hours and 18 minutes and then the next was four hours and 12 minutes so but even now i do sense myself picking my phone back up not leaving it in my room as much so i'm trying to get back into doing that because that literally helped so much and i felt so free to do so many things so that's really pretty much it it's like a couple things to do but if you can do them and make them happen uh you will absolutely see a huge time difference on your phone so here's what i would suggest to do if you're trying to get off your phone um and be on it a lot less post your time here i want to see how much time you've been on it but then go make a video just like this on your facebook um just telling people that you're trying to get off your phone you don't have to give them all the tips but you can say hey i'm trying to get off my phone is there anyone out there who wants to hold me accountable and vice versa and create a little community within your own friends of moms or dads that need to get away from your phones and let's start helping each other out so let me know if there's any tips i missed in the comments below the more ideas we can come up with the better so that we can all help each other out and really rally to be better people and be just raise our kids better and to you know show them be a better example to them um and just be more intentional with them throughout our days but also like if you have ideas and things you want to do you'll realize how much time you actually do have when you see how many hours you spend on your phone a day it's like that's time i could be put into you know starting this business i wanted to start or starting this uh a youtube channel or just whatever you want to do you'll see you actually do have some time for it so in the comments below let me know what you're gonna do with your time too i've been wanting to work on more music and that's just kind of what i'm trying to do with my time so um anyways i love you guys i hope this was helpful and i'll talk to you later bye hey thanks so much for watching if you want to make sure you don't miss any of our videos click follow follow again and then tap see first to make sure you stay up to date on what's going on 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