𝐃o 𝐈t 𝐀lone.

There is a period in everybody's journey where they are so different because they've started to do new things that they no longer fit in with their old set of friends, but they're not sufficiently developed that they've gained their new set of friends and they're unsure. Should I go back? Should I lean back into getting a bag in with the boys on a weekend? Is that the highest, you know, way that I can live my life passion forward? Because that's what everybody else does. And all of my friends are taking the piss, oh, not drinking again. Too good for us, are we? Not going out again this week. Oh, okay. Well, like enjoy staying in home and reading. Fucking nerd. So you're going to feel the pain of being ostracized from the group of friends that you used to have, but you're stuck in this messy middle where you haven't yet worked out who you are on the other side of this. And that lonely chapter that's in the middle is something that I would say almost nobody that I've ever met who has gone from a place where they are to a place where they want to be hasn't gone through. There's a thousand ways to say this, but listen, because I'm only going to say it once. I fought for it because no one gave it to me because it was just me, me alone in the gym, me alone in the mirror, me alone in my head. No one did it for me. I worked for it and I'm never going to let someone else take that from me. People want to know how I'm always motivated. It's the unseen work. I'm out running at two o'clock in the morning, running in the gym, long sessions by myself. How am I able to just extract dopamine, the good dopamine whenever I want? Man, I've trained 99% of my life alone. No one pat me on the back. I did all of the work alone. And while I'm still hard on myself, I know what I did. So whenever times get bad for people, that's real. I hate that people know me for that guy, because that guy is not every ******* day. Like when they see me, they want that energy. That's not me every day. I can extract it immediately when I need to, because when you train alone, and I lived alone for so many years in this misery, and you're able to get out by yourself. I can take myself to such a level of real, real passion and purpose, and the feeling I get is something I can't even explain by myself. I don't need anyone. That's why people come to me to motivate them. No one can motivate me. I have a resume full of ******* motivation, that whenever I'm down, I'm like, oh, hang on, ************. Oh, you know. You know the truth. You know the truth. You know the darkness of the dungeons and the demons that fly. And then from there, it's like, okay, you were there. You know this. There was no one there to pick up the rucksack, to pick up the boat, to pick up the log, to go in there. It was you. It was you. There was no pat on the ******* back at 300, at 275, at 250, at 220. No, that was you. So those things that come out of me, that extract from me in the darkness, people are looking for that pat on the back. Where is it? Oh, I don't need it. Because what I've done is in the ******* unseen work, I've built Frankenstein. So whenever shit gets nasty, David Goggins goes, we had nobody anyway, ************. So see how I'm talking to myself right now? That's me. That shit fires me the **** up. That shit makes me ******* nuts. We had nobody anyway, ************. Look around you. There was no ******* team. It was you. There was no weight loss programmer. Mom and dad waking you up saying you can do it. You can be better. Trying to build belief. You built belief when you had nothing. Rock bottom. You did that. So as times get hard for me, the truth comes out. And my truth is powerful as ****. It's real. It's tangible. I feel it. It comes out of my brain as I speak about it. I'm reliving every single dark moment of my life. There's times where you can go without your friends. You can go without going out. You can go without other people around you. You have to separate yourself from the pack. You have to be willing to spend time with yourself. You have to be willing to start cutting things out of your nutritional program. Eat healthy. Get enough rest. Get enough sleep. All of these things come into play of finding your purpose. And it's almost sacrificing. You have to sacrifice. Greater the sacrifice, greater the reward. This is so true. And when you do these things, you'll start seeing that, okay, I used to do this. And when you go out and you don't do it anymore, it's very, very clear that you've made the right decision. Because your friends will still be doing that. And you'll find yourself that you don't fit in with that crowd anymore. You just don't fit in. Nah, I got something to do. You'll start getting away from people that are negative. You only want to be around positive. You'll start like not wasting your time on things that aren't productive. And you will start taking your time and energy and putting it into things that you enjoy doing that are productive for yourself. This isn't for the masses. This is for those who won't leave normal behind. Those who are in search of a new realm. It's a lonely journey. You're isolated. Those who used to keep pace with you will fall off. They'll see where their world ends and yours begins. Your ability to suffer, endure, outwork must be greater. You must be willing to extend yourself to the limit with no guarantee of success. Every day you must ask yourself, did I do enough? Every single person who wants to do something with their life and has done something with their life has gone through the exact chapter that you're going through. And it's the lonely chapter. It's the chapter where you don't fit in with your own friends, but you don't have the outcomes yet to fit into a new group of friends. And you're doing this thing. You're consuming content on the internet. You're doing these free tutorials online to try and figure out how to set up a podcast. And where do I host this thing? And you're going through this and you're like, is this even worth it? Because you have no signs of success, right? But if there's anything that you can take away from what we're saying right now is that the sign of success is the hate that you get along the way. And what you can't do is bend the knee to their hate and fit back into the conformity because it's comfortable and it's warm. Because like in the matrix, when Trinity opens the door, when Neo's about to go take the red pill and he wants to get out of the car, she says, Neo, you've been down that road and you know exactly where it leads. And I know that's not where you want to be. And then he closes the door. Like right now, this moment that you're going through is Trinity opening the door and being like, you could go back, but then you'd have to remember exactly what the reason was that you decided not to go out to begin with, just because you listened to this podcast and you consume this content. You're like, I can do more than this. Like, because you are starting to live in some of that hell where you look in the mirror and you're like, I can do more. And you start to see the person that you could be. And you're like, this does start to feel like hell. Everybody's asleep, man. Or they're just getting home after a long night, you know, going out to their party. It's Friday night. It's close to three in the morning right now. You know, the thing is, man, it's always going to be a party. It's always going to be a time to celebrate and a time to join friends and, or a date. I mean, the bars are always open, always open. No matter how old you are, they're always open. You know, what's not always open is the opportunity to, to check the box in life, you know, to achieve your dreams. That's not always open. And it's funny. It's like, you know, I'm not saying you do it all the time and everything else, because everyone needs a release in life. But it's funny when you're coming here and you're closing the gym up and there's no one in the parking lot except for my car. And everyone else is probably getting home from some party right now because bars are closed right now too. You know, they're probably going to sleep and they're probably going to wake up and apologize to somebody for however way they acted because that's not who they really are. They're chemically induced to be a certain way to have the social lubricants or be able to talk to be liked and say to take something in order to be that guy. It's like people do steroids, whatever else. I had to take this to be all that, you know, but who I am as an individual isn't quite good enough. That's why I need to take something and become somebody else. You know, it's a sad reality coming here at night. And, you know, I don't know what it is about it, man, but like, man, it's just the air smells a little bit better right now. You know, when, when you, when you say you're going to do something and then you follow through and you do it, not, not, not at the end when you, you know, you cross the marathon, you finish it or, or your hands raised. I'm talking about right now, the small steps in between the big successes that everyone sees. No one sees this right now. I'm saying like, there's a confidence to it, man. There's this, there's a bad ************. That's right here. You know, that it's getting ahead of the competition is an overwhelming sense of fulfillment and pride and satisfaction with that. You know, I didn't have to shoot up anything. I didn't have to drink anything. I didn't have to go party anything. I just, all I had to do was just go work out. And now what's going to happen is a residual effect of that. Not only does my body grow from my belief and whatever my current endeavors are, they, they, they're just, they seem closer. They seem like, you know, I can reach out and grab them now. And you don't get that sense of confidence by going through society's rhyme to reasons. You know, you do your own thing, you know, especially when everyone else isn't doing it and they call you crazy, whatever else. Oh, you're in here and people driving by being like, what the **** is that guy doing up so late? Well, what's up so late mean? I don't know. It's the moments in life, the decisions you make on a moment to moment basis that add up to be the guy or not the guy. My body is Groundhog's day again for David Goggins. If you pan it down here, you see it's about three o'clock in the morning and there's not a car or a person in sight. If you pan over here, it's the same thing. Not a car or a person in sight. People want to know where I find my strength at, where I get my strength. I get it from a lot of places, but right now this morning, I'm getting it from, there's not a ************ that's up. There's not a car, there's not a person. Everybody's in their bed, sleep, dreading that it's a Monday, hating it's a Monday, and I'm loving it. I'm loving that where everybody's getting weaker, I'm getting stronger. It's not about the running, the swimming, the pushups, the sit-ups. It's about what those things do for your mentality. You don't get better on the daggone couch. You get better by coming out here and getting the **** after it every daggone day. So a lot of people ask me what it's like to live with David, and I figured I had the perfect opportunity tonight to just give a little bit of insight. So today, just randomly, David says after we come home from the gym that he was going to go on a 100-mile ruck tonight. So unplanned, just spur of the moment, we're out here. We left just about 12 and a half hours ago, or just over 12. Oh God, that's blurry. 1243 AM, it's 38 degrees, and he's about 60 or 60-some miles in at this point. I haven't spoken to him in a few hours other than to give him my socks, because it's cold and he has Raynaud's, so he's wearing them as his gloves. And, you know, it's lonely as hell. No one's out here. It's just me. No one would even know he's doing this if I wasn't recording this video, and that's so much of his life, just all of the unseen work that goes into being David. I don't think people can even imagine the discipline and the hours spent alone just grinding. And the other thing people can't imagine is the pain and discomfort that goes into it. You know, every day when he starts running for the first few miles, he's just hobbling along. And, you know, I know he's just three months post-surgery. Three and a half months ago, I wrote to a surgeon. It was end of September. And I said, you know, David was going to come in for surgery. And he said, well, I just hope he's not jumping out of planes. Well, he sure was. He said, it's time to decide. Fuck clubs. Fuck partying. Fuck trying to fit in and socialize. Rub elbows with everybody so people can stop calling you weird. Why are you so antisocial? Because I'm trying to get it. Why are you staying on the basketball court so much? Because I'm trying to get it. Why are you out there practicing in the hot sun when ain't nobody else out there? Because I'm trying to get it. Why are you not clubbing? Like every time I text you and invite you to go do some fun and cool, you always study it because I'm trying to get it. Let me tell you something, homie. These women ain't going nowhere. These clubs, these parties, all this shit ain't going nowhere. The more weird you are is a reflection of how committed you are to focusing on your shit, molding and shaping and developing your ideas and your craft so that when it's time for you to make your rounds, you're going to fly. Stop running around here trying to live up to the hype, homie. You still got work to do. Stay on that basketball court. Stay on that football field. Fuck all the homies texting and calling and trying to make you feel bad about being so focused. It's grind season, homie. It's not about today. It's about the future. You do the work now. Do the work now and all of the shit that you could ever want to do for your family, your kids, your loved ones, it's all going to be on a whole nother stratosphere.