WHEN YOU FEEL THE PRESSURE OF LIFE - Motivational Speech (Featuring Tony Robbins)

about two years ago we were having a conversation and he said you don't even teach seek the light this peak state versus lousy state or being an energy rich versus energy poor that a relationship you can love somebody but if the energy is low my courage drop the energy is high it will he's what he swapped those words and you swap peak state for a beautiful state I said that works you know high energy state is a beautiful state any state you're high energy would be like love or joy or gratitude or Drive or courage or faith or you know playfulness or fun any of those things are beautiful states so good I agree and I said and then suffering states would be low energy State so that would be frustration sadness anger resentment loneliness boredom whatever he's yeah that's exactly right I could swap those because if you swap him there's something cool that you might see or do I said what's a question Katie said well he said I have made a decision that I'm gonna live my life where I'm gonna live in a beautiful state every day no matter what even if it doesn't even if it rains on my parade even if people do things they're unjust he said the reason is because then a beautiful state just like you teach big stay everything flows I said well it's pretty much what I've been teaching yo she gots but if you think of the lousy states of suffering states he said then you can end suffering just by getting this name but I realize I didn't relate to suffering like if you told me two years ago trying to do stuff that's okay I got the greatest life I have the most incredible wife and four kids and I got 31 companies and I'm financially free and I have a mission I love and I'm a good help and that would all be honest I would have been dishonest about it but what really helped me out of that conversation I left that I want well weird do I suffer and I realized frustration is suffering I get frustrated you know I get concerned I get pissed off again you know worried sometimes I get these feelings and so what I decided to do was you know just really create a 90 second rule for myself where I would end suffering as it rises cuz anybody tells you can end suffering all the crap the reason is your brain is a to the Leadenhall brain it's not designed to make you happy it's designed to make you survive but there's no saber-toothed tiger for you to react to anymore so now we worry about what are people thinking of us do I have enough money over the last two years but I've done is play this little 90 second rule and if I feel tension in me I go okay that's suffering where's it come to what am i stressed about what are you concerned about and what I immediately do is I realize the stressful thoughts since I seen Christians yeah I kind of traded one thing but I really do now is I dig in and I noticed that the only time you have stress or suffer is when you believe a stressful ba coz what are the chances of everybody doing exactly what you think they should do the right way every day zero what are the chances the people you love doing what you want them to do the way you want to do them every day zero when the chances of you doing even if you're talented discipline zero so your happiness will never last as long as it's got expectation lining all I did was I began to realize I made the decision of the most important decision I believe of your life that I'm not gonna suffer anymore life's too short to suffer and I'm gonna live in a beautiful state every day and the way I do it is I catch myself and I start to get that sense of stress I let it go and I see the I to go by so your thoughts thoughts about this person messing up your business or not falling through if I was in a room with come down some people I guarantee you 60 70 percent of business owners have the same thoughts at times today I asked him all the time tell me your most stressful thought oh I'm worried about my children this may happen how we be able to have that for everybody I might not make it finishes well how many times that everybody my point is it's not your thought it's over mind not your mind when you think it's your mind you identify with it and it's you can't separate from yourself man but when you realize these thoughts been around for millions of years and I'm just thinking the same thought that so many people thought before like how many people have ever thought I'm gonna kill the son of a bitch you know you didn't do it can you not believe you're really gonna kill him but you felt it you said it you were there right so we all have thoughts it's only the stressful thoughts we believe that mess us up so what I try to show people is if you can start to realize these thoughts have been around for billions years if I told you a million you know thousands of years ago that we're gonna go to the moon and back you called me a lunatic they're crazy if I said 100 years ago you're gonna have a little box like this I'll fit in your pocket and you can click on it and you can see what the weather is any place you could click on it and see a live person on the other side there if them talk to them by looking this box and the way it works is invisible waves they're traveling around the earth and it pulls invisible waves in the Box you're going read between the lines there's no way dumb idiots never happen so I want you to realize the spots are invisible when you turn on TV it takes invisible waves and depending on the channel you're gonna see a love story or an adventure or a drama or a comedy or or a horror leave your body determines which of those thought waves come through you one moment you're pissed off the next moment somebody makes you laugh you change your body you change the channel you change what comes through you so what I've tried to do in this area beautiful state is simple first identify where you're suffering with your favorite flavor are you a worrier are you a pissed off first arrest angry what is it you do second of all decide you're gonna kill that monster while it's little you're not gonna wait till it's Godzilla taking the city you're gonna break the pattern you start to feel the stress you see it as thoughts going by and then you focus on something to appreciate and joy or love appreciation love and joy destroy suffering you can't be grateful and angry simultaneously it's possible you can't be worried fearful and grateful simultaneously so I told people gratitude is one of the emotions to cultivate that will destroy the stuffing you