Balance is Key | Work Week In My Life as a Tech Girly 🖥️ & Content Creator

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Rebuild me, rebuild me, please rebuild me, rebuild me, rebuild me
Oh, and I want the world to know
I'm gonna tell it wherever I may go
Oh, and I want the world to know
I'm gonna tell it wherever I may go
Oh, and I want the world to know
Good morning guys. Today's Monday. I'm working from home.
I like to start the day with a little workout on my work from home days.
The days that I have to go into the office, I've just found that
it's a little bit too much to try to fit in working out, getting in the shower, and getting ready.
I've been trying to lean into allowing my body to naturally wake up rather than having an alarm.
And I tell you, my body wakes up like clockwork every single day.
The sun has been my clock and I've been loving that.
I advise anyone who especially has PCOS to do away with the blackout curtains and open your windows
so the sun can peek in in the morning and wake you up.
I know all of us don't have the luxury to wake up when the sun rises.
Some of us have to wake up earlier than that.
I would definitely invest in a hatch alarm clock because that simulates the sunlight.
I'm just wearing one of my favorite shirts. This is by the brand Pumi.
They are amazing guys. I wear these little shirts all the time.
I have it in black, white, and I also have a red one.
And when I tell you they are so comfortable, they're buttery soft.
I would definitely say they're arguably on par with skims.
And you can get them off of Amazon.
These are my favorite tops to wear. I don't have to wear a bra.
It has sort of like a compression tightening technology within it.
It sucks everything in.
My hair is literally bed hair. I literally slept on it and it got these little waves in it.
And that Nike sweatband is the truth guys.
I always like to just do a little bit of eyeshadow on my eyes.
I feel like that completely levels up the look.
It just made my face just like glow.
I used to be a huge perfume girlie. I'm like rocking all of the expensive things.
But when I go into the office, unless I have like a meeting, I don't really wear a lot of heavy perfumes.
What I've been loving these days, and I've been talking about it literally everywhere, is Vanilla Skin by Fleur.
Two paired together will have you smelling like the most delicious sweet treat.
Now that we're fully ready for the day, let's go ahead and get locked on to work.
Here are my corporate baddie tips of the week.
Make sure that you are utilizing Command B and Command C to easily copy and paste things throughout your documents.
Another one is Command K.
Command K is amazing for being able to hyperlink documents, websites.
I use this all the time and it's a huge time saver.
Because it's so hard to locate in different platforms where the link little button is.
But now is my lunch break. We had a very productive morning.
I made all my goals for 2025 and I created my script for my capstone project that I have to do this Thursday.
How do you prepare for your meetings? Because I always want to get better.
But now is the time for me to have some lunch.
I have the other half of my panini from yesterday. Smells really good.
Love a good panini.
I'm wondering if I should just like throw it on the stove for a hot sec.
I'm just going to toast it a little bit.
I literally love these shirts guys.
I have no bra on and I'm cozy.
Almost 11.30 which means I need to make my video go live.
I uploaded the video on Saturday and this is pretty much how I balance content creating and working on a device.
I just sent out a newsletter telling you guys that a new episode was live.
The video is already uploaded to my channel.
It's now 11.30 so we're just going to make it public.
Now that that is public, we just have to make a post to my Instagram story.
Basically just promoting the video so I'll do that now.
This is pretty much how I balance content creating and also being a full time consultant.
So on my lunch breaks, specifically on days when I'm not in the office, I try not to do too much outside work during my break in the office.
Because I like to be strategic about during my break in the office, spending time and getting to know the other consultants and networking.
Actually utilizing all my time in the office for company purposes even if it is my lunch break.
But on my work from home days, I definitely use my lunch break to either go for a walk, I will use it to edit,
I will use it to catch up on emails with brands or I will use it to schedule content and do updates.
But I have to remind myself, work-life balance is important and you have free will.
You can do whatever you want to do during your lunch break because it's your break.
So yeah, that's what we're doing now.
I just have to find a cute little aesthetic photo to post to my story and say new video.
Okay, I'm just going to do this.
She's back.
New vlog.
And I'll just add it to my story.
And then I just like to go on my TikTok during my break and I will go and interact with comments.
So I set up some time and I created my goals for 2025.
I want to relaunch that life planning as I told you guys before.
I want to reach 50,000 Instagram followers, 50,000 subscribers.
Eventually the real goal is 75,000 by the end of the year but we have to have small markers.
And then I want to reach 250,000 downloads for that girl radio.
I want to speak at CultureCon.
I want to speak at a women's conference and I also want to speak at a high school here in Chicago.
I want to attend church at least three times a month and I want to serve at least two to three times a quarter.
Some way, somehow in the church.
I want to pay off two different credit cards.
I want to put $4,000 into my Sunny Day savings.
I want to book $45,000 in brand deals and I'm already starting to keep track.
I asked ChatGBT to make me a daily, weekly, monthly, and a quarterly routine according to those goals.
And then I also asked it to create me an hourly daily routine from 6am to 9pm because that's typically what my day looks like.
And that's what it created.
So I have all of that in here.
Then I would theoretically take all of this information on an hourly basis and input it into my calendar.
And the beautiful thing about Google Calendar is that you don't necessarily have to view this all the time.
So this is just my hustle and flow calendar and I can turn this off.
So I don't have to see my block schedule all the time.
But it's nice to know at a first glance what's on my calendar, what I already planned for the day and or the month.
And then I can add in things socially.
So I have a Let's Be Social calendar.
I have a social media calendar.
I have birthdays and hashtag I get to do.
So these are my to-do list things like going to get my car serviced or something.
The hustle and flow structure is mainly my block schedule for every single day.
Kind of similar to school.
You have your set schedule for school.
But this is the flow that you guys can follow and develop your goals for the new year.
Let me know what you guys' goals are down in the comments below.
It was kind of a lot.
But I'm really type A and I think being able to see what my routines should look like on a quarterly, monthly, weekly and daily basis is going to change my life.
Because when you think about a year, you're like oh I only want to get done so many things.
But you can get a lot of stuff done in a week.
So imagine what you can get done in a year.
And if you take those bite-sized, really big goals and break them down on a week-to-week basis.
So, ChatGPT can literally be your project manager.
It can be your personal assistant.
It can be whatever you want it to be.
But just like feed it your big, broad goals as well as the categories.
And then ask it to develop those different routines for you.
And I promise you, you're going to have a good 2025.
So this is what I like to do on my breaks.
I find it to be very helpful.
And it just keeps me on track with both my 9-5 as well as my personal goals.
Because I know it's so easy to get just caught up in the cogwheel.
And just be a part of the machine.
But I know you have more dreams.
I know you have different stuff that you want to do.
And do not feel like there's not enough time.
Because there is enough time.
You just have to make the time.
And so this is how I make the time during my day to do the things that I want to do.
Let me know what you guys do on your work from home days during your break.
Do you guys go work out?
Do you guys go take a walk?
Do you guys go start listening to a podcast?
What do you do during your break to give yourself a break?
Or help yourself to get a break in the future?
Because when I come home, I literally have all day to just sit and do nothing.
I don't have children. I don't have a dog.
I literally don't have anything else that I have responsibilities for.
I'm not involved in any organizations anymore.
I literally just have my business and work.
And so I have a lot more time on my hands to do a lot more than I thought.
I have 10 minutes left on my break.
So I'm just going to scroll and TikTok mindlessly.
But I'll see you guys after work.
It's now 5.41.
I just logged off of work.
And we're about to go back down to the gym.
I'm back.
Now that our workout is finished, I expended some extra energy that I had in my body.
I'm going to sit down now and make my to-do list for tomorrow.
I just like to sit down and write a to-do list for the next day.
And there's some things that I didn't get done today.
And I also need to do my oil change at 11 a.m. tomorrow.
I already have that on here.
I need to practice my demo for my meeting on Thursday.
I need to do an e-learning tomorrow.
And then I also need to begin packing bag.
I hope you guys enjoyed spending the day with me.
Now we're just going to relax.
I'm about to shower and lay down.
And then I'll see you guys bright and early tomorrow morning.
I love you guys. Bye.
Good morning, guys.
Today is Tuesday.
The time is now 8 o'clock.
I have a couple of things that I have to do before I log on for work.
We've got quite a lot of packages that we need to open.
Some of the stuff my mom sent me because my mom is the best.
Shout out to the parents who don't stop parenting when you turn 18.
My mom is literally the most supportive, loving woman ever.
And I can't wait to be able to take her on a trip or just do something really, really nice for her.
Because she's the most caring, giving person on the planet.
She will give you her last.
Oh, my gosh.
It's Valentino Born in Roma.
Oh, my goodness.
What?
Oh, my gosh.
This is the Valentino Born in Roma in tents.
They sent this to me.
Thank you.
This would then be my mom's.
Ooh.
It's a spray mop.
I love my mom.
She's literally the best.
This is the steam mop part.
I guess that's the bottom.
And then these are the hands.
Thanks for coming to my unboxing.
Now we have to dispose of all these boxes.
Just like that, an opportunity that I thought I was going to have is now gone.
Oh, my God.
I got an email an hour ago from the guy that I sent my resume and everything to.
And I'll just say thank you for the update and no worries.
Back up.
Okay.
There honestly was so much dirt and grime on my floor.
I just sweeped.
I find it to be very, very helpful for me to just clean my house as I go throughout the week.
Especially when I'm working from home, I just like to clean up after myself.
I make sure to clean up all my surfaces.
Any dish that I use, I put it immediately into the dishwasher.
And this is just a way to take care of myself so I can really enjoy my work-life balance on the weekends
and not have to do so much of deep cleaning.
I used to spend, like, top to bottom Sundays, like, resetting my apartment
because during the week with school and being in orgs and so much other stuff,
I just felt like I never had any time to stay on top of, like, little small chores.
But I literally just logged off from work.
I'm on break now.
I'm about to enjoy a little breakfast sandwich because I didn't even have time to eat anything this morning.
I got straight into work.
But I just like to take a little bit of time to reset the place before I dive into more stuff.
So just find little things.
When you have little breaks throughout the workday, sweep.
You know, clean off your surfaces.
Take out your trash.
Just do little small things every single day.
And if you're type A like myself, then just have certain days that certain things have to be done.
So I know by Thursday at the end of every week, my trash needs to be taken out.
It's just important to take care of little things.
And if it will take you two minutes, do it.
Like, if you have a five-minute break, you'd be surprised the type of things that you can get done in your apartment between meetings.
So just keep it fresh and clean for you so when you actually get off of work,
you're not using your off-work time to, like, only clean and only cook
because I feel like that's what most people feel like after they're 9 to 5.
All they do is just, like, clean and cook and do more work.
And it's just like, no.
So take care of yourself.
And the way you take care of yourself is by taking care of your home.
But I'm really trying to incorporate these really good habits now as I'm just starting my job
so that it's non-negotiables.
When things do start to pile up, I know how to fit in little pockets of peace and time
to take care of not only my business but also Ricky.
Because in 2025, we're no longer just taking care of business.
We're taking care of ourselves, too.
And I read this book in 2023 on how to find joy.
And once I read that book, it really just changed my outlook on life
and how often we can truly design our space, we can design our habits,
we can design our community around bringing joy into our lives
rather than trying to just find it miraculously and in spontaneous moments.
We can actually curate joy.
And so I do that through the smells in my home.
I do that through my routines and my habits
because I know when my space looks clean, I'm happy.
Because I can just live freely and do as I please
and not have to mentally think about the burden of having to clean my space.
So I would just definitely recommend if you feel like you've been in the dumps
and things have just been piling up on you and you cannot seem to get a grip on life,
just start small. You don't have to redo everything in one day.
I've slowly been able to bring this apartment together.
And I don't feel like I need to flip my whole apartment in one day.
I start on Sunday. I wash my sheets and stuff.
And little by little, I've been putting my bed back together.
I started off with my duvet. You guys did that with me.
Now when I come back, I'll probably just do my pillowcases and everything.
But it's just like slowly we do things. Even the big things.
Do the hard stuff now. The duvet was the hardest part.
Now I just have to do my pillowcases.
And then once all that's put together, I have completely redid all the linens on my bed.
And that's one of the chores that I really hate to do.
But when I break it down in bite sizes, it makes it a lot more doable.
I'm not doing a huge jacket, but this one is warm.
This is actually from Shein.
I honestly can be you guys' source for low-lux fashion.
This looks like a luxury long-line puffer.
And it's a vest, but this is actually from Shein.
I probably spent no more than $50 on this.
I feel like when I go inside of stores and I have on my big coat,
it's such a chore dealing with all of that.
So I really enjoy wearing jackets like this.
When I know I'm going to be running an errand, I'm going to be walking around.
This little set that I have on is actually from Fashion Nova.
If you guys ever are confused about what you should be wearing when you're working from home,
girl, put on a set.
My bag is by Teddy Blake.
And then I'm still wearing my little everyday jewelry from The Bubble Bar.
It just makes and elevates every little outfit that I wear.
And then my earrings, I actually switched them up today
because the other ones tarnished really bad.
They're from Shein, like I said in my TikTok video.
Everyday jewelry, you need to invest in that.
Your earrings, you can buy cheap.
But I would say at least invest in some 18 karat gold necklaces
and then get you some really cute rings and you'll always look put together.
This is arguably a very, very simple look,
but it feels way more elevated because I have on all of this jewelry.
So now let's go to the dealership to go get this oil change.
And I honestly think I've come to the consensus
that within the next couple of months, I may sell my car.
I literally forgot to feed myself, which is not ideal.
I have like 10 minutes of time to swear.
So I'm like, should I stop and get something quick?
I think that's what I should do.
I think I'm going to just get me a White Castle sandwich.
And I have coupons.
That's the thing, I'm not even supposed to be eating this bull crap.
That was $2.56.
That's like the cheapest I've ever eaten in my life.
I'm just a girl.
I'm just a girl in the world.
How are you?
Good, how are you?
Where should I drop off my keys?
Perfect.
Okay, sounds good.
Okay, my oil life is back up to 100%, y'all.
I spent roughly $120 on this oil change.
I will have to get one for another like three, four months.
Today is Saturday and we are going to a jump club.
I'm so excited.
If you guys aren't familiar with jump club,
it's basically this workout class where you jump rope for about 30 minutes straight.
And then you have a five minute cool down.
It may sound super easy, but I'm telling you it is very difficult.
It has been my favorite form of cardio for the past four months.
This is my second class in the city since I've moved to Chicago.
And I'm really excited.
The weekends are usually the time that I devote a lot of energy to my businesses,
as well as to myself.
I want to show you guys how I truly like to just fill back up my cup by incorporating balance
through things like working out, hanging out with friends.
And we have a couple of errands that we need to run for this apartment.
But if you're following me on TikTok,
you saw that I purchased another piece of art for this wall and decided against it.
So we have to return that.
So I'm going to go to at home and return that and potentially purchase something else.
Swap it out for something different.
We're like 90% done with decorating my space.
And I'm so excited because I cannot wait to give you guys a full apartment tour
and just be completely settled into the space.
I have a couple more ideas of things that I really want to get finished in here
before I film like an entire apartment tour.
But yeah.
And then other than that, at 2 p.m., I do have a meeting.
Typically on Saturdays is when I like to schedule meetings for my business
or like design sprints or anything like that.
And I have a very special announcement.
I have been made part owner of an advertising agency.
It is called Boulevard.
It is a black minority female-owned agency based out of Detroit.
And it was founded by my godfather and a few of his friends.
And I'm so excited to be on board now as part owner
and really being able to add my strategic insights and visions for the company
and what they can do within the next 5 to 10 years.
And this is a really exciting new venture that we're going to be going down.
And as you guys know, I'm the owner of two businesses myself.
I have a digital stationery brand and I also own the Rikki Lee agency.
This will now be my third business venture.
You guys are going to go along the journey with me
as I'm doing a lot of this new stuff and learning a lot of this new stuff.
I hope that I am a reminder that it is okay to still dream.
Like, yes, I have my 9 to 5 and I love the stability that comes from it.
And I actually enjoy my job.
I enjoy the company, the culture, all of that.
But I also still have dreams outside of that.
And I have things that I want to establish, create, grow.
And I get to do that outside of work through little creative projects
where I can delve into my passions while I'm also paying my bills during the weeks.
If you are interested in that type of content,
make sure to give this video a thumbs up and to subscribe to my channel for more
because the vlogs are about to ramp up this year.
We have a lot to do.
And because I give you guys an insight into what's going on,
I have to be consistent in actually taking the steps to do the things
because I have to vlog it for you.
So this is holding me accountable as well.
And drop down below any big plans or goals that you have for 2025
because I would love to hear them.
2025 is going to be our year.
I am speaking that into existence.
Everyone is going to start all of the things that they said they were going to start.
Everyone is going to finish everything they said they wanted to finish.
Everyone is going to grow everything they want to grow.
This is the year to become unrecognizable
and to really step into the woman that God has called you to be.
And I feel like I have been taking baby steps to be that girl,
but now I'm about to take big elephant ginormous steps
to become the person that God has called me to be.
We don't have time to be tiptoeing around our purpose path anymore.
We need to be getting there.
But it is now 925.
I need to put on my shoes and get ready to go to Jump Club.
It's like freezing here in Chicago.
You've got to be warm out in these Chicago streets.
This is my favorite coat that I have from JCPenney.
It cinches in the waist and everything.
This is my winter essential.
But I wanted to show you guys the art piece that we are returning.
I don't know.
I just personally feel like this is something that I would see in a lot of people's homes.
That's not really my vibe.
That gives Chanel No. 5 pillows and really, really pink chairs.
That's not my vibe.
I really wanted to give adults, like grown.
This could come with me into my apartment when I'm 25.
So I'm being very strategic about the pieces that I'm putting into here
so they can travel with me to my forever home
because I do want to purchase property within the next four years.
This has to go back to the store.
Okay, we have to put this art piece in the back of my truck.
It's cold out, but it's not like cold out.
You know what I'm saying?
So it's bearable right now.
It feels so good to get out of the house for something other than work, y'all.
I have not been out of the house.
I'm literally so sweaty.
Oh my gosh.
That was good.
And jumping rope is honestly one of those things where it's like,
it feels like it's torture in the middle of it.
Like it might feel like you have a cold afterwards because,
like do I have any track runners who watch my channel?
Because if you ran track as a kid or if you even just run now,
like you know you get like that heartburn,
like that situation going on in your chest.
Yeah, that's what jumping does for me, but I really enjoy it.
When you have a fire playlist, it's like ten times better.
Right now I'm on my way to go pick up Makayla
because she's going to come with me to run some girly pop errands today.
Because it's wintertime and it's also cold,
I don't like to run errands after work.
It's just not happening.
And the traffic is just absolutely insane until probably,
I would say like 6 p.m. in Chicago, the traffic is insane.
So it doesn't even make sense to attempt to run errands during the week.
So my weekends, like my early mornings, afternoons,
that's when I usually am able to get a lot of the stuff that I want done.
And just a quick tip for any of my girlies out there who do like to work out
and you don't want to sweat out your natural hair
or you also do not want to sweat out and like mat up the back of your weave,
you can use a claw clip at the back of your head.
Unlike a ponytail, it's not going to slip down
and start touching the back of your neck.
Additionally, you're going to want to wear a jacket or something like this
to like literally be able to soak up the sweat on the back of your back
or your neck while you're working out
so there's no moisture at any point that can really touch your hair
because that's what causes it to mat up.
So you're going to clip it up off of the nape of your neck.
You don't have to clip it up because that,
especially if you're like jumping or something,
you don't want it to fall down because from jumping it's going to fall down.
I feel like scrunchies over time,
especially with weave when you're tying that up instead of your real hair,
it starts to loosen up and it starts to fall on the back of my neck.
So what I do is I use a claw clip at the nape of my neck
and I literally bunch my hair up like it's going in a ponytail and I clip it.
And so it's very little contact with the back of my neck where I'm sweating.
So there's no way that my weave can get wet and like matted.
Little trick.
Especially depending on the quality of the hair you got in,
if you got in a little quick weave
and you don't have a versatile quick weave
where you can be putting it up in a ponytail,
you don't want people to be able to see the kitchen in the back of your head
at your workout.
So just use a claw clip in the back,
clip it up like this,
and weave it.
I found some prints for inside of my bedroom.
Hallelujah.
Thank you, Jesus.
And like this look matches my nightstands.
So I'll tie everything in with a bow.
Oh, that's cute.
I'm literally obsessed with boucle.
And I feel like in 10 years, we're going to be like,
oh, boucle, you're so ugly.
And I'm going to be like, no, you have to be there.
Like boucle, that was the It Girl material.
You just don't know.
Oh, now this is where we need to be.
This is nice.
I like these colors.
I just don't know that the, I don't trust that these chop
the way they need to chop.
Oh, I like this color.
Hold on.
No, I did not smell that one.
I know, I'm over here forgetting our things.
By far, this one is the best.
This is Vanilla Suede.
Is this one your best?
Yeah.
Is this one your favorite?
It smells good.
This one smells so good.
I like this one.
This sun-washed, it's like a nice hug from a man you don't have.
Put me in.
Put it on my sheets.
It smells good, but it does smell good.
I can't.
But I like this one.
This one smells very good.
I cannot wait to wash my sheets with this.
Let me do this.
Do you smell that one?
I think so.
I don't trust it, because everything that we've tried
has been an extreme hit or miss.
Oh, this line, honey.
What am I spraying, my bathroom?
So, this is what the art looks like now that it's up in here.
We've moved the other ones away.
And I think this is cute.
With the nightstands, you see the wood?
How far up should I put them?
Is there a formula?
Oh, girl.
Let me see.
We have the real designer in here.
I think it's got to be at least halfway right here.
Okay, I think so, too.
That looks nice.
Oh, that looks good.
That's what we see.
Clucky.
Yeah.
Okay.
It looks like mini ears.
Give me one.
I think so.
It's so cute.
Wow, cute.
This song is making me so emotional, because
if only you guys knew.
If only you guys knew.
I am going through, not the first breakup of my life,
because I've definitely had some situations just before.
But I think this is the most significant breakup
that I've gone through.
And while Kirk Franklin is talking about
farewell, goodbye, so long to fear,
it just overwhelmed me.
When he said that chapter,
my life is over, farewell, goodbye, so long.
And it's just like,
when you love a person,
and you want nothing but the best for them,
but you know, like,
it's just, you guys just aren't meant to be together.
It's just like, you've got to move on.
That chapter of your life is over.
You can't want something different and new and better for your life
if you keep going back to what you once knew.
I know it may feel gut-wrenching right now,
but you're going to be fine.
Like, God's got you.
And more importantly, you've got you.
And the way that you're going to have you
is by taking care of you today,
so the person that you're going to look at
in six months from now
is unrecognizable.
She's going to be a new and improved version of you
that is so healed because you did the work today.
And I'm trying to do the work now.
Like, I'm really trying to keep
a healthy balance of communication with said person
because I don't want to be rude
and just, like...
Part of me is, like, keep him blocked.
Like, cut all communication.
He's done.
Like, that's part of me is, like, saying that.
And then part of me is, like, put enough of that.
I just had to pause the song and let you guys know
that you're going to be okay.
You're going to go break up.
If you're going through a phase right now
where you're having to say goodbye
to something that you once loved,
whether it be a job, an environment, a person,
like, you're going to be okay.
Like, say goodbye to the old and hello to the new,
even if you don't know what it is.
Like, just embrace it.
I think it's very important for young women like myself,
young women like Clark, young women like, you know, Ciara,
like, people who look as though they've really got it together
and, like, they would pick well to tell you about the times
when we have not picked well
and give you lessons learned about, like, our experiences
because I think it's very harmful
when the rhetoric online is like,
oh, I've never been played by a man.
I've never experienced that.
I've never done.
I've never been assembled.
I've never, like, behind closed doors,
we've all experienced hardship.
We've all experienced some sort of heartache and stuff,
and I'm not wishing that on anybody,
but I'm just saying, like, with age and with experiences
and with dating, like, sometimes what comes with the territory
is putting your heart on your sleeve and getting it broken,
and I just would say, like, my biggest piece of advice
for any woman out there who is still learning herself,
like, who is still trying to understand
what she has to offer to this world,
I wouldn't center men.
Like, in 2025, I'm truly decentering men.
After we broke up, I got on Hinge.
I've never been on a dating app before,
so I downloaded Hinge,
and then I got accepted into Raya in, like, three days,
and I was like, ooh, and I got onto Raya,
and then I was just like, what am I doing?
Like, this is not how I think God intends
for me to meet my partner.
I think he wants it to be a little bit more intentional
than someone just, like, swiping right on my profile,
and I think he also has a lot more
that he's trying to do with me as a person,
and that is outside of, like, being up under another person.
Like, I need to be up under him, not under another man.
Like, I need to follow his lead right now, not another man,
and that's been not a tough pill to swallow
because it's actually an exciting pill to swallow
because I'm so excited to just follow God's lead
in this next season of my life and, like, see where it takes me,
but it's just kind of unexpected
because I feel like I always get to look on the Internet,
and I see, like, couples and people my age
who are, like, getting engaged
and doing all these cool, exciting things,
and I'm like, well, God, why isn't that in the cards for me?
Hello?
But he's like, no, Ricky, like, I have other things for you to do.
I have other people for you to serve,
and when you get into a truly, like, Christ-like relationship,
you are in servitude to one another.
Like, you're building a family.
You're serving a family, like,
but right now I want you to serve your community.
And if I were to start a family,
I wouldn't have as much time to do that.
So it's not that the blessing is being delayed
because it's not.
The blessing is on time,
and it's going to come in due time,
but right now, you know,
focus on your singlehood and enjoy it, you know?
That's my biggest piece of advice to anybody out there
who's just, like, lost, who's struggling with singlehood,
and you just don't know what to do.
You want to be out here.
You want to be dating.
You want to be finding your man.
Like, find purpose in just being you.
Find purpose in just being his daughter.
You don't have to find purpose in being a wife.
You don't have to find purpose in being a boss.
And that's been the biggest piece to me, rebranding.
Like, in this phase of my life,
the rebrand is definitely centered around
being just God's girl and being content with that.
Like, if I didn't have the community,
if I didn't have the following,
if I didn't have the podcast,
if I didn't have the crazy job,
if I didn't have the beautiful apartment,
would I still be satisfied?
And, like, that's a question that I have to ask myself daily
because so many of us derive success or growth
or just satisfaction from the blessings
that God brings into our lives with time.
But it's like, are you satisfied with just you?
What if all you had in this world was just you?
Would that be enough?
Truly.
And when you ask yourself that
and you don't know the answer,
we got to go back to the drawing board.
This is my look.
