RESTART AND REFOCUS. TIME TO BECOME THE STRONGEST VERSION - One Of The Best Motivational Speeches

there's two people the man who thinks they can and the man who thinks they can't and they're both right do what your future self wants to have done and if you can't conceptualize your future self you are currently the future self to your past your life is a product of your past decisions and right now is a pretty dang good opportunity to make the decisions that'll leave you gratified instead of devastated years from now the crazy thing is you'll become this future self one day at a time but somehow years are going to pass and if you spend those years Outsourcing pain to your later self you'll be wishing you could come back to right now to face what needs to be faced we're not men because we Face the battle and we get immediately Victory every time a battle comes up We're Men because we Face the battle and we stay in the battle and we feel like we're losing and we feel like we're getting beat up but we stay in there and we keep fighting and we plant our feet and we say until death do I part this is me and I will fight this battle regardless of what the battle is being tired is part of fighting you tell yourself that achieving your goals is too hard you're constantly questioning what if I fail you think to yourself that you can't keep going but I've got a question for you what other option do you have understand that your entire life has been spent in a cave locked to the wall No Escape the only thing that you knew was the Shadows a false version of reality but eventually one day those chains break you're free you get up you walk to the end of the cave and you finally see the light you finally understood what's possible you finally understood that within you lies the capability to accomplish anything given that you build yourself into the person that can do so and once you realize that there is no going back your only option is to keep pushing is to keep moving forward is to keep enduring and suffering until you've built the life that you truly want to live so don't give up now don't end your dreams early for if you remain steadfast remain disciplined I guarantee that you will build the life of your dreams winners are people that everything that they do all the habits that they instill are the habits of a winner a winner isn't a final product a winner is a lifestyle a winner is a concurrent set of actions that lead you to a final destination same way is for losers usually losers inhibit behaviors of losing people who they hang out with what they eat what they listen to what they consume on a regular basis how they think about themselves how they view the world everyone's hypocritical and terrified to do anything and put themselves out there and fail so we hyper analyze hyper criticize become paralyzed and end up doing nothing sitting in our basement watching Tik toks of other people's lives pretending that they're happy I was having one of those cynical days and felt like ranting a little but honestly there's optimism here for some low barrier rentry personal growth stop analyzing stop criticizing both yourself and others and Go fail at some go give someone a good job for sucking at something because at least they're trying maybe will'll even give yourself permission to do the same we find meaning in trying difficult things not just in succeeding at them that's why I think it's so tough I think so many people are just constantly searching for answers without ever looking at themselves and realizing that when you change yourself the answers are just going to come out of that place they're going to flow from that so many of our answers that we are looking for come from just changing what's within ourselves it comes from looking at ourselves in the mirror and being honest about the things that we're dealing with the things that we're going through the things that are holding us back and working on changing them from the internal right why do you do that thing right because because a habit an external habit that you have a decision or choice that you keep making is a reflection of something going on within yourself so you could you're going to waste so so much energy or extend so much energy trying to change the external habit the external Choice the external decision the external thing without ever touching what the root cause of that thing actually is right and that's why you always relapse that's why you always fall back into that trap that's why you always Resort back to the bad habits because you haven't changed your inner environment you haven't gotten to the root of why you even do that thing in the first place you you got to figure that out you have to figure that [Music] out it's all about the mental approach that you have with life and people not understanding that your biggest enemy is you you battling yourself people don't understand is you against you the only person that gets in your way is you nobody else it's you your urgency level will dictate what you're willing to tolerate your urgency level will always dictate what you're willing to tolerate your urgency level for Success will always dictate what you're willing to tolerate your urgency level for greatness will always dictate what you're willing to tolerate your urgency level for the person that you're striving to become will always dictate what you're willing to tolerate if you got an urgency level to want to do something it's certain environments that you don't even go into it's certain dialogue that you don't even entertain it's certain people that you don't even hang around it's certain things that you don't even do it's certain things that you don't even eat it's certain places that you're not even willing to go your urgency level will always dictate what you're willing to tolerate you can say it all day but if you ain't got no urgency for it I don't believe it you've come so far you've come so far you've come so far and you're not done yet doing the work isn't just about grinding through the day it's about building strength in the part of you that says I'm in control it's about being in charge of how you show up you are always in control of your life so just keep going one intentional move at a time everything changed for me when I realized we're not meant to feel excited and perfect all the time the idea of pursuing happiness not leading to happiness you know you you purs you pursue things that have meaning in life and things that you care about you know love challenges relationships and happiness might ensue but you don't pursue the happiness itself because it's inevitably not going to be there all the time so this is the simplest way to change your life from what I found you you ask yourself this question as many times you can throughout the day the question is is what I'm doing right now getting me closer to or further from my goals if the answer is closer to then keep doing that thing but if the answer is further from immediately stop what you're doing and take a different action that's going to help you get closer to your [Music] goals like I said everything that comes into your life it can either be a blessing or a burden and the only thing that determines that is you blessings are in Opportunities right so if you view everything that you go through everything that happens to you as an opportunity what's going to start to happen is you're going to start finding blessings in everything that you go through you're going to realize how everything that you go through is a blessing it's something that you won't really fully understand until you look back in hindsight but even still after you realize that the struggle the adversity the hardship the thing not going your way was a blessing it's going to help you to start seeing the things that you go through in the future differently it is shockingly easy to get stuck maybe that's in a habit maybe it's a place around a group of people I don't know but the reality is is even if at one point that felt like the next step even if at one point that felt like the right thing to do sometimes you still need to take that next step and move on cuz the reality is in life if you want to keep growing if you want to keep evolving as a person there's no real stasis you always have to dive into new things you always have to find new discomfort zones and even if you found a place that's incredible and the moment is perfect be there be present enjoy it but remember at some point there might be a point to move on and when that time comes try not to hesitate anyways that's worth a shot what is the role of patience in life now one of my favorite Woods is the oak wood because no matter which furniture is made out of it is always a solid good quality wood why do things sometimes need so much time to grow and others go so quickly and directly expresss what do you want big lights big attraction on the outside but in the core nothing fundamental nothing sustainable nothing solid no good quality or the German Oak slowly steadily highly energized highly stable and if you want to become solid stable deeply rooted there's no other way without patients it's this idea that we don't control what happens to us in life but we control how we respond to what happens in life and the stoics say that basically every situation big ones small ones ones you wanted ones you didn't want it's all an opportunity to respond with these four virtues the virtues are courage discipline Justice and wisdom so the idea is that that is what life is asking from you one or all of those virtues and some kind of a combination that's what it's demanding of you this is the comeback maybe you're in a rut maybe you've just experienced failure or maybe you're just lost but this is the part in your story where the momentum shifts this is where you find the drive that you've been looking for it is now this is the start of your comeback the vision that you have for your future everything you so desire is begging you to pick yourself up and begin your journey because the window is closing and if you pass this one up you very well may solidify your Eternal existence within the Dreadful cycle of stagnation what if I told you that the reason why you want certain things so deeply is because it's already yours at some point on your timeline where you actually feel the future and you're just working towards that point in time the only thing I'm trying to copper in this video is getting you to not do the one wrong path which is fear fear of not making it work fear of other people's disapproval that you aren't cool anymore or because you don't show up to social events or because you don't blump money on stuff that doesn't matter anymore or you're not wearing the brands that they think are cool I'm not saying that that stuff's not going to happen it absolutely will happen it might even be worse than you imagine but you will not die and if you use the frame does me l losing all of these relationships and having more time increase the likelihood that it get to my goal or decrease the likelihood that it gets to my goal all of a sudden when you use the goal frame of the best version of you it starts to make things a lot clearer and I'm not saying that you have to to make that sacrifice every time but the thing is is you're making a sacrifice either way you're either sacrificing your goals or you're sacrificing that relationship why would you not go for it why would you not take a chance at one point in time you got to take a chance on you don't expect people to understand you don't expect it to make sense to anybody why you've got to do this why you have got to go why you leave this is a good job I'm going they pay you well I'm going why I don't understand you don't have to I'm going for me because I've made a different kind of commitment with my life this is something I have got to do for some reason most people don't know this but discipline isn't just about getting the work done it's about winning the small battles every single day understand that if you practice discipline for today you set the tone for the week and if you win enough of those weeks you will win the month and if you win enough of these months you win the year and if you stay disciplined year after year you will build the life of your dreams but you have to remember that the life that you want to live is built upon the discipline that you practice today so how are you going to spend it rather than trying to impress people who don't give about you just start impressing the next 2.0 version of yourself like what would the next highest most stoic version of you be impressed by today would would it be impressed by the fact that you're going to bed earlier that you're waking up and getting your workout in that you're eating right that you're reading you know 5 10 15 pages out of a book every day uh would it be impressed by the fact that you're no longer on social media as much as you are what would the future self be impressed by people's opinion of you is none of your business nor should you make it yours you you get in a lot of trouble woring about what somebody think about you when really what difference do it make the majority of people who have a negative view point of view really don't even know you what do you do when the people closest to you don't support your growth and the main reason they don't support it is cuz you're killing off the person they love think about that like you're changing who you are and they're comfortable with who you are and they feel that's their reality too is is caught up in who you are being so when you decide to change you're killing off their buddy or their whatever and you're screwing up their reality because you fit into theirs your belief system has to be really really strong you know you have to really really believe it and really really want it otherwise it's just too much to endure I mean because you know everybody's questioning you and um people outside are questioning you and uh it's a little embarrassing and it's like it's hard to explain you know and so there there's no good good answers to any of that stuff and uh these challenges are hard to [Music] endure the idea that working hard doesn't make progress is one of the biggest fares that exists in humanity because at the end of the day whatever you amount to isn't going to matter anym ways right and so if there is anything that's Eternal for us at least as individuals it's going to be who we become in the process the work works on you more than you work on it if you want to be the best in the world at something you do the work to become the best in the world and the work works on [Music] you first wish is for you to find joy in work find work that gives you great joy or just fall in love with whatever work you do that's the only way you're going to do your best work that's the only way you're going to do Exquisite work instead of working for a living think of it as your life's work so my first wish to you is the same that I wish you find joy in your work you could choose right now to become the kind of person that is going to invest all of their time all of their resources verus all of their energy into becoming the person that lives the ideal Vision that you have for your life and it's going to be hard you're going to have to make investments that other people your age and your position are not going to be making and they're going to judge you and they're going to make fun of you and they're going to laugh at you but in the end you get a reward you get to live a life that others can't you get to do things they can't you get to become things they won't you get to make impacts they don't your entire existence will be a reward for the effort that you put in on the front end is it going to be painful now with a reward later or is it going to be fun now with pain later I need you to step into it I need you to step into it because you're already ready for it it's the voice in your head that's telling you you're not ready for it that's telling you look at the past look at the past look at the past if you look at the past you will pick your focus off what you're doing on what you're supposed to be going into ask yourself these following questions and be brutally honest do I set clear goals and follow through even when things get difficult am I the type of person who gets back up easily After experiencing failure am I disciplined and consistent in my efforts do I seek continuous learning and self-improvement am I adaptable and open to change and finally do I have a good support system you're making impact of how you show up every single day and the thing that people don't talk about is that you're making impact whether you choose to to to be conscious of it or not you're either making a positive impact or negative impact let's be real let's talk about this because sometimes we just talk about oh positive impact but you're impacting something you are a leader regardless somebody somewhere at some time is watching what you do they're watching how you operate they're watching how you respond they're watching how you keep your composure they're watching how you persevere they're watching how you endure they're watching how you bounce back they're watching you right you are a leader you are setting a tone for somebody else's life it's so crazy for us to think like as individuals everything comes from us your ideas everything that you get is coming from a library of existence nothing is new Under the Sun in fact the Sun that you look up at every day is one of trillions upon trillions upon trillions of other stars nothing is new once you realize the insignificance of yourself then you understand what what what what your actual significance is M you're lucky to be a comma in the sentence of a paragraph that happens to be in a page of a book called existence you're H you're lucky to be the dot on an eye lucky or turn it upside down the dot on the bottom of an exclamation you are lucky to be there with a m imagine the people that walk around thinking that they are the book just keep living man I mean what else are we supposed to do when we don't have any idea what to do when we know exactly what we want to do make it matter even when it doesn't matter that matters [Music]