獨家婚姻的第一殺手，不是出軌、不是貧困，也不是互相的爭吵，而是…… #乾淨世界 #婚姻家庭 #親密關係 #自媒體

I remember that Zhang Ailin once described marriage as I've tried marriage for you If you choose the wrong half of your life Every step in the rest of your life will be wrong You will live in misery In fact, appearance and wealth are not that important What's important is character, responsibility, and responsibility And the three crowns and education of life, family, and residence It's really different to choose who to marry Some people will become your light Some people will extinguish your light Marriage is the only time we can choose our family It's like the most important investment of our lives It's worth our time Today, I'm going to share some of my personal understanding of marriage In my opinion, men and women have completely different expectations of marriage Men want to solve the current problem more Women want to solve the problem of the future Because the cost of fertility is different The cost of women is actually far greater than that of men Once a woman marries you She puts her future in the hands of this man So when a woman says to you I don't see any hope in you Please don't easily label the other person Love is love, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry, wine, tea Marriage is the tea that will make you forget your worries The bottom line of love is hormones, passion, and romance But the bottom line of marriage is responsibility, tolerance, and a day-to-day balance Love and getting along are two different things There's only one way to get along It's to understand, which is more important than love You understand his words He understands your words You understand his words He understands your words People who love you don't necessarily understand you But people who understand you must know how to love you So in order to better understand each other You must learn to communicate more I've always felt that in a marriage life The most terrible thing is not even a sexless marriage But a sexless marriage Now the situation of many families is The words spoken by the couple for a month Are not as much as the words spoken by the couple for a day It's normal to be in love But I want to remind you The days between husband and wife No matter how busy or difficult Don't ignore the importance of communication Because once the communication is smooth Maybe you won't be so difficult And you won't be so busy, so tired Tell you a secret of communication Say what the other person wants to hear Listen to what the other person wants to say Simple, right? But very useful This is not a compromise But an all-round communication Suitable for any relationship In fact, the sense of security and freedom in marriage Are comparable Only one can marry Most women are not married to men But married to marriage That is to say Men are not so important to them And marriage is very important to them On the contrary Marriage is not so important to men What is important to men is women So the truth of marriage is Women have to choose a man for marriage Men have to accept marriage because they need this woman Once you understand this, you can understand What the other person really wants Then do it according to the cause You can give the other person enough sense of security At the same time, you can clearly grasp the boundaries of freedom And don't try to change anyone in marriage Even if he has been with you for a long time When you meet the other person at the age of marriage His three views and education have almost been set There will be no big changes in this life What you need to do is just a choice, not a transformation I remember a fan once asked me The most common question is What if you find out that you love the wrong person after marriage? I remember there was a high praise answer under the screen That is, the best way is not to divorce But to change yourself first As a result, you know, there are a lot of people under this answer What to say What if the other person is a bastard Why should I change? You see It's actually very difficult to change yourself You have to remember that there are no bad people between couples, only bad people Life is like a road, marriage is like a car Two people walk together There are inevitably bumps on the road If two people walk in the same direction If the relationship breaks down Please remember to take care of yourself more and less of others The first killer of marriage is not cheating It's not poverty, it's not mutual sincerity Many people are very sympathetic outside But when they come home, they are full of nagging Couples inevitably quarrel because of life or work friction Arguing is actually not terrible But you have to keep three don'ts You can be angry, but don't complain You can quarrel, but don't cut it short Don't worry about it Mr. Yang Jiang said Half of life is full of salt, half of life is full of sea You put a little salt, it's salty You put a little sugar, it's sweet What flavor do you want to adjust, it's all up to you It's not complicated for couples to get along The difficult thing is the mentality No matter how good the relationship is, you have to leave enough space for each other This space includes life, psychology And all the details of getting along Many couples mistakenly think that two people are one This is a big mistake You are you, he is him No matter how harmonious the three views are, you are two independent individuals The essence of leaving space for each other is to leave space for yourself Am I right? Believing in someone is actually because of confidence Let's talk about betrayal Cheating is more terrible than cheating Cheating can find a lot of reasons, even excuses But cheating must be a subjective choice Some people say that cheating is a betrayal of marriage I think cheating brings the greatest harm to marriage In fact, it's a lie Cheating is a choice to face temptation And one, two, three, three, three cheats This is the real betrayal There is no perfect marriage in this world No matter who you marry There may be a moment of regret Those who are happy in marriage It's not because they found the perfect other half But because they are together with the other half Support each other, share joys and sorrows Advance and retreat together Only then can you be perfect Finally, I want to say It's not hard to meet the right person Then please learn how to be the right person first I am the one who is hurt by you every day