The Importance of Reaching a Point in Your Day when You Feel Finished

I want to ask you a question in this video and the question is when do you feel finished how often do you feel finished when do you get to a point in your day or how often when you feel everything's done everything's completed and now I can rest and I think it's very interesting that very few of us get to that point very often in talking with people my experience has been that very few people ever get to the point where they feel like I'm finished now that is an issue because when we are moving towards goals or trying to do anything we're asking basically we're asking the higher mind if you like the higher brain whatever you want to say the neocortex has these goals these higher order goals and the nervous system down here has very little interest in any of that all it wants is safety so when we're moving towards these higher level goals life goals we're basically learning how to negotiate to get the nervous system to comply to feel safe enough in order to comply with those requests to take action on those gold now if we never feel like oh I'm finished now for today basically the nervous system isn't getting any signaling that rest now finished a gratitude for what it has allowed you to do that day for its cooperation so we want to be feeling regularly daily like I'm finished everything's done now the the thought process is going to be I'm not done I have so much to do I Didn't Do It All yet and I'm running out of time and therefore I must do more and the question is is like well how much should you do today and the answer comes back more which is the worst answer it's it's a terrible answer more is like how long is a piece of string and your nervous system is just totally going to be overwhelmed by this and it's going is it any Wonder we start to go into this contracted freeze state where we can't actually do anything so a few pointers we want to get to the point daily where we feel like I'm finished now that's great if nothing else happens for the rest of the day perfect I'm finished finished pointers for how to get to that point what you do is you start to negotiate what are the your minimum standards for Action okay your minimum standards and that's different for everybody but a minimum standard is it's the question is basically instead of asking what's the most I can do how much can I do we we sit with what's the least I can do today in any given area and feel like I've made some progress some decent progress that I can feel that's solid okay now it's probably going to be much less than you think it is so instead of saying okay I have to study for my exams or I have to write a thesis or I have to work on my business for 6 hours that's an insane minimum 6 hours is a huge herculan amount of effort to make right and the person who says that to themselves never puts in six hours anyway but what if it's like you you might be able to negotiate okay look 6 hours might be in this ideal amount but what if I was able to do an hour a day on that or what if I was able to do 30 minutes in my book procrastination decoded I talk about 30 minutes being a nice block because you can actually make some progress and pretty much anything in about 30 minutes anything less than that is a bit tricky but it could potentially be less than that as long as you're okay with it as being your minimum standard for engagement to make progress and basically with these minimums it's let's say you had two three goals to do in a given day and you you meet the minimum for each one what you want to start doing then when that's met is sending the signal to your nervous system and finished proactively telling yourself thank you I'm finished that is such a game Cher for us to feel completed like I've done it it's over with instead of this how long is it P your strength more more more more more not enough not enough not enough run out of time run out of time that is the worst way we can talk to ourselves when we're trying to move forward with action so if you've got any questions about this just ask them below but we want to be establishing very easily achieve achievable minimum standards for engagement with goal that will make you feel like you're making progress towards the goal without overwhelming you okay and then we can engage with that consistently and then also consistently get to the point where we feel like huh good job things are done now and finished it may not be the 6 hours every single time but it would be a minimum standard that you can stick consistent with and the the factor of consistency is super important here because consistency over a long period of time is going to reap massive rewards that to be honest we're not even good at comprehending or perceiving we don't perceive the effects of consistent small daily engagement so have that as a goal you want to be getting to the point where you're feeling finished I can relax now did what I needed to do okay I hope that's a useful concept keep it in mind thanks for watching and I'll see you very soon mind yourself bye-bye [Music]