5 Ways to Get More Respect, Backed by Research

respect can be one of the most important aspects of a relationship whether it's respecting yourself or others as defined by Oxford languages respect is defined as due regard for the feelings wishes rats or traditions of others if you often feel like you're being used taken advantage of ignored or taken less seriously you may feel like you're not getting any respect these days want to know how to command respect like others do if so keep watching for six psychologically proven ways to get more respect did in the eye do you look everywhere but into the eyes of the person you're talking to holding someone's gaze is a key way to convey mutual respect according to psychologist Dr Aaron itoff looking someone in the eye shows them that you think they are important in addition researchers at the University of British Columbia found that eye contact can make you more resistant to tactics of persuasion and influence this means that you're more likely to stand your own ground rather than fall under the influence of others the next time you talk with somebody try to give them some eye contact as they speak you might feel an increased sense of closeness that will command yourself some respect Perfection objection to command respect you might think that you need to hide any of your weaknesses or flaws as much as possible and put on a facade after all what else can make you seem less worthy of respect and praise than making a mistake but the reality is often quite the opposite in 1966 Harvard psychologist Elliot Aronson discovered the pratful effect this type of bias showed that the people considered Superior by others tended to be more likable or attractive when showing weakness in one of aaronson's experiments this weakness took the form of an everyday blunder such as spilling coffee over oneself this small mistake humanized people who seemed to be superior like managers teachers or parents and thus made them more likable let's be honest who doesn't love a good blooper reel at the end of a show or movie it's kind of nice to know perfect people mess up too right dress to impress let's say you're on a first date with somebody at a nice restaurant your date comes in and they're wearing a t-shirt jeans and aunt's bath does this seem like a good first impression to you what would you think of your dates if they came groomed well dressed barfed and put together instead probably seems a lot more likeable right these are First Impressions they are almost always the first indicator of whether you'll like or be liked by someone while natural looks are out of your control the way you dress isn't how you dress can give you the opportunity to change others impressions of you clothes can also be a way to boost confidence and a manner of self-expression that can help you command respect according to researcher Kim Johnson of the University of Minnesota our behavior in respect to other people is influenced by the person's dress and the meaning we associate with that dress While most make the mistake of dressing to blend in with others to avoid being judged try dressing in a way that makes you stand out with your personal charm this may include choosing a unique style wearing clothes that accentuate the beauty of your body's heart and dressing in a way that makes you feel more self-confident so if you want to command more respect try jessing in a way that you think would do so but don't forget to still be you respond don't react have you ever seen a news headline and got immediately angry everyone has had a strong feeling before however this can be something that causes people to not respect you according to Mayo Clinic those who can maintain personal composure during times of stress or excitement are able to be more assertive and often more respected and likable being assertive can help boost self-esteem and earn the respect of others asserting yourself means upping your confidence and standing your ground without being too aggressive or emotional overwhelming feelings can obstruct conflict resolution showing others that you're able to be firm and confident while being calm can Garner respect if you're too aggressive you might seem like a bully that ignores the needs of others and is self-righteous you don't want to be someone explosive like bagugo from my hero Academia which can get the way of problem solving but you also don't want to be too passive and allow others to walk all over you smile and Nod do you know someone who talks on and on and on when you finally get the chance to speak do they interrupt you to talk about themselves or ignore what you say and divert the topic back to them would you respect someone who doesn't give you respect probably not to create mutual respect the thoughts and opinions of everybody should be acknowledged in many circumstances people often do not concentrate on what is being said they just listen just to listen according to the professor of cross-cultural management in the University of Berlin Dr Marie Therese class keeping an open mind and listening deeply is a sign of respect doing so can make others feel that they and their beliefs are valued and well thought of which can cause them to reciprocate the respect and attention you can show you're an active listener by paraphrasing and validating their words or asking relevant questions which will make them feel heard and understood remember that commanding respect always involves giving respect to others too sometimes you'll meet some people who simply are unwilling to reciprocate respect no matter the circumstance we cannot change others or their actions in those cases it might be best to limit how much you're with these types of people remember respect should always be a mutual thing between two people your mental health should be a priority you are worthy of respect and we hope you can use some of these tricks to help you command respect in your life as always please subscribe to us for more videos like this thanks 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