Realistic Guide to Self-Care for Moms | How To Prioritize Your Self Care

[Music] hey everybody Welcome to the wock way I'm Jessica today's video is going to be all about realistic self-care for moms now I spent the first 35 years of my life not taking care of myself in fact doing the exact opposite I was burning both candles at the end running myself into the ground like doing everything I could to put myself last on the list I never made myself a priority everything else came first and in the past two years I really decided that that needed to change for a few reasons number one I was at the most unhealthiest I had been in my entire life number two I realized I was setting a horrible example for Emily and number three I just wanted better for myself for my family for homeschool for Emily for everything and I realized that all of that started with me like it all started with me doing better and taking better care of myself so for the past 2 years after 35 years of not taking care of myself I have started to make myself a priority take time for me make myself number one um and really focus on realistic self-care things that I could do and incorporate into my life to take care of me that would not only benefit me benefit everybody around me and so over the past two years I have done different things I have started eating healthier I have started working out I have done um more reading of all of these little things that have slowly added up to me taking better care of myself but here's the thing about self-care that nobody tells you when you're not taking care of yourself is that all of your reasons for not doing it become obsolete so previous to two years ago when I wasn't taking care of me um my excuses were I don't have time was the biggest one but it was like I don't have time I don't have the energy um I can't afford it whatever the excuses were but you know what I realized um I actually feel like I have more time now than I did then and it's because I have more energy since I'm eating better and I'm exercising and I'm pouring into myself I'm not constantly depleted and exhaust lost it so while I may not technically have more hours in the day it does feel like I have more time now than I did then um being too exhausted or too tired obviously that fixed itself um and not being able to afford to take care of myself um the thing I learned there is yes sometimes self-care can be expensive eating healthier is more expensive um sometimes working out can be expensive you have to pay for a gym or you know workout equipment although you can totally do it for free um here's the thing if you don't spend the money to take care of yourself now you're going to spend the money to take care of yourself later whether that's um for me it was more expensive clothes because buying plus siiz clothes is more expensive um it was also things like maybe missing out which isn't necessarily a cost but it was costing me uh missing out on experiences or not being able to do things or having to like the cost of the anxiety of it like that's gone I no longer have to stress about like the little things like am I going to fit in this booth or am I going to be able to go horseback riding because I'm not going to be at the maximum weight or whatever the cost the anxiety and the stress of that um is gone and that's because I made a point to take care of myself so all of my reasons before that seems like great reasons are gone now and so I say all of that to really encourage you like if you are a homeschool mom and the throws of it and you're like I don't have the time I'm too tired at the end of the day to make myself a priority I have all of these other things that need to come first um it costs too much whatever it is I promise if you will just take baby steps and do something something is always better than nothing and you're going to reap so much more benefits from having done it and those around you are going to reap the benefits from you having done it like Emily will hands down tell you I am a better nicer um more energetic mom on days that I work out um we can all always tell days when I eat like crud versus days that I don't um I don't feel as well I'm more sluggish which then means that I'm not is engaged with them or I don't want to do things I'm like I don't even want to do that today versus if I work out or I eat better or I take 10 minutes to read you know maybe even before I get out of bed or whatever like I take that time for me it benefits them tenfold so I just want to say that to say make a point find five or 10 minutes in your day and prioritize yourself now let me get into the really exciting part for the past 2 years while I have been trying to take better care of myself there is a ton that I have learned there's also been resources I wish I had that I could never find or at least I could never find affordably because as a mom who was trying to take care of herself I can't explain it but spending a ton of money on ourselves is like oh that's not going to happen so I will drop $100 on something for Emily without even batting an eye but spending more than five on myself is like oh that's so expensive which is so silly isn't it anyway when I couldn't find what I was looking for I decided to create it so I have a brand new realistic guide to self-care for moms and the best part about this guide is that because I know us as moms are not going to spend a lot of money on myself or ourselves or yourself I made it super affordable so it is less than $5 because I knew that that was like the threshold that I was willing to spend on myself it is only $3.9 9 so you can get this guide for how to prioritize your self-care for less than $4 because you are totally worth at least that there's tons of stuff in here there's self-care ideas there's journaling prompts it is so so good let me just turn you around and go ahead and show you an in-depth look at what's included so the first page we have here is the importance of self-care and why it's more than just facials and pedicures then we have some self-care Basics we have 50 self-care ideas we have 30 journaling promps and then there are some physical self-care tips some mental self-care tips some emotional self-care tips and some spiritual self-care tips then we have 24 different self-care after informations there are some self-care boundaries you guys this one was hard for me I'm not even going to lie then we have a page where you guys can kind of brainstorm what fills your cup and how to work some of these things that fill your cup into your routine and then we have monthly tracker so we have a monthly habit tracker where you can track daily weekly and monthly habits we have a reading summary tracker so you can decide how many books you want to read and or and or how many minutes you want to read and then the actual number of books and minutes you read here there is a daily reading tracker so there will be books for however many days are in the month and you can color each book as you read each day and then here's some place for you to track the book that you read and rate it and then you can kind of talk about this month's favorite and this month's least favorite so you're keeping a log of that there is a month of gratitude for each month so there will be how many days in this case January is 31 so each day you can write a sentence about something you're grateful for and then a fill your self-care jar for each month as well now there's one of these for every month I'm going to show you an example of what it would look like so here's a little bit of the Habit tracker filled out for January here's a little bit of the reading summary filled out for January here's a little of the month of gratitude filled out for January and here is an example of what the self-care jar might start looking like and then you have those same trackers for every month