How To Be Proud Of Being Chinese Right Now w/ @wamyy5

how can I embrace my culture with all this anti-chinese hate around me this is a question that gets posed on the internet quite often and we're here with YouTuber wayy to talk about it hey thank you for joining us uh on this topic uh I'll read the post I'm fine with people hating the CCP but when people start to label me a certain way and take away my pride from my culture I feel very bad about myself and I wish that I was not associated with that at all uh this might sound really bad but it's late at night and I've been thinking a lot about this there's just nothing cool about being Chinese every time I open up you know different things it's just all this negative stigma against the Chinese government and it ends up getting all bucketed together to just be like negative against Chinese and general right and not not to mention how trendy Korean and Japanese culture are it does make Chinese culture look even worse because now you have comparisons even Taiwanese culture is considered you know more put together or whatever so anyways you're Chinese wayy you're a YouTuber let's talk about it have you um um felt this do you understand what this op is saying have you felt it personally or have you seen it yes I've definitely seen this kind of sentiment which uh to be fair to look at this it is really hard there's no like oh do XYZ and you'll automatically feel better because you are part of you know a culture like you can't just put it behind right you're born like that so um I think that overall what what I try to do is um surround myself with more people who are like similar to me where they're also open-minded right and I think something that we can try which is hard granted is to try and separate what the government's doing from the culture and even though the culture might not have the Kawaii or the K-pop and things like that we got the Heidi loud dance though we have that like the the noodles yeah yeah so uh yeah the food you know so I think um that's that's my initial thought on that right does there need to be and can we come up you you speak Chinese right yes can we help come up with a term the Chinese Kawaii or Chinese egoh I'm sure there is a term like that somewhere I don't know about I think doesn't Kawaii come from kaai kaai but like I guess is that can we are we able to brand that as cute like kaai I would call it n kaai because it's it's the cuteness of the NS cuz that's the people who made the Heidi loud dance it's like almost like such a I think that honestly as I had this discussion with somebody the other day and this is a very hard thing for people to embrace the villagers in China got something special going on in terms of like village humor you mean they seem like they have the most soul from what you can tell like when you're talking about Lively Chinese people Chinese cheerful Chinese people people that look like they're enjoying their lives because this is important for imagery you need to see Chinese people enjoy their lives to have a better image of them and you will view Chinese people differently you're saying the only ones you see enjoying life are like the the middle class lower middle class people yeah or people in the rural Villages sort of like away from this like uh you know hyper skyscraper iation MH like like and I know I'm not it's such a weird thing to say but yeah I just know that those people are like they're like in their bag right now like they're in their element is what I'm saying okay because look how H like I don't even want to get into it but like yeah like when they're you know they might be eating some frogs in the yam mountains but when they're stuffing that frog with the egg yolk and you know people got criticized for doing that but like that lady's smiling you're okay so but how does that affect the overall image of Chinese because we got to talk about this about how what are the main things that we're noticing because obviously the internet I don't always want to focus on internet comments internet comments will always be bad and inflammatory about everything but I guess what are things that are closer to us that we can like tangibly feel that we're like dang I wish this was different and then if this was different Chinese people would be viewed differently or the country would be viewed differently for me my whole thing is the the the things that are like typify being Chinese and tell me if you agree with this or not I would say it's like the love of academic achievement and money that's almost like the number one like it's almost feels like if you had a kid who went to Harvard and got rich that kid could be like the worst person but it wouldn't matter cuz they'd still be a great Chinese child yeah I think that that it seems a you agree with me that in the west that's and even other Asian countries it's viewed as a little lopsided thinking sure I could agree and even in like Southeast Asian countries the Chinese are like famous for thinking like that the most out of obviously everybody in Southeast Asia I would say and then the number two thing is maybe the lack of expressiveness and I always said this the oxytocin piping the oxytocin piping might need to get redone and you know in this area Andrew they're trying to build some skyscrapers but guess what they're doing they're ripping up all the old piping because in this area you know like New York is quite old right the piping is from like 1880 yeah yeah and it can't support the piping necessary for the modern buildings that they're building right right right right it's a great analogy so they're ripping open the piping and replacing with more modernized piping so I guess that that's what I'm saying that's hard though piping uh ripping it out is going to be painful how could we do it is there let's just brainstorm like this is like a brainstorm session like we're putting the minds together here okay so for oxy piping there may need to be some sort of spiritual situation that takes place not necessarily religious but spiritual I think could help uh religious in a conventional Western hemisphere definition of a religion okay like uh okay so that I think could be there like meditation yeah and then different um encouraging more expression growing up yeah just like say what you want to say you know like Asian parents don't say anything they think yeah right so what what was your relationship with your parents how cold was it was it it a very cold Chinese to parent to child relationship did they ever say I love you they actually did so I think that my parents were not The Stereotype stereotype like tiger parents blah blah blah right but there were a lot of things that we wouldn't talk to them about just because they wouldn't understand they're very frugal all those things cared about academics so did they laugh did they enjoy themselves was there this in the house or very seldom they actually did laugh so I guess what I'm saying is like aren't they from smaller cities like a little bit like more far out from the from the core I think that's true like yeah yeah people in the boonies or from the Boon or I don't want to say Boonies but like you know just from the smaller towns they know how to enjoy themselves because you got to find a way to enjoy yourself in the small town like I noticed Northeastern Chinese people D people they're always known to be very fun jovial uh jokesters because love telling stories yeah in the cold Winters and this is it's part of the theory is that in the cold Winters they're all locked up and they had to entertain M themselves so they drink more they laugh more they're a little bit more loose with it sichan people also known to be a little bit more loose laughter um that could be but do you think it's because those regions have a lot of influence for example dbe Andrew a lot of manchurians and then suchan is actually known for having a lot of non-han people too hey hey hey whatever Han blood is it's not pure so I think that that is a small factor but I can't say it's all of it cuz then then then it's a genetic thing and then we can't blame any Chinese people but I'm blame in Chinese people I think with the Advent of epigenetics like your first three to five years matter a lot because I have uh some like uh nephews that are like half asian and half non-asian and they act so different from the kids at the dessert shop you know at the [ __ ] thing you know like at the at the mango dessert shop like when I see the full Asian kids sometimes they just be like sitting there like not even moving and I'm almost like yo is this kid even here like you know the half asian nephews they're like ah like running running around like crazy like on the tables and stuff and that that's a mixture of potentially like genetics but it's also the epigenetics which are constantly shifting in the first couple years of their life and then they get frozen after year five or whatever I I have uh a suggestion and this is a small one I think a lot of people could do it I think Chinese businesses needed to do a better job of just having everybody greet everybody kind of in a way that Japanese people do and smile and I think that is already going to change the experience I think people will even make more money because of course I have to tie it back to the bottom line guys I think you'll make more money the friendlier you are and I think Chinese people to be honest do not value that as much and I think it's time that we start a movement or we start discussing like hey it's not going to cost you any more money to be friendlier it really doesn't it does not cost the the finances of the restaurant will not go through the in fact it help but do you think it's a wrap for the older generation cuz how can you tell that to somebody who's stuck in the old ways yeah well I think that if the old ways means valuing money and that will drive them more returning customers and I think that's the top way to convince them I also think like when you see oh cash only and stuff like that right you can tell that they really care about um what's called like colti like take every penny they can get but actually in marketing and in the US like you would actually get more customers overall if you're not using those like archaic ways and like trying to smash every penny from people right you're talking about the scarcity mindset versus a growth Centric mindset yes yes yeah like if they actually wanted to be rich you know then there are other ways to do it and better ways than they're doing right now oh so you're just saying they need to update their firmware or update their operating system and how they view the world because it's just not like that anymore it's true that Les I understand the cash business we all understand tax tax why people do that but but I get what you're saying it would actually open up the market if they even had that option to use the car yes exactly it's like in this marketing book I'm reading where like if you try and save money here in little ways the the gains you can get if you focus on other things are way more than the Amy that is so American I operate with the Chinese mindset and we just this is how I've always done business and our business does okay like this for decades so I'm just going to continue doing it well if you don't want to be rich then you know just keep doing what you're doing yeah I think you know what it's a really funny comparison and obviously if you guys don't know wayy has a really hyperv viral millions and millions of hits Channel about how how to get into good schools and get straight A's right I almost I think it's almost like if you for example you know how like Asian parents they tell the kids to study stem and they you know uh then they started getting lower personality scores and it's almost like are the Asian parents going to adjust to raise the kids more holistically to fit the standards of what they want the kid to achieve sort of just like having being more jovial at work will just lead to getting more money yeah yeah exactly cuz like we are in America's playground right we can't play by our rules from like China right so if you you're an agent parent you want to get to Harvard like why don't you learn the Playbook that people want you to play by right right do you think there were more it's almost like yeah I saw Jeremy Lynn he went into Harvard by being a number one California state player of the year for basketball maybe I will just raise my kid to be that so at least he can go to Harvard oron like Xavian Lee if Chinese parents could actually just turn that on and be like oh okay well I guess we have to train all of our kids to be tennis stars golf stars and basketball stars all right let's do it like if they really could that'd be incredible but you know world doesn't work like that I guess let's talk about specifics I think we all agree that Chinese people a small thing and this is a small it's not going to change the world just smile more be more more friendly because I get the Chinese people we don't always focus on this you know like you know the whole like we could do a whole guing a little bit more or or Neal more you well I mean would you say that the Taiwanese got that from the Japanese kind of kind of and am I telling people to be more Taiwanese I'm not saying that but just you know I mean I think I think it's tough when it comes from a Vibes perspective because a lot of Chinese people are still coming out of like uh the cultural revolution get it get right and it's a little bit like Eastern Europeans if you Google on qu or Reddit why do Eastern Europeans always have a depressed or like glum look on their face you can get 50 results well what are some of the things that people said in the comments All right so a lot of people that were outside of the Eastern European world like Serbian or whatever they noticed this right like even joic has that face it seems like Luca is more jovial though but like y yic for sure got the got the glum goon face right and then it's like they were saying that in Eastern European countries some people were defending themselves saying that if you are very joyous and effusive in your facial expression people think you have mental illness oh God okay but why that's a really funny explanation but why the mental illness is it because like the only mentally ill people that they know were like yeah bipolar and schizophrenic what is up guys I'm not going to lie I didn't I didn't read up all the articles in the whole threat about it I just pop it up right here you know just you guys go look it up well well maybe it's because they're like why are you smiling there's nothing to smile about here so if you smiling you must not understand what world you live in yeah I mean I I do think is the the repressed emotions too for due to a governmental system due to a tough history some of it there was a lot of poverty that's why have you ever seen those videos of Chinese people just dancing to like ridiculous music in China and they're like in The Villages and just their kids sometimes it's overdub with different music but like you've seen these videos no the nka that's what I'm talking about or it's just this old lady that's just throwing her body almost like a Crump but she's just like or getting caught by the Holy Spirit but she's feeling it for to this weird EDM music and I'm like that's Chinese people releasing oxytocin and dopamine and I like to see it she's trying to feel something now it looks goofy to the Western eye because I'm like what dance is that what song is this something song No the mini music yeah some song that has like three different layers of drums and that's it it's pretty whack but I'm like n this person's feeling something so I like to see it so that's why I repost those videos sometimes yeah anyways um I guess uh what are some Comon like I think we all face it when we're like trying to be proud Chinese people but like people are like when they'll accuse you if you don't want to talk bad about China and this happens to us on our Channel just because we don't bash China because we're more understanding that it's a complex situation and China does a lot of good and bad it's a huge country it's 3.5 times the size of America if you times America's issues by 3 100% it would look like a pretty crazy country too and I'm like but then we get accused of being like CCP plants they're like oh you guys are what you love China what you love the government you love the CCP just because you won't talk trash about China you know what I mean David like we this sometimes pops up yeah it does pop up in the comments section I guess like you know for me I that's just not what the Channel's about you know like if people I I definitely like I disagree with a lot of decisions that Chinese parents make guess what China has run by Chinese parents you know what I mean like they're strict and they make a lot of like really interesting like lopsided reads and that's just like the culture in a snapshot and it's still run by what 70 80 60 year old Chinese people so it's like I mean I grew up in a Chinese Church I saw a lot of behavior I mean that the the parents would get results but I wouldn't raise my kids like that and I wouldn't run China that way either I guess for you what have you seen amongst uh gen Z people because like you know China what what's it like being Chinese for Gen Z yeah so personally I haven't seen that much negative sentiment um like toward me but I think that with most of my friends they they don't see it much either I think that we tend to surround ourselves with more openminded people right where like most of the hateful comments are just Rands on the internet that we probably wouldn't associate ourselves with anyway right so I think like you know as a you know tip is like surround yourself with more open-minded people where we can separate like who we are as the individual from our culture because it's not like we stand for it but we don't have to say we don't stand for it either right you mean you put yourself in a friend group where you don't have to constantly address this right if you are you so you're just saying if you're in a friend group and you're a Chinese kid and your friends are constantly like hammering on you about this then maybe you're not these people are they're going to be you can try to teach them I guess but it's going to be tough right so maybe find a different friend group yeah you can't change them um so it's like it's it's not worth your energy right how do you separate the culture and the people from the government in your eyes like how do you say it I know that that sounds logical obviously but like how do you do it yeah so I think it comes from when I visit China I have a lot of fun there uh some people are really nice and they do smile especially service workers and so when I see that kindness from person to person because at the end of the day where it's humans the human connection is what makes us happy then that's where I can separate that from the government because the government might be suppressing those people you're interacting with right so um that's kind of how I view it I would say that um yeah like do you think that this person who left this post like is living on the Internet or do you think that she you know what I mean like a lot of people are saying like oh where does this person live the location matters a lot how much time are you spending online how many like that's a good point you what I mean like are you in a big city and then do you have the flexibility to get shift your group of friends or your your immediate like radius of people yeah yeah I do understand it's hard to shift your group of friends if you're stuck in that one school cuz I was in a very white school but yeah I I think that controversial stuff gets viral it gets pushed out more on Tik Tok or whatever so if you don't want your mind to continually be you know consuming this kind of stuff and changing your mindset about yourself then just try and avoid it completely you know easier said than done cuz people like Tik Tok but yeah I would say this it it's like kind of crazy to say this but it there's this song called uh you can Hate Me Now by Nas and uh Puff Daddy and you know Puff Daddy's canceled now or whatever but like I remember I always like think of that song sort of because I'm just like hey man I don't know Bring it on I guess I guess but I'm just like hey what can I do about it I can't stop you like how you feel about it and you know some of the Grievances are legitimate that people have I guess so whatever I guess it's tough I think not everybody can stand that tall mhm and so I guess is that just going to be their situation like they basically is it kind of one of those situations like you're going to have to suck it up like you got to grow some thick skin and you got to suck it up a little bit because this is this is what it is tell I tell you this if we was back in a Celestial body right Shang D God Heaven whatever you want to call it limbo you know different religions call this yeah thing floating in the sky a different place right if you want to have a easy identity and you can pick your race don't pick being Chinese like you know what I mean that makes it better yeah I'm saying don't pick it if we were up in the celestial body right picking like an identity that you want to feel com don't pick being Chinese and being super proud of it in America in 2024 okay but so but here's the thing we can't do that right that's not how life works so I guess what I'm saying is this is a situation that is at hand so like you got to you got to rock with it like it's it's not going to be for the we yeah I feel like when you get put in situation like that this girl is it's hard to dig yourself out of the hole I feel like that for me I fortunately be been in this place where I'm actually proud that like if I could actually choose I'm like you know being Chinese American is really cool because I get to experience so many more things than if I were just um you know white for example right and so I think appreciating the fact that life is full of experiences where I can get more of those that makes me proud to have come from this heritage I think one thing that's that's a good point and one thing that I think is overlooked is like you can be proud of being Chinese not just stuff that comes from China but you can be proud of a lot of like Chinese diaspora you know the Chinese diaspora is very vast a lot of Chinese from Malaysia Michelle yo is technically Chinese bloodwise right um and I'm like yeah like you can still take pride in that and that still counts as Chinese now that might have been a time there her family got there before communism took over or whatever you want to say it is but communism also doesn't Define Chinese culture either right and I don't think it should and people's current image of what communism is shouldn't either so I think like that's another thing is like there is actually a lot you can take in um but it is going to be the job on you to deflect things and like like this negativity is coming in you either turn off the comment section you don't read it or you don't go on that page or you just don't let it emotionally affect you exactly there's so much excess information out there that you have to be selective and protect your energy and who you are you know and uh like it's like junk food and like healthy food right if you're taking more junk food like you're going to be less healthy you're going to think worse about yourself so you know um go watch the brother's son after I watched that I felt so empowered I was like dang like I'm so glad I understand this and I feel represented you know 626 represent and uh you know Chinese food if you eat Chinese food right like I mean that's not to do with the CCP right yeah and you and you don't owe anybody who's like crazy screaming on the street you don't owe them a response I will say this one time a couple years ago more right after Co there was like this Homeless looking dude or troubled looking dude who was like yelling in East Village about like Chinese people like man Chinese people man they looking at me crazy why Chinese people always there he's was just talking to himself and uh and I told him I was like hey man like it's not like I'm Chinese but like you know it's not that's just our culture like we just not like we're I don't I don't it's not like I get treated way differently than you and I was trying to and it's funny because I couldn't like hit them back one for one and say nah Chinese people aren't like that what I did was you see what he was coming from I see what he was coming from and and in my opinion mentally you're it's so hard to convince somebody 180 degrees the other way so you meet him at 90 degrees but you tell them with empathy and be like I know what you're feeling but that's the way it is for everybody so calm down yeah and he did calm down after that but you see like how I didn't try to beat him and be like no what are you talking about Chinese people are jolly and smiling look man cuz then he wouldn't even get that message like he wouldn't process exctly yeah if you are defensive people are going to back down there people are going to be stronger about their opinions yeah you can't you can't argue with them um and I would say like you know people who generalize like you're just an Asian walking the street like oh like you're so bad China right well I think that as a society we should be moving away from like putting an individual as part of the whole right cuz that's like you know um for other races too I don't think they really like being put in that box and being like Oh your people did this or blah blah blah right right right right I mean I would say this man Bruce Lee always had this quote you know uh don't pray for an easy life pray for the strength to endure a difficult one I love that yeah and that's like the most Chinese quote right like true co like just get or whatever like that but like literally I mean I think you could get go get Tang Hulu in Midtown you know they got it at Machi Machi in kown now there is some cute Chinese stuff it's on the rise some uh K stuff K stuff and it's from the gns man I'm telling you it's true it is true V man hey nobody hates Tang Hulu you talking about we're talking about the candy fruit on a stick no one hates it yeah how can you hate that for a long time Chinese Society was fundamentally rural so I believe that Ru I don't so you're saying David it's going back to the soul the roots of it the rule of it man listen guys we're just pontificating here I don't know the answer like we said you know earlier to your point like there's no this is not like studying for the SATs or like one of your videos that you can like just like follow these steps and it'll happen right yeah yeah that'd be like insensitive to say like oh just ignore it you know and like everything will be solved it's like it's hard well I I see it though I see it a lot and you know I think that these posts are worth making and I I'll make another hundred of these videos because it's if it's on people's minds it's going viral every time it's posted on Reddit clearly people don't haven't come to a conclusion yeah I want more people to watch our videos cuz we're talking about this thing yeah but all right everybody we'll wrap it up there let us know in the comments down below hit that like button check out Way's videos um and yeah thank you so much and again let us know what you think about this topic because this is just an ongoing discussion but we're going to keep discussing it because it keeps needing to to be discussed so all right everybody we're the hot hot boys and until next time we out peace