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The most painful social truth of the adult world is not that sincerity can change feelings. Today's life is a chain of lessons and the truth that we have to accept to live together. It sounds cruel, but it's not cruel, it's not life. On the social network, there is a question asked, what is the cruel truth in life? There is an answer, most of the efforts of adults are useless in social communication. That's the truth, when in contact with people, we always want to have sincerity to give and receive. But in fact, most of the time, your efforts are useless. Because the more modern life is, the more cruel reality it is. Below are 3 things you need to remember to live well in this practical world. 1. Not all sincerity can change feelings. In life, we will meet enough people, but not everyone of them is worthy of a deep friendship. There is a story that when I was still in school, I had a very close friend, who shared everything with me. Whenever you have a problem, I am always willing to help. My friend asked me to borrow money, I didn't hesitate to lend it to him. After a long time, I suddenly found out that my friend had a problem. He only paid a small amount of the amount he had borrowed, then continued to borrow more money, but did not intend to pay it all. After that, I just knew this friend, all day playing cards and gambling, but did not work. At that time, I realized that that friend only used me as a money-collecting tool. After discovering this, Van Bang directly gave the other friend a sum of money to buy a relationship between the two of them, and the Germans completely became friends with him. The story proves that not all sincerity in life can change feelings. Not all efforts can be replaced. Sometimes in life, even if you put in a lot of effort, you may not receive it, even if it's just a little attention, a little response. Sometimes you think that if you try really hard, you will get a response, but then over time, you realize that there are things that don't just have to try and try. Perhaps the real thing to do is to try your best to feel light in your heart, not to wait for others to be moved and respond. When a person reaches a certain age, you don't have to put a lot of effort into lying and you don't have to keep unworthy relationships reluctantly. 2. Most social interactions are ineffective. Sometimes we think that the more friends, the better. In fact, if you do that, most of your social interactions are ineffective. A netizen once shared his experience like this. When I'm not working, I'll find friends to hang out and drink. Over time, I got to know more and more people. Whenever I wanted to go out, I found someone to go with me. At that time, in my opinion, I had a lot of friends and a wide network of relationships. Everyone to me are good brothers and sisters. Until one time, when I had an accident and needed help, my friends often came back and ran away. After that, I realized that the fun in the past was just a waste of time and effort. Normal people fill the void with excitement and excellent people achieve success by quality connections. Poor knowledge is more and more intertwined with ineffective social interactions. Really smart and mature people know how to use time to do good things. The better you are, the more you know how to cut off unnecessary social interactions and spend time on meaningful things. Because they understand that too much communication is often wasted. It will only waste time and waste energy without gaining anything. Friends are not suitable for each other, like food. Seeing them exist, but useless to yourself. So, this relationship will only occupy space and ruin your world. 3. When you have few, you have the most friends. In life, nothing is free, no one will give you anything. The relationship between people is a mutual relationship, you help them, they help you. If you are not talented, you are not outstanding, getting to know anyone is nothing. There is a story that 10 years ago, I had a chance to meet a person who was influential. Both are very suitable, they can talk to each other all day without getting bored. I thought that later I could ask for that person's phone number quickly. Not long after, when I had a problem to solve, I thought it was time to use this golden relationship. He found that person's phone number and texted me for help. Waiting for a long time, I still did not see the echo signal, Vien Minh suddenly called. As a reward for my effort to call, finally, that person also picked up the phone, told me the correct year from then to hang up the phone, not my business. Disappointment and despair spread all over Vien Minh. Surely many of us have fallen into this situation. The golden relationship, how long have I lost my job, when I need it, I don't see it. When there is a problem, we think we are very lucky when we get to know someone who can help us, then we realize that most of the relationships we have do not bring any benefits to us. We keep the numbers of many people on the phone, but when we need it, all we get back are just cold, long sounds at the other end of the line. Why is that? Because in this society, you are not a talented person who can bring a certain value to the other person. It sounds really cruel, but let's ask, how many people are willing to lend a hand to help the needy, the people who are usually silent, have a need, but slowly press the number to ask for help? If you are not talented enough, the relationship you have may never create value. How to have a useful relationship, of course not try to run in the same way as a person, but let people find it for themselves. So, when you haven't trained yourself enough, please don't waste too much of your precious time to connect with others. Instead, take the time to read more books, improve your soft skills, as well as your hard skills a little more. Then you don't have to find the world, the world will find its way to you. You must know this, there are many ways to get to know a person, but only the level and sincerity are enough to decide if that person is on your side or not. Your value determines the value of your relationship. The greater your value, the more others like to help you. So, instead of spending time expanding your network of relationships, take the time to increase your value. Investing in yourself is the most valuable investment. Instead of wasting time, investing in social relationships so that they are eventually rejected, invest in yourself so that you become really valuable. Like the quote that I really like in the book How Expensive Is Your Friend by the author Van Tinh as follows, Don't chase a horse, use the time to chase it to grow grass. Wait for the next spring, maybe there will be a fat horse for us to choose. Don't try to get close to a person, use that time to improve your ability. When the time comes, you will have a lot of friends accompanying you. Therefore, improving your ability is always better than relying on others. When the time comes, you will have a phoenix visiting you. If the flower blooms, you will have a butterfly coming to you.