Nghệ thuật KHEN - CHÊ trong giáo dục và đào tạo | Phạm Ngọc Anh - Mr Why

A very important skill, I tell you, this is the worst skill of modern people, that is the art of complimenting. These are the basic rules of psychology. There was a time when Ms. Hồ Điệp taught with me in a program called Parents of the Year. She told me that she once complimented a boy who had just come out of the toilet. Then he came back and he fixed his shoes very quickly. She observed that. She stopped and said, Oh, my boy, why are you so great today? The other day, you were so weak. Why are you so strong today? She looked at his shoes and said, If only two or three days later, a week ago, you had left your shoes very clean, she would have been very emotional. But at the right time, she did a good thing and nailed it. That is the art of complimenting. The second skill is to try to present this skill to as many people as possible. Keep it safe. There is only one thing to do, which is to put on your shoes quickly. But if you are too hasty, you will become a bad person. Do you understand? That is the art of complimenting. It doesn't matter what you say. If you say something, say it slowly. If you make a mistake, don't jump into it. If you make a mistake, you have to correct it. Everyone has their own ideas. Everyone has their own preferences. It is best to try to have one opinion. Avoid crowding. Many people say, Today, there are enough family members. I told you that. Right? When they do something good, they say, Why did you do that? It is a good thing. But it has to go through personality. Right? And then they think that everything is good. Very good. I have a daughter. I have a son. He goes to bed at 10 o'clock. When he wakes up, he says to his mother, I forgot. I have three math problems. I haven't done it yet. So he does math. His mother goes crazy. She thinks it's about 11 o'clock. She goes to bed. What are you doing? I mean, he doesn't do anything. He gets up and steps on the stairs. Oh my God. I'm outside. I'm listening. The girl just finished her homework. His mother is sitting next to him. Hurry up. Then he cried and wrote a song. Normally, it's all like this. At that time, I didn't dare to jump in. I jumped in. Because that was a mistake of hers. Right? Four days later, while she was relaxing, sitting on the sofa, I said to her, I asked her, I used to go to school. Have you ever forgotten your homework? What? Why do you ask me? I used to go to school. How? I don't know. At that time, I dared to ask her, is it necessary to kiss a little girl? At that time, I went to bed at night. I asked her, if I hadn't forgotten my homework, what should I do? She pushed me to forget it. I said, it's okay. It's okay. What should I do? She pushed me to get up. No. Oh my God. I knew it right away. I didn't want to hit her. Right? If there was anything, I would hit her. At that time, I jumped in. I tried my best. Right? And I had to tell her, what you did was not okay. In the world, it is very fragile. You can make a mistake. You have to point out that or you have to tear it off. You can't just throw it away. Do we notice that our parents often throw things away? Yes. Every mistake is thrown away. You don't know how to study. You don't know how to do anything. While I know how to do everything. There are a lot of mistakes. If you pay attention to this carefully, the staff next to you won't feel bad. The children next to you won't feel bad. Right? So my children like me to teach them. I don't have enough time to teach them everything. I remember I sent a child to her. I taught her how to swim. She learned for 3 months. She swam 5 times. The child didn't swim. She didn't swim. I said, I want to teach my children. She learned for 3 months. I don't understand why. I listened to her. I was observing her. I saw a big one. It was swimming around me. I made a little mistake. I threw it away. I thought, Oh my God. How can you just leave my child at home? She has never been bullied or scolded. She has never done anything like this. She doesn't want me to teach her. I was so angry. I went to her directly. I went to her. She swam. She swam well. I never criticized her. I swam. I taught her. I taught her the 3-step strategy. Do you understand? What else do you need? This is the most important skill.