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Old age comes back to the motherland, should be buried or cremated for the children. Ladies and gentlemen, birth, aging, death is inevitable. Today, for families with old people about to leave, this makes the children not only painful every time they think about it, but also for the elderly themselves. What makes them confused about the life of their children, when they are no longer with them, is the issue of funeral. When they are gone, should they be buried or cremated? It is a very big controversy of almost all of us when grandparents, parents, relatives pass away. People think that cremation is the best way, the best for both the dead and the living. They firmly affirm that burial, cremation is the right way because it is a tradition that has been passed down for thousands of years, showing understanding to grandparents, parents. Let's go find the right answer through the messages from the following stories. First, before my mother told me to bury the dead, why do I miss my grandparents so much? My parents are both state officials, so they think very carefully about everything. Especially in the case of the dead and cremation, they are all very important and do their job very carefully. Maybe that's why since I was a child, we were instructed by our parents to clean up the altar and make offerings to the ancestors, to the Buddha, in a meticulous way. Because they are knowledgeable, my parents' ideas are very civilized. Although they support the simple cremation, without any formalities, they do not support the fact that after the dead, some families pay for the cremation. On the contrary, they always say that Vietnamese people mostly choose cremation and then bury it properly to make offerings or visit the grave. Paying for the cremation of the dead is a very clean and civilized idea. But there are also many bad things. Not only that, before the dead, my parents told their children that after the cremation, they had to bury the dead and never pay for the cremation to go to the sea or river. My brothers wanted to know the reason why, so they said, don't worry, we will pay for the cremation for you. But why don't you like to pay for the sea or river? My mother explained, many people said that after the dead, but only a part of it. As for the spirit, they are still knowledgeable. My mother chose the cremation and buried it properly to let the children go to the grave every year. She also knew and remembered who her parents were. Then she continued, if you pay for the cremation to go to the sea or river, then there is nothing left for the children to know how their grandparents were. Hearing my mother's advice and explanation, my brothers also think it's very true. Because in fact, death is everything. How to live is important. Even if he followed her to pay for the cremation, the rest of the cremation is the last sign of the dead for my brothers and their children to remember them. I know many people say that building a grave for the dead is too fancy, it's not worth it. There are people who say that a high and wide grave is really not necessary, just remember in your mind. But just look at it. Every year on the day of the parents' funeral, the children go back to their old house, visit the grave together, then make a big fuss about it, thinking about how warm their loved ones will be. Or on New Year's Day, when the children go to the grave, they also know that their ancestors have passed away, so we will always feel close to them, as if their parents were following them. And if you pay for the cremation to go to the sea or river, then there is nothing left for the next life, even if the ashes have returned to the ashes. Since ancient times, human beings have dealt with corpses when they have died, there are many different forms. There are ethnic groups that water the ashes, which is to throw the ashes into the river, or throw it into the pond for fish to eat. There are places where they are called corpses, like ancient Egyptian graves. Until now, the corpses can still be kept, very well preserved. Some other ethnic groups will hang the dead body on a tree, to let it dry, then it will melt away by itself, that is, it does not disperse. In addition, there is another way to deal with it, which is to hang it, throw it for birds to eat, or tie it up for animals to eat. And for the traditional ethnic groups of our ethnic group, they often put people who have died in the coffin, or in the coffin, and then buried them in the ground, which is called hanging. Every 3 to 5 years, the graves are renovated once. Every New Year's Eve or New Year's Eve, they will all come over to miss their loved ones, to show their sincerity. That's the custom, that's the tradition in most areas of our country. But in the face of the current situation, as well as the actual situation of the land of the East, the fact that the cremation is gradually replacing the burial ground, is undeniable. On the contrary to this family, there is a family that tells the story of their desire to forgive, hoping to be cremated, so that their children can rest in peace. Second, I told my son, later on, when my parents die, I will bury them all. I won't bury anything else. Standing on the edge of Bai Tha Ma, observing the team completing the renovations for my mother's grave, he told his son, later on, when my parents die, I will bury them all. I won't bury anything else. My great-grandmother gave birth to him 10 years ago. A few years ago, he started to think about the renovation, that is, to make a grave for her. An extremely important job for the brothers and sons, in his hometown, to make a grave, or in many places it is also called sang cat, is a huge job in most rural areas, after the dead have been buried for about 4-5 years. In his hometown, Sang, people believe that only when the graves of the ancestors are finished, the children are considered to have completed their mission. The dead lie under the golden spring, only then can they rest in peace. Over the years, when his wife was getting old, every year, he tried to find a good winter day to take care of his mother's work. Not only preparing the money, which was about 30-40 million VND, he was also worried about how to do everything in order, from arranging guests, building a new grave, to whether the grave was clean when it was picked up or not. Finally, on November 1st, Sang and his family also had a hard time when they had to pay for his mother's grave. The total cost of the grave, burial, and rent was up to 30 million VND, which was not a small amount compared to living in the countryside. But the most painful thing for him was not money, but time, effort, which his wife and children had to put aside to take care of one thing which, according to him, was the modern civilization, so he could leave. Supporting the new river, he was eager to do everything for his mother. The couple bought enough things for 1-2 weeks, but they were still worried. On the 9th, they woke up all night and waited for the morning. The next morning, a neighbor with his mother's grave was also buried. But when the coffin was opened, the whole house collapsed. It had been buried for nearly 10 years, but the body was still intact. So his children had to rent a car to take him to the cemetery right in the morning. It was so miserable. Mr. Tuyen, a member of his team, with decades of experience, said that he could guess if the grave was clean when he dug it. If it wasn't, it would have a bad smell and make our job very difficult. Not a few bodies were intact after many years. I don't understand why. In the worst case, the family had to be cremated. We had seen a lot of cases like that. Cemetery services are still very expensive in many rural areas. Each day, we get 4-5 million VND. 3 people do it in 3 hours. One day, we went to 3-4 cemeteries from midnight to noon. Mr. Sang said that in his hometown, very few people choose to cremate. Some people chose to do it because the land was still there. Some people chose to do it because the land was still there. Young people now have food and education. They will bring civilization back and replace the old cemeteries. To be honest, my mother died 10 years ago. But when she saw the body of her son being cremated, I still felt sad. The dead are gone. I love them. We take care of each other. Is it worth it? He asked. According to Buddhism, after a person dies, he will be reborn. The body of the dead will be given back to the dead. Cremation is not a cruel way but many people still think because at that time, the soul is no longer in the body. The body is gone with the fire. It doesn't show the son being disrespectful to the dead. The Buddha's point of view is very clear. The Buddha's point of view is very clear. The Buddha's point of view is a loving being. There are two parts, the body and the soul. According to the world, the soul and the body. The soul is the important part. The body is the land, the water. It's dead. Only ashes are left. The Buddha called the body the four bodies. In the body, the body belongs to the body. The third soul is the two bodies and the soul. When the first soul values about Zen immortalization, cut it off in the similar way so that it is used. The other four qualities will remain in the next life and there will be a new life. The Buddha's position is not clear about the losing and neglecting issues. For what we want understand is that the body is a mixture of matter and when we die, we first hold on to the elements hell, water, wind, fire. It's just a symbol of life. As a loved one, we should respect it. However, we shouldn't think about these symbols. We shouldn't live forever with their past. Or think that we have nothing to do with the dead. Remember, after we die, it doesn't matter if we steal or steal. What matters is how we live now. After we die, we can steal or steal. We can steal or steal. If we can, we can write it down. We can choose to steal or steal. The root of the problem is not whether we steal or steal well. Because after we die, the past is gone. So stealing or stealing doesn't matter anymore. What matters is how we live now. After we die, we can steal or steal. We can write it down. After we die, we can choose to steal or steal. We can steal or steal.