Joe Rogan's Ultimate Advice Will Leave You Speechless — Best Life Advice.

That most men live lives of quiet desperation. It's one of my favorite quotes ever because it's true You just you're just in this world where you just can't wait to just run away but I think one of the reasons why these people have this deep-seated anger and resentment is there's a bunch of people out there that have These lives that are deeply unsatisfying because I think there are so many people that are working All day long doing something that is deeply unsatisfying and and almost painful Yeah, soul killing soul killing they're stuck in traffic all day and then they're stuck in a cubicle after that They they they they relish the time to take a ---- in the bathroom and look at their phone I mean they literally do that. That's a highlight of someone's day. They get in traffic on the way home They get home after that. They're watching television and they're If people have a regular day job If you could just find some one thing that you do as a passion project and just keep building on it Just keep at keep watering it keep adding fertilizer keep giving it attention Keep giving it focus and you can escape you can escape and you can be self-serving. You could be okay. You're gonna be okay For making furniture feels good If you make furniture you make furniture for a living and you you feel a great satisfaction out of that and you sell that furniture Look man If you can do that, you could you could cut those corners perfectly and sand everything down nice and stain it and then it's done And you get this satisfied and you sell it to someone and that pays your bills That is infinitely more satisfying than being stuck in some ******* cubicle working for someone that you don't want to work for Having to have these stupid ******* office meetings talking to people in human resources sitting down with your supervisor where they Evaluate your job performance and you know, you're not really, you know, you really need to be enthusiastic About this company. This company is your future this kind of like you're like Kill me now, you know, there's a lot of people out there that would way rather do something else and I Hope they understand that they can and people That are trapped in bad situations One of the problems is you feel like this is your future you feel like you're fucked and you can't get out of that There's no hope. There's no light at the end of the tunnel There's no rainbow and if you feel like that that alone can be incredibly defining and limiting But if you can look at if you look at yourself objectively and say, okay, I kind of am fucked here I'm in credit card debt. I'm working in a shitty job I I don't like what i'm doing, but I have some ideas I need to feed those ******* ideas and I need to feed them and water them and I need to Set aside a certain amount of time every day to just try to make those things happen. You can do that Everyone has a different personality. They have different Different interests different Different things that they would be really satisfied pursuing that's not encouraged What's encouraged is go find a job what's encouraged is go find some place that you can shove yourself into go find a square hole that you can stick your round peg and just Jam it in there and shave down the top and the bottom So you slide in with all this extra space on the sides and feel like for the rest of your life Because you need a job because you're in debt because you have credit cards because you have student loans because That's what everybody does and so you do it too. That's what's wrong You have an apartment you have to pay for you have a car you leased you have a wife that you have to feed You have a child you have to raise you have to You have your mortgage you have your this you have your that and that's where it all comes from Well, the opportunity takes place usually when you're young and you don't have any responsibility That's when you have your options, well your options are severely limited the more you gather Responsibilities like if I had to As a 51 year old father of three Married man pays taxes has a house and a mortgage and a business and all that jazz If I had to quit everything now and struggle the way I struggled as a stand-up comedian, it would never work But the only way I could be this person now is if I took that chance when I was 21 When I was dead broke and had my cars repossessed and all that stuff That's the only way you you ever get where you want to go. You have to you have to take a path It's dangerous And most people want to take the safe path and the safe path leaves you stuck in quiet desperation Almost every time it's hell It's hell But can people just make that change I mean I believe they have to plan it out The way you can change is you have to put aside enough money to give yourself a window And then you have to have a plan and you have to spend all your waking hours outside of whatever job you do Planning your escape and you have to come to the realization very clearly that you fucked up and you got yourself stuck so whatever you're doing you have to Do it like your life depends on it and whether it is you're trying to be an author and you're gonna you're gonna if you're gonna Try to be an author and you're working eight hours a day plus commuting plus family responsibilities or whatever else you have Whatever time that you have you have to attack like you're trying to save the world. You're trying to save your life You don't want to drown that one and a half hours a day that you have to write Goddamn you better be caffeinated and motivated. You got to go you got to get after it and you got to have discipline That's most people don't have those things. Most people don't understand what it's like to to really go for something And to know that the consequences of not doing that are horrific I think here's an important thing too failure is important. It is important I think failure teaches you things that you don't learn from success. I think failure gives you an opportunity for self-examination It also gives you a feeling that is very uncomfortable And that very uncomfortable feeling helps you grow that when you feel like you screw something up Like when i've had bad podcasts my podcast has always gotten better afterwards when i've had bad stand-up sets I've always gotten better after that because those bad sets motivate you they get they give you a perspective like hey Here's some clear examples of where you've yeah what not to do Yeah, don't and don't look at these failures as like proof that you suck Look at them as opportunities for growth look at them as opportunities to be motivated to do better You have to make mistakes. You've been there you feel it you understand what it is And then you have that time to adjust that's why Losing in life is so important whether it's getting dumped getting fired losing a game Loss those feelings where things didn't work out your way That's important because it lets you know This is the bad feeling that comes when it goes wrong and you improve and then it makes the good feelings of victory All the better and I mean that you know in a relative sense like even getting good at something forget about victory like Making a terrible book that gets rejected by every publisher and then writing a really good one and people accepting like I got better Yes, like that's how that's interesting. Yeah, those feelings of failure are really critical for your motivation You see an old person walking down the street you go. Oh that person's always been an old person No, that was a baby. That was a baby that became a 90 year old man There's a there's a progression that you're not witness to you Don't see it and that that that takes place in everything. It takes place in authors It takes place in comedians and musicians There is a starting point and then with time and focus and as long as you re-evaluate and reassess and constantly Objectively look at what you're doing and then pursue it with passion and focus you get better at things Don't be scared of failure. I think failure is awesome for you And that's one of the reasons why like I said, I like doing things that I suck at I just feel like people need inspiration and they need guidelines and if as long as you can just Start moving just get action like just getting just movement So for a few months I was staying with my grandmother who was on death's door for She lived like a year or so after I moved out And she wasn't really aware of me anymore She was not quite there anymore and my grandfather who was struggling to take care of her and just seemed sad And I remember thinking man this life Is temporary like this experience that i'm experiencing right now as a 24 year old man Like this is not going to last like this is the prime of my youth and I it like hardened my ideas To like you got to get going This is going to happen to you too It's going to happen to all of us and you you you think that you're this static thing Like you stay in the same exact state. It's not true It's an illusion all those people that you see that are old people that are walking down the street with their backs hunched over That you're going to reach that age someday It's going to happen and if you don't pay attention and it all goes wrong You could wind up looking like that guy you could wind up thinking and behaving like that guy It is a slow ebbing of the life force of the body that's going to it's going to drain you so got Get your fun out Get your life out. Just live you got to live It's coming and you got to remember because if you don't remember you're going to sleep in If you don't remember you're not going to get anything done If you don't remember you're not going to you're not going to have the the same focus and determination that you would have With the understanding this is a temporary experience Over time i've learned that these people you just you're not going to fix them I used to want to fix them when I was young. I used to want to go Hey, man, I see what you're doing. Like dude, don't do that anymore Listen, just try just just do this and and stop doing that and start doing this And if you just work towards this you could be successful and then a week later the guy's doing the same ---- You're like, okay i'm wasting a significant amount of my energy on someone who doesn't want to waste any of their energy on themselves and so Managing the the community and the tribe that you're in making sure that you're a good member of that tribe That you're doing your part when you're around happy Inspirational people that are successful. It makes you feel better And you get inspired and if you act on that inspiration your life will be more fulfilled And it's not just inspirational in terms of financial success But in terms of doing difficult things whether it's running a hundred miles It doesn't pay you a god thing other than the the the wealth Of the knowledge that you can push yourself to such an extreme or anything else whether it's someone who becomes really good at playing chess or someone who's really good at martial arts or Or whatever it is. There's there's a great feeling in these overcoming these difficult things I think a lot of what happiness is is a management issue and decisions that you're making right now Like you could be in a state of mind right now But you can make some decisions to adjust that and over the next couple hours. You'll get to a much better place It's good to treat other people the way you would like to be treated yourself It's like a golden rule and there's a reason for it and that reason is that we're connected in some strange way that we don't Totally understand unless you are good to other people around you unless you're kind and friendly and warm and loving You're not gonna ******* enjoy this life. You're just not you're gonna be problems everywhere you go You're gonna have problems everywhere you go You got to figure out a way to enjoy this ******* life Just it's not because of anybody that may or may not have ever existed It's because that's how you fit in better in the world That's how you stay positive and it doesn't have to be some ---- that was written five thousand years ago on Animal skins that doesn't have to be the golden rule because it's old, you know, that's dumb We need to figure out like now today What what is you know the best way to live your life What is that, you know, there's got to be ways you can be putting forward the most positive energy I mean we know objectively what's causing pollution. We know objectively what's causing birth defects and you know And we're taking in too much chemicals and not enough vitamins. We know objectively all this stuff We know how to organize our world and yet we don't do it We know how to organize our health and yet very few people do it We know all these things the right path to like being like a happy healthy person Is to do all the ---- that we already know you're supposed to do Take care of your body. Take care of your health. Take care of your mind your stress meditate be kind to people We all know that I mean you ask anybody they know how to get by and to be The most evolved version of you that you can be. I mean, it's not like a magical checklist If you talk to people about it, you said okay, you got a person you want to improve them What are the things you're going to do to them? Okay, well if I was a life coach The first thing I would say is this guy's got to get on a diet that makes him healthy I don't mean a diet just to lose weight. I mean just healthy foods in your body many many vegetables Start working out your body and get a better sense of like how this machine feels when it's moving. It's flowing better There's less tension in it Your mind feels like relaxed and you enjoy every single moment of the day better step one Everybody knows that step right? What's step two be cool to people be nice to as many people as you can smile at as many people as you can Have them smile back at you tip Well when you go to restaurants just do the most you can be as nice as you can And just still manage to not have people walk all over you just get through this life as nice as you can Do what you want to do with your life, right? Don't don't go be doing something You don't enjoy don't do something That's don't get locked into you know A car that you can't afford and doing something crazy because you need the money don't don't do that Do what you want to do do what the **** is it that you really want to do? Because if someone else is doing it you can do it, you know I mean everybody makes their own path through this world But a lot of people don't follow the path that they really ******* feel pulled to you know There's for whatever reason they got negative programming, you know When they were kids someone told them they couldn't do it or told them to take the shortcut or or take the uh, the short route That's a sad thing man when you talk to dudes especially like talented dudes and they don't follow up with what they want to do You know, it sounds like really hippie But true happiness comes from making other people happy true happiness comes from being around happy people and enjoying each other's company That's really hard for people to wrap their heads around because they always associate true happiness No true happiness is with like titles, you know, or you know numbers or you know objects that you possess You're you're you're not concerned about being nice to people you're not concerned about having a positive impact on people You're more concerned with making ones and zeros, but it really truly is how the human race interacts with each other You you really have to be nice to other people to be happy You have to if you're not you won't be happy and you know we all make mistakes and we all find ourselves in positions of frustration and We've all acted out and yelled at our dog and maybe we shouldn't have and you know, there's all these pressures in this life but I think it's really important to recognize what what those truly are and to understand that at the end of it we can alleviate a lot of how we Deal with in this life if we really treated people The way we would treat them as if they were ourselves living another life And this includes the way you communicate with people the friendships that you have and making sure your friends know that you love them They drive you they change your opinions. They challenge you they show compassion you open up to each other I mean, this is everything in this life is community One of the things that's true is how people how much people enjoy being around you? That makes your life more enjoyable and people don't think of it that way. They oftentimes think I want to be the one that's enjoying life like especially selfish people If people enjoy being around you you'll enjoy everything more The solo effort of going through life a narcissistic perspective One of the major problems with that is there's no one to share it with because you're all out for yourself Even if you get there you're going to be filled with sadness and despair. It's not what you want You want us to be happy, right? Well, I know you think that you have to be all about yourself to be happy But in fact that is a way to ensure unhappiness regardless of success You can have a hundred million dollar house and a private jet if you don't have love you don't have anything You're missing the the key ingredient, you know, it's like having cement but not having water you have nothing it's just hard for people to understand that there's Techniques and there's strategies and there's philosophies that can help you Steer through this world with a happier life And that that that is a big part of it A big part of is embracing love and friendship and camaraderie and being nice to people It's hard for some people because they're not even nice to themselves What i'm saying is the way you are with your family and your friends and your loved ones and the people you communicate with Get better at that because we need Each other love is the most important thing and that sounds so cliche, but without love it's all useless Because this is a really important one because people have this idea that somehow i'm 30 years old I shouldn't be doing this anymore. I'm 50 years old. I should have learned by now That's all bull throw that away toss that ---- aside You like these ideas of numbers that people have in their head that by a certain age you should Stop you are alive And if you are alive, and if you are thinking all those numbers that you keep attaching Well, you know when einstein was 30 he'd shut the **** up Stop doing that that that is a waste of your time and stop saying to yourself. I should be better by now. I'm such a total non-helping thought What you need to think of is life You're living you're alive right now And if you've made a mistake and you're still continuing to learn and grow that's all just data You are not your past. You're you you're you right now Like the past you did you might have done some things you wish you hadn't done Don't dwell on that you learn from it. That's fine. But don't dwell on it Just keep moving keep moving, you know, use it use it as fuel say never again You know, I I get I get what I did wrong, but don't think that you're that person that made those mistakes You're the person who's learned, you know, and to have that attitude is a really important thing and to not say Why am I doing this now? I could have been doing this my whole life. Well, you you weren't so Is that gonna help? Yeah, you know, you gotta just gotta not think like that You just gotta be happier doing it now if I look back on anything i've ever done mistakes i've ever made. Um, pasts that I You know something that I put out that I didn't quite think man, maybe I just waited three months before I released that or maybe I should Have you know re-edited that blog post a couple more times before I put it online or those things drive me crazy The shitty things that i've done have driven me crazy but yelling at someone I didn't have to yell at them for whatever but The the most important thing is always for all people to recognize that you're not who you were a year ago You're not who you were five years ago. You're not who you were last week You're who you are now and this is the only ---- you have control over So you got to regulate how much you dwell on regrets of the past You really got to be careful because it's good to have a little because my regrets whether it's things of Professional nature or the very few regrets friendship wise, which is one thing that makes me very happy But you know, there's there's life is strange. There's a lot going on there's a lot of factors happening in life, but for sure Who I am now wouldn't have ever happened if I didn't **** up if I didn't make those mistakes I wouldn't have understand the importance of friendship and kindness and if I Hadn't been cruel at some point in my life or someone hadn't been cruel to me I wouldn't understand the beauty of love I would have to I wouldn't understand the full range of it because I hadn't felt the sting If nobody ever punches you in the face, you don't really appreciate safety Because a lot of people don't even understand what safety is you put all we're safe. We're safe, but you are so not safe It's way better to drive your car straight after you almost lost control on a turn And then you get back straight like whoa I'm, not saying that you should go sideways around corners But what I am saying is that there's a ******* end in the game to this world, man And you gotta fuel yourself with the ****-ups and most people get stuck in these patterns because they define themselves as a ****-up Or they define themselves as a person who doesn't follow through on their ideas or a person who doesn't pursue Their real interests and loves you define yourself by that. Well, you know, I guess when I start things and I quit No, you don't. No, you have started things and you quit and it gives you a horrible sense of regret That's made you define yourself by that. You don't have to do that. You don't have to do that We all do things that we're not happy that we did but that doesn't mean that's you now I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. I think people that that hurt people's feelings Even if you justify it, you know You did something and I think that thing that fucks with your head and it devalues you in your own eyes You're not a hero in your own eyes. You're not you're not someone who you respect, you know You're doing what you got to do to get by but ultimately you're not respecting yourself And I think we all have a certain amount of appreciation and respect for hero figures You know Like we all look at like the guy who never lies and always does the right thing and ******* helps Everybody out and that's the john wayne character, you know That's that's the ultimate hero and when you look at your own life and you don't stack up You're a thief you stole money from your wife's purse and you know, you you you you don't want to smoke cigarettes But you can have to you can't deal with the stress you smoke you devalue yourself You slowly start devaluing yourself you when you look at yourself You realize that if you were judging yourself, you would judge yourself unfavorably if you're stealing if you're hurting people 100 so no matter who you you can't pretend you're the the the hero of your story You can't you have to be the hero of your own story and you can do that You can be the hero of your own story that woke up today You can be the hero of your own story that at 40 years of age stopped got out of bed and said I'm not doing this anymore. I'm doing this 100. I am gonna figure this out and i'm gonna do it Only by my instincts and only by my morals and my ideals and my mind and i'm gonna be dead honest with myself Because i'm realizing this is not gonna last forever and i'm gonna be the nicest human being to everyone I meet possibly and i'm gonna get myself in shape and i'm gonna eat healthy and i'm gonna do this because this is This is me now. I decide that this is me and people have to realize that you are not your past You are not all the times you fucked up. You are not all the times you couldn't get it up You are not all the times you were drunk and you know, and you you threw up in someone's car That's not you But you you are the person who's learned from a great deal of experiences And if you learn correctly, and if you process them correctly, you'll have a happier life Look, there's a lot of ways you could look at bad events you could say a bad event is just who you are and you just have bad events and you're a ******* loser and Life hates you and god hates you and look at that happening to mike again. I can't ******* believe it There's a lot of guys who go through life like that And you know they can say that they seek comfort in lowering the standards that they expect out of things So when things go bad and they say look I ******* knew it for them It alleviates some concern about what's going to happen in the future because the future is always dog ---- It's hard to be comfortable with yourself. So it's very hard to be comfortable with other people that's why I always stress with people like You've got to accept yourself for what you've done wrong do your best And also find some difficult ---- to do because that gets away a lot of the anxiety that you carry around in your body a lot of like Difficult things make regular life less difficult and that sounds so simplistic The strain of making yourself do those things. It's very valuable It's not just valuable like exercise and fitness and martial arts and running and whatever you're doing. That's really difficult It's not just valuable in terms of like health and the way you look but it's also valuable for your mind Maybe even more so because regular life can be confusing and little things that go wrong and little problems that arise are Exacerbated by the fact that you're not accustomed to dealing with hardship. So creating your own book Is extremely valuable for you also not not just accepting the nuanced perspectives of other people but also being able to navigate through this world with Some sort of an understanding of just how complex it all is and how weird it all is And and not be overly thrown off by every little dip in the road and pothole that you encounter Everybody's got these stupid barriers They put in their own head You got to resist those goddamn things because they don't do you any good and they certainly define the potential for your future in A negative way. It's not self-serving and it's not even real You know, you you put this artificial ceiling on the potential for what you're doing if you hit a wall Okay, that just means you need to regroup and rethink It doesn't mean that wall's there especially when it comes to something like social media or like a podcast Something where you're just you're putting out a piece of art. You're putting out something that you've created There's no wall as far as like how many people are going to enjoy it or how far it's going to go It's just it is what it is And if people don't like it make it better if they like it less fix that Figure out a way to do it You can do that and this this idea that there's no way to get past the starting block today is just ludicrous It's crazy and it's just this this poor thinking Something's gotta say that because if you people don't hear it, they're gonna get a bad job. They're gonna they're gonna waste their ******* life Folks, it ain't about that. It ain't about the guy who tries buying a clean car when you're dirty. It's not his fault It's you should figure out how to be clean You should figure out how to do a job that doesn't involve you walking in mud all day And that's possible because somebody else has done it. It doesn't mean I don't buy the idea that You know the society the way it is right now It has to be this way Someone's always going to have to work at Burger King someone's always going to have to I don't buy that I think people are pretty ******* flexible if you look at the broad Spectrum of humans and human behavior from different cultures all over the world It's pretty obvious to me that there's there's a lot of different ways that people can act We don't have to have fast food workers We don't we don't have to have people who work jobs. We don't have to we just need to figure out how to restructure society So everybody somehow or another plays a part has something to contribute has something to share I mean, that's what a real society is supposed to be like i've given you some coconuts You give me some fish, you know, we make a deal and you do it back and forth and left and right And when there's nothing to contribute then you start looking the president needs to give us jobs. We need jobs So instead of something to contribute you just find something to do with your time And then it becomes about doing that more than it becomes about finding something to contribute. So society gets wrapped around Becoming a part of a machine society instead of becoming a bunch of individuals that are expressing themselves in unique ways and everybody sort of borrows and shares and Sells this and you sell that and we all sort of figure out how we can contribute in a society We got sidetracked and diverted Into these boxes that they call companies and corporations and we got stuck into these containers They go cubicles or offices and we got forced into this system so our time instead of it being invested in making pottery or or Fixing cars or doing something where you have a passion or you have some sort of a connection to instead of that You've sold your life to sit in a box and work for a machine An uncaring machine that demands productivity doesn't understand you. It doesn't want to understand you It has a bunch of very strict things in order to keep the humor at a minimum in the office Just in case one of you kids says some stupid sex jokes to get some sued and they have to give somebody a million dollars So get it together and this is your life now No natural behavior everybody's wearing clothes They don't want to wear everybody's showing up and doing something. They don't want to do they have no connection to that's the problem With our society and then what's the reward for all this stuff go home get a big tv go home You're going to get a shiny belt buckle. You're going to get a nice purse You're going to wear shoes that you couldn't afford last week You're going to get that dream car and every week we're chasing down this new object and every week we're trying to Fill this hole in this this this sad shadow of a life that we've been left with after work That you work eight to whatever to hours a day plus commuting and then you're like this And that's your life. That's your real life All that other stuff is not your life anymore All that other stuff is work and most of us have committed to that I know you've been there before and i've been there before and We we understand that it's a trap because we got out of it But for the people that are in it a lot of times they don't even understand it's a trap They just think it's a good job. They think they got dental i'm doing really good. I got my own parking spot It's got my name on it You're just a piece of a heartless shitty machine that makes money I think everyone looks forward to this utopian time where whatever Motivates them drives them freaks them out right now can be set aside The work is done and you can just sort of like watch the sun set over the pond And the the problem is this utopian utopian vision of the future that we have Is probably a carrot that's on a stick that will just never reach And we keep working hard to improve our society our life and ourselves and our families and our relationships Hoping that one day we'll achieve this ultimate peace that will never come When you're alone with your thoughts you get an idea of what your thoughts actually are If you live your life just acting constantly on the momentum of other people's expectations Of you wanting to be liked by these other people you can run into a trap And you you you set up a life that you didn't really want you're you're you're trapped in this situation where you have a mortgage You've got credit card bills. You got student loans You have to pay you have a bunch of going on you have to continue to feed And all that and especially if you have a family and you have to feed them. Oh my goodness Then you're fully locked in you can't take any chances whatsoever and Oftentimes people make the mistake of getting stuck And it is just a tactical mistake just like it would be a mistake if you got stuck on a video game Just like it would be a mistake if you followed a map incorrectly and you got stuck in the woods Your life is certainly some sort of a journey It's certainly some sort of a journey and we have to all be aware that when we're making journeys We're not going to always make the right steps and sometimes you have to back up and try again And if you're in a position where you can't back up and try again You've trapped yourself and the system will Set out honey pots for people to get trapped in the system will set out The ideas of retirement the ideas of the golden years providing you benefits providing you a healthy work environment Why well because they want people to work for them. They don't want people to realize their own dreams and escape but those Paying the ass you got to hire more people and train them and They want to set it up so that you stick around stick around some sort of an unsatisfying world It's up to you to see that video game problem to see that issue as it comes up on the map No, I think this is a right turn to see all the problems that could potentially lay in front of you and calculate your Your future and then also look around all the people that didn't do it and look at the misery that they're in and learn That you don't want to be like them and then look at the people that are have kind of Taken chances and navigated their way. What did they do differently to you? What what what objectivity do they have that maybe you lack what insight into their own mistakes? Are they willing to delve into that? You're not that you step back and go, you know, I don't just don't I just don't want to look at myself that closely But the person who's able to look at themselves the closest is going to get the more rational results I completely agree with you and we're going to get attacked for this By people who are unhappy with their choices in life, and that's a fact, you know There's there's a bunch of people that will say yeah Well, I have a family so you know It's a great idea for you to just go out there and go crazy You have people to support You need to listen stop saying that stop saying any of those things every single person who has ever done anything worthwhile or exceptional or difficult or Extraordinary anyone whether it's great artists or authors or mathematicians Or whatever the **** it is Everyone encounters difficulties. There is no easy road. It does not exist. It is impossible Everyone has issues if you have time to pursue a hobby if you have time to do anything in your life You can better yourself and here's one way you never better yourself When you come up with excuses for why other people are successful and you're not that ---- is ******* dangerous when you give yourself an escape Yeah, well, that's easy for you to say, you know, you do this you do Trust me Everybody has a hard road. We all go through hard times. We all go through depression we all do go through doubt and Moments in your life where it's really ******* difficult and you're trying to figure out what the your path is gonna be It's hard as ---- But that is what makes you a person and those difficult moments are what build your character You're making 15 an hour and you have children to feed you have a dream you have a risk You have a thing to do and you're scared and a lot of people would advise you to not take any risks in that situation and That might be good advice because everybody's got a unique situation. Everybody's situation is totally completely unique and It's it's hard always but my advice is always You have to think of your life in terms of First of all, it's a temporary situation You have a finite amount of time and it can be a good time or it can suck and if it sucks You have to fight to change it as if your life depends on it because it really does It really does the quality of your life depends on it The the the quality of the experience depends on it and you've got yourself into a bad situation Like if you went down the wrong road, okay If you're going if you have a destination to go to and you're supposed to go left But you **** up and you go right and you go right for like a couple of miles and you realize like oh my god I went right. What do you do? Do you keep going, right? Do you but but do you do you stop get out of the car and cry? No, you realize like oh my god It's going to take me hours and hours and hours to go back and turn around and turn back Yeah, that's what you got to do you got to get better the same way you got sick you you've been living your life and if you've been living your life with a with a bad diet or with a bad mindset or You've been living like blaming other people for your failures You've got to recognize that those things are not serving you Well, and you have to back up and you have to go left you have to go the right way You have to figure out a way to get on the right path and for a lot of people that kind of change and that kind of alteration of these Comfort patterns that people fall into is extremely difficult to do but you've got to do it. You've got to do it It's the only way to do it wondering why other people success Or wondering why other people are successful is the refuge of losers. It's a loser mentality. It's a loser occupation It's a loser practice because you're wondering why other people are successful like who gives a you can say you think it sucks but to spend time Wondering why someone is successful and hating on someone being successful. It doesn't do any good it's like what is that old expression that jealousy is It's a poison that does the opposite of its intended Oh, it doesn't affect the other person at all, but it poisons yourself. It wastes your your energy and time And everybody's different. They're everybody's similar, but everybody's different And Your attitude has a giant effect not just on your life, but on other people's lives around you That's the other thing about it those. I can't catch a break guys. Get them the **** away from me I can't I can't be around those guys. I don't want to hear that I don't want to hear that. I don't buy it because everybody has bad breaks I've had a ton of bad breaks, but you know what I did I stayed up and I thought through it and I and I figured out what the **** I did wrong and then I went back It's like I fucked up everything i've ever done a hundred times There's no way there's no other way to do it and i've had a bunch of shitty breaks Everybody has but you got to realize when you have those shitty breaks what that is. It's an opportunity for you To reassess reboot get better figure out another way find another way through It's just little challenges and the people that look at those challenges go. Why do I always have these challenges? They're cancer. Those people are dangerous to be around. They will rob you of your enthusiasm. They don't give you any fuel They're the opposite of fuel like the fuel people the people that are kicking ass The people that are out there just ******* hustling always always getting things done You go and get after you don't make any excuses and those kind of guys are fuel But those I can't catch a break guys. They're the opposite of fuel. They're just pissing on your fire. They're no fun The people that surround them are all idiots because only idiots want to be around. I can't catch a break guys Yeah, only the dummies stick around after a while Even if they're your good friend, you got to be like bro. You got to ******* stop You got to stop with all this. I can't catch a break bullshit all the time You're complaining you could be instead hustling. You could be instead chasing your dream You could be instead figuring out what you're doing wrong trying to prove certain aspects of your life getting your ---- together reading a book Meditating something ******* something but this I can't catch a break ---- It's not helping anybody and it pushes everybody away from you But some people they get caught in that pattern and it might be their parents It might be how they were raised somebody might have told them they were useless real early on it stuck And they just they always they never feel like they get enough reassurance They never feel like they get enough motivation and they feel like other people get more they look at all these other people How come he gets that how come she gets this? How come he's got that going on and that all that's bad for you, too. That's no good for you There's no one human being where everyone's going to listen There's no there's no one positive message. Hey, we should just love each other Hey We should value community and friendship and we should take care of our bodies and be healthy that could say anything Where everyone's going to listen? Yeah, but that is the most significant factor The most significant factor is doing things that are positive both for your health and for your friendships and for your community And also like choosing a path in life that is actually rewarding and satisfying and that's hard It's a very difficult thing to do and this idea that you know, everybody starts at the same starting block is ------- total work And that is something that people who are doing well Like to stick in the face of people that really were dealt a really bad hand of cards the problem with human psychology Is that we do tend to concentrate on negative things? It's not healthy for anybody and the more time you can concentrate on yourself and people you care about And friendships and love and community and your actual interests real interests you should have hobbies you have things you're curious about The more you take care of your own bullshit The less you're going to worry about other people's bullshit and the more you can enjoy things that you're actually interested in as opposed to spending time Cultivating negativity, which is so intoxicating It's so easy for people to get caught up in this artificial drama this thing that we all have everyone has not just me mean everybody that does anything has And it's like this voice in your head that wants you to do nothing Your mind has to seek Discomfort it has to seek these difficult tasks You have to enjoy it and you have to figure out a way to make your mind enjoy those things Some people it comes easy and some people it doesn't some people it takes a long time I always tell people the best thing you could ever do is force yourself to a schedule just write it down Showing up when you don't want to show up forcing yourself to do things. You don't want to but then reaping the rewards Discipline equals freedom and it's true because he's able to force himself to do that every single time. There's no Excuses, there's no breaks. There's no Days off it doesn't happen. So because of that you're like you're not scared You know that you can keep doing it, you know that you can continue to perform There's a lot of people that are scared of their ability to do something that's difficult they're scared of whether or not they Like you see someone who's doing something that's really tough to do and you go, man I don't know if I could do that. I don't know if I could force myself to be disciplined I don't know if I could force myself to take that kind of action Well, if you do force yourself to take that kind of action, you don't have that question anymore that question I don't know if I can do it. Well, you're doing it Most people their associations are to avoid anything that's uncomfortable but it's so illogical because when you look at comfort and you look at success and progress and then eventual the feelings of accomplishment And of getting past certain hurdles and in terms of like how you feel about life A lot of those are connected to discomfort like discomfort is your friend It really is like discomfort not being happy and content with certain situations in life or certain feelings in life They're massive motivators and they're they're amazing at facilitating change Instinct is to avoid those and just sit on the couch and watch some ******* reality show about dudes who make moonshine Well when I was 21 and I was first starting to do comedy That's when I was really devouring as much of it as possible because I was trying to figure out Like how to not be so lazy how to be motivated how to get done and how to how to like find The correct path and think about things correctly I would follow all this personal power like you have workshops that you would do like notebooks and ---- Fill out and things to talk about and things to concentrate on like if you did do it, it would help you But really what it's all about is just getting together and moving just go do something just doing it Just doing it makes you do more like do more hard makes you do more hard Understanding that you want it bad. So you're willing to put in the work and do things you don't want to do It's what makes you have that Confidence that you know how to push through and that the mentality that i'm the type of dude to get done Like i'm gonna show i'm not gonna waste my day just sitting around a hotel room. No, i'm gonna go to work That's what I feel like is missing from a lot of people that are getting into motivational this motivational that they ain't doing You gotta go do something that's the number one thing right it's ******* action take action Well, I think the one thing that discipline definitely does help you with is it it helps you get things done And when you get things done when you you actually do things you you you you have more success If you have more success sometimes a big part of success is just not being lazy and just doing it Just get it's like 90 of it is just showing up get there and start working like you're not gonna feel perfect every day If I felt if I only worked out when I felt good, I'd be a faff Because there's a lot of days. I don't want to do it I've it's pretty much the same with everybody that that actually gets good at something that you you get There's got to be those days you push through And they're they're probably going to be more numerous than the days you don't and so the benefit of discipline in my eyes has always been That through discipline I get things done. I always tell my I would say that i'm like The most lazy disciplined person I know because I don't want to do it Yeah, but I always do you know and that you have to sit down you have to overcome resistance and that the pro Goes to work. It doesn't matter if you're sick. It doesn't matter if you have kids It doesn't matter what you you're a pro and you go to work and that and that just it puts it in your head That this is what I do. This is what and you have pride in that Yeah, and you you're doing the work and out of that work Gems blossom little things but you might have a day where you just write nothing but dog So what show up again tomorrow and tomorrow that dog flower will emerge You never know and that's the only way to really develop your potential 100 in anything One of the worst decisions a man can make I can only speak for men obviously is to be comfortable I don't think you should try to be comfortable I think what you should try to do is try to earn comfort And if you if you can get a day off where you you you've worked hard and you've accomplished goals that day off will be so sweet Through difficult tasks you learn an incredible amount about yourself and through the fire of competition you get to understand Motivation you get to understand the resistance that you have inside your mind to doing hard work You get to understand the rewards of discipline like you don't truly appreciate relaxation unless you've worked hard And that is the yin and the yang of life understanding that that you can achieve those goals It's going to be difficult you're going to push through the difficulty and then you're going to understand what difficulty truly is and how much of it is just mental how much of it is just in your mind this adversity to to Difficult task or to struggle, you know, and a lot of people have that they're scared. They're scared of Complications they're scared of failure failure is a big one that people are afraid of but failure is one of the most important things You could ever have I think failure teaches you things that you don't learn from success I think failure gives you an opportunity for self-examination It also gives you a feeling that is very uncomfortable and that very uncomfortable feeling helps you grow And don't look at these failures as like proof that you suck Look at them as opportunities for growth look at them as opportunities to be motivated to do better We have been fed this line of horseshit that you're supposed to seek comfort and I don't think you are I think you're supposed to seek lessons and you're supposed to seek difficult tasks and And and and accomplishments and through those things and through doing things that are hard to do Even if it's just a ******* 90 minute hot yoga class What I tell people is the best advice that I've ever heard It's the best advice I ever came up with Is it live your life like you're the hero in your movie and right now is when the movie starts and your life is a hit Back disaster like every ******* arnold schwarzenegger move where he wakes up and makes a blender full of pizza and ice cream And that's what you know What I mean those guys were like on the brink they put the gun in their mouth and they put it down to see a photo of their daughter Pretend that's you pretend you are right now You're in the part of the movie that starts and it shows you as a ******* loser And just decide not to be a loser anymore live your life Like there's a documentary crew following you around and you are analyzing your own behavior do what you would want to do So that your kids one day would look back at it and see that documentary and look on it with pride like wow My dad was a bad ************. He really did what he had to do. Wow. My mom really got her together I'd love a success story, but even more than a success story I like a dude who fucks his life up and then gets it back together again story Those are my favorite stories and the way to do that. You gotta write it down You gotta think that you are the hero in your own ******* movie And then you get to sit down and you've got to write it down write down what you need to do I mean that nike slogan just do it. It's one of the greatest slogans of all time So true get out there and go ******* do something Just just go and then in the middle of doing it. It'll become easy Even if it's not even if it's not easy, even if it's hard It's easier than not doing it and wishing that you had done it. So you obviously can do it Can you do it tomorrow? We did it today or can you do it tomorrow? Just do it You